Kukho abantu abagcinayo ubudlelwane bezothando ixesha elide ngaphandle kokucacisa ukuba bakuphi kubudlelwane. Ngexesha elithile kubudlelwane bakho, elinye lamalungu lisenokuzibuza okanye lifune ukwazi ukuba elinye iqela liyakuthanda kodwa alikuxeleli.
Kunzima ukuqonda nakwisiqalo sobudlelwane, ukuba umntu unawe kuphela ngesondo, okanye umtsalane okanye kuba kukho enye into ekhokelela kuthando. Isenokuba nzima xa loo mntu akafuni ubudlelwane obuzinzileyo kwaye ke ihlala ihlala ingumlo wemfazwe.
Wazi njani ukuba umntu uyakuthanda kodwa akakuxeleli
Iinkcukacha zibaluleke kakhulu ukuze ukwazi ukunika ukuthembeka kubudlelwane. Omnye umntu usenokungacaciswa kakhulu kwaye angabonisi ukuziva into ngokwendalo. Into enokucaciswa kukuba umntu okuthandayo soze enze into embi enokuthi ichaphazele ukuthembeka komzimba okanye kwengqondo zomntu omthandayo.
Phakathi kweenkcukacha ezinokuthi zicaciswe kukuba loo mntu usoloko ekumamela. Ukusuka kwiminithi zero ukuza kuthi ga ngoku uhlala ekujongile, yeemvakalelo zakho, zezinto ezikungqongileyo, zoloyiko lwakho kunye namaxhala. Inzala ihlala iqhubeka kwaye imamela iinkcukacha zokugqibela.
Zithembe, uqaphele izicwangciso kunye nezindululo zakho. Uyakuthanda ukuxelela iimfihlelo zakhe, iimvakalelo kunye neengxaki eziza ngenxa yokusondela okukhulu afuna ukuba kunye nawe. Uxabisa kakhulu naluphi na uluvo oluthiwe ufuna ukumamela, nokuba akavumi, kwaye ngawo wonke umzuzu uyakuthanda ukuva ukuba ucinga ntoni okanye ucinga ntoni.
Uyakuthanda ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nawe, kuba uyalixabisa. Ayingombuzo wesini, kodwa ufuna ukwabelana nawe ngezihlandlo kunye neenkcukacha. Kungenxa yoko le nto naliphi na ixesha olifunayo uya kuba lapho ngenkxaso efanelekileyo kwaye uphakamise igxalaba lakho.
Nangona inokubonakala ngathi ayinangqondo amehlo athengisa olu hlobo lweemeko. Amehlo akhe aya kulungiswa, uya kukujonga naxa engakhangeleki ngathi kwaye ngaphezulu kwako konke baya kubuyela kwimbonakalo eqaqambileyo noncumo, Uhlobo lomntu othandweni.
Indlela akuphatha ngayo yahluke kwaphela kubo bonke abanye abantu. Uyakuqaphela ukuba ithoni yelizwi yahlukile, unendlela eyahlukileyo yokuthetha kwaye namagama awasebenzisayo ahlukile. Enye inqaku lokugcina engqondweni yile xa uqaphela ukuba uyakukhumbula, ukuba ngalo lonke ixesha nibonana, uyavuya kakhulu ngentlanganiso. Oku kuyafana nokuba uyakuthanda kwaye ucinga ngawe xa engakuboni.
Ukunyaniseka yenye indlela yokubonisa indlela oziva ngayo. Ukuba kunyanzelekile ukuba uzokuzithethelela, nokuba kungafuneka aphikise nabani na, uya kwenza njalo. Yindlela yakhe yokubonisa ukuba uyakukhusela kwaye ugcina olo nxibelelwano kuyo yonke imigaqo.
Ungaxela njani ukuba ubudlelwane buyinto engathandekiyo
Kule meko, uninzi lweenkcukacha ezichazwe apha ngasentla zinokufumaneka kwi amathemba alula eza aze ahambe. Nangona kunjalo, kunokwenzeka ukuba zizimbo zomzimba ezincinci ezibonisa ukuba uyakuthanda, kodwa ngokubanzi akafuni nto inkulu nawe.
Andinamdla okanye andinamdla ukuba uhlala unobudlelwane obungenangqondo, Ngamanye amaxesha uneempawu ezifana nezo zichaziweyo kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ukwenza ukuba uqonde ngokuchasene. Uyakuphepha ukuchukumisa izihloko zobuqu, ke akaqhelekanga kwinto ngobomi bakhe, kusapho lwakho okanye kubahlobo.
Ayicebisi ukwenza izicwangciso zexesha elizayo, okanye ezandisiweyo. Kwaye akenzi nzame zokulungiselela izinto ezahlukeneyo ezinokonwabisa nina nobabini. Uya kuziva ukuba akafuni ukuxuba ubomi bakhe bemihla ngemihla kunye nawe awufuni nto idibanayo yento eyenzayo ngobomi bakho.
Ukwazi njani ukuba ufuna nje ukulala nawe
Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo esi sesinye isizathu sokuba kubekho amathandabuzo, ukuba ufuna enye into, okanye ufuna ukulala nawe. Kukho imiqondiso ecace gca enokubeka uhlobo lolwalamano kwisilumkiso ngaphandle kokufikelela nakuphi na ukuphela kwaye akukho nto iyenye ngaphandle kokuba iyintoni, ngaphandle kokufikelela kwisibophelelo.
Uninzi lweentlanganiso zakho phantse uhlala usabelana ngesondo kwaye phantse kuzo zonke iincoko zakho, kokubini ngokwasemzimbeni kunye nemiyalezo, bahlala bethetha ngokuthetha malunga neenkanuko okanye ezesondo.
Xa nihlangana ukuba kunye phantse njalo izincomo zomzimba wakho okanye inkangeleko ziyaqhubeka. Kwaye kwiimeko ezininzi, lelinye iqela elihlala lithanda ukubonisa ukuba unjani umzimba. Akayi kuyeka ukuzama ukukoyisa kwaye akuse ebhedini.
Incoko ziyakhathala Akanomdla wokuthetha ngobomi bakhe, kwaye akanamdla kwindlela oluhambe ngayo usuku lwakho, unjani, okanye ukubuza malunga nomcimbi wakho. Ngokwesiqhelo akanamdla kubomi bakho, okanye yonke into enxulumene nobuhlobo bakho okanye ubomi bakho bangaphambili.
Ukuba unomdla wokwazi ngakumbi malunga nobudlelwane ungabonisana "njani ukugcina ubudlelwane obude"Okanye"ukuba ubuze ntoni ngomhla wokuqala”. Ukuba uthanda ezesondo kunye neziqholo kunye neqabane lakho unokufumana "eyona midlalo ikhuthazayo ukuba uyonwabele".