Ayilotyala lokuqala okanye elokugqibela, apho abantu babini Bazama ukugcina ubudlelwane kude. Uthando luye lwavela ngokungaguquguqukiyo kwaye luthandeka kwaye lwenze abantu ababini ungafuni ukuyeka ukugcina ubudlelwane obusondeleyo, ngonamathiselo olufanayo kwaye ngaphandle kokutyeshela ukulahlwa. Lixesha lokuba uthathe ibhalansi kwaye ujonge ukuba ingaba ubudlelwane bungaqhutywa ngale ndlela.
Akukho mithetho kwindalo iphela yokuba nobuchule bokumilisela uthotho lwemilinganiselo enokwenzeka ngokuchanekileyo. Umntu ngamnye ufumana ubuntu obahlukileyo, Ngale ndlela asinakuqala ukuthi izinto ziyasebenza kwaye kufuneka basebenze ngokungqongqo ngendlela enye. Kufuneka vavanya indlela yakho yokuphila ecaleni kwaloo mntu, ukuba ufuna ubudlelwane obukude kufuneka busebenze.
Ngaba ubudlelwane bomgama omde buyasebenza?
Ngokunyaniseka yokwenene, ubudlelwane umgama omde ngekhe ibe nesiphelo esihle. Ukuba ubudlelwane buhlanganisiwe kwaye unesibophelelo esibi kakhulu kunye nokucinga ukuba ungoyena mntu ulungileyo, Iindlela kunye neendlela ziya kuhlala zifunwa ukuze uthando luphele luza kunye kwaye luqine.
Kukho iindlela zokukhulisa olo lwalamano, njengoko zinjalo itekhnoloji enkulu yanamhlanje, ezinokusinceda sigcine ubuhlobo kunye namaqabane amaninzi. Baza kusivumela ukuba sinxibelelane nangaliphi na ixesha losuku, ngemiyalezo, ngevidiyo kunye nokuthumela iifoto, into engacingekiyo iminyaka eliqela.
Ngokophando olupapashwe yiDyunivesithi yaseHong Kong (China) kunye naseCornell (eUSA) kwagqitywa kwelokuba kugcinwe ubudlelwane obude inokuba nesiqhamo ngakumbi kwaye iphumelele, Ukusukela ukuba sinjalo ukunceda ukuphucula ukuthanda kunye nomnqweno ukuhlakulela "ukulungelelaniswa rhoqo kwaloo mntu."
Le datha inokubonelela ngedatha yethemba elungileyo, kodwa ayingabo bonke abantu abanokugcina loo ngqondo ngendlela engathathi cala, kuba abanako ukuwulinganisa loo mnqweno kwaye bangabinakho ukuwenza ngoko nangoko.
Musa ukuthabatheka lusizi
Uthathe isigqibo sokuyamkela imeko kwaye ubudlelwane bakho kufuneka bube njalo qala ngobuhlobo ngentlonipho enkulu. Zama ukususa ingcinga engagungqiyo yaloo mntu, kuba ngoku Lixesha lokuba ubenakho konke ukuzonwabisa kunye namava ongenakukwazi ukuyenza ngaphambili ngenxa yexesha olichithe neqabane lakho.
Yiyo loo nto gcina umonde rhoqo ejongene nemeko enjalo kwaye afune ukwazi ukugcina indlela yesiqhelo Sesona sixhobo silungileyo sokuziqhelanisa nale nyani.
Kuya kufuneka ugcine ikhonkco
Kuya kufuneka ulixabise eli bhondi likugcinayo, uncamathiselo, ulonwabo kunye nendlela eyakhayo eyenza ukuba ubudlelwane buxabiswe. Ukuba uziva ukhululekile, uhlonitshwa kwaye uxabisiwe nguloo mntu, Akukho sidingo sokuyijonga kwakhona. Ukuba ukuhlangana kwakhona kulindeleke kwixesha elifutshane, eliphakathi okanye elide, unokuhlala phi kunye, onokuxabiseka. Into ebalulekileyo Inkuthazo elindelekileyo malunga nezinye izibini, mhla nibonana.
Iingxaki ezinokubakho
Iingcinga zokungabi nathemba zinokuvela, ukuba ekuhambeni kwexesha sicinga ngobudlelwane obungenakho ukugcinwa kwikamva. Ezi zimvo ziyavela ngenxa yokungabikho komdla ukuba ndingalahla enye kwezi zimbini, ukuzibophelela okukhulu, kwaye ngokucacileyo omnye wabantu ababini uyayiqaphela.
Ukungabikho kwexesha lokusondelana, i-caresses kunye nokwenza sizive silungile nomnye umntu, ziinyani zokuba ekuhambeni kwexesha zinobunzima, ukuze zingatyetyiswa zizinto esizifunayo. Nathi uphoxeka kwaye unxunguphele ukuba ulindelo lwethu kuloo mntu aluzalisekanga.
Ngaphandle kwentlungu eqhubekayo yokungabi nalo mntu, ukuba uthando lomelele, kukho izibini ezenza umzamo wokunxibelelana kwaye bazive amaxesha abo okusondelelana.
Yamkela ubudlelwane kwaye ufune elona cebo lilungileyo lokugcina
Ukuba olu tshintsho lubangelwe yinto engalindelekanga kuya kufuneka ulwamkele utshintsho. Awungekhe wenze izinto ezifanayo njengangaphambili, ke kuya kufuneka wenze njalo khangela iimodeli ezintsha kunye nezinye iindlela zokwenza ukuba zisebenze.
Kuya kufuneka uthethe ngokucacileyo nangokuchanekileyo Ngawo onke amaxesha onokudibana nawo ngomlomo. Yinto entle kakhulu Thetha ngokunyaniseka kwaye uthethe komnye umntu into ahamba kuyo, inkxalabo yakhe, uncamathiselo, izicwangciso zakhe zekamva, iintsuku zakhe ezibuhlungu ...
Kungoko kunjalo, into yokuba amaqhina axabisekile kwaye omeleziwe, yenza isiphumo sokusondelelana ngakumbi senziwe, kwaye yomeleza yonke into ekumanyanisayo, njengokucinezeleka, ukuba nomtsalane kunye nonxibelelwano olumanyanisayo, ukuthembana, ukuthembeka ...
Sukuziva usindwa, zilinganise ukuba uzifumana kolunye uhlobo lobudlelwane ngaphandle kwemigama. Amaxesha amaninzi ubudlelwane obunyamezelwayo, obufuna ukuba nibonane yonke imihla kunye nesiqhelo, musani nasiphi na esinye isiseko ngaphandle kokudikwa. Ukuba sikhupha icala elifanelekileyo lobudlelwane obude sinokuqinisa uthando kunye namandla ezesondo.