Ukungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo inokuba yimeko enobungozi ngakumbi kunokungathembeki ngokwasemzimbeni ngokwawo, apho iqabane lakho liye lanxibelelana ngokwasemzimbeni nomnye umntu. Kubantu abaninzi kukwaphula isivumelwano phakathi kwezibini ukusukela indawo eyabelweyo ekwabelwana ngayo nomntu owahlukileyo.
Ngelixa sikulo mthetho Unobudlelwane obunomdla kunye nolwalamano nomntu, Kwesibini esichaseneyo, ayinakubonwa njengesenzo esichanekileyo, kuba kunokucingelwa ukuba kwixa elizayo banokunxibelelana ngokwasemzimbeni kunye nayo kukhokelela ekungathembekini.
Kukuthini ukunganyaniseki ngokweemvakalelo
Kwenzeka xa omnye waba bantu babini kwisibini ukuba namaxesha okusondelelana kunye neemvakalelo nomnye umntu. Kwabaninzi abaqeqeshi yile ndlela yokudala ukungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo kuba kunjalo Ukophula isivumelwano phakathi kwesi sibini, kuba oko kunokuthetha ukuthandana nomnye umntu.
Kwabanye abantu ayisiyiyo into yokungathembeki kuba ayikafikeleli kumzuzu wokugqibela okanye ngesondo, nangona abanye benesibakala sokuba kukho ukubamba okanye ukubamba izandla sele kunjalo. Ukungcatsha okanye ukungathembeki kuyakuthathelwa ingqalelo kuxhomekeke kwizivumelwano okanye imida ekuvunyelwene ngayo phakathi kwesibini esitshatileyo.
Ukujonga njani ukungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo
Kunokuba lula ukubona ukuba omnye umntu unakho ube nokudibana ngokweemvakalelo nomnye umntu, kodwa kunokuba nzima ukuqikelela ukuba zigciniwe na. Ngale nto siza kwalatha kuthotho lwezikhokelo ukuze ufumane le nyani.
Ukuba ugcina incoko evulekileyo nehlala ihleli kunye neqabane lakho, uyazi ukuba ngaxa lithile kwincoko soloko umgcina engqondweni omnye umntu lowo. Ngamaxesha amaninzi kunokuba njalo Ukuthetha ngaye rhoqo nokwenza uthelekiso.
Ngaba unako Zikhankanye iintlanganiso obukhe wanazo ngaphandle kokuyinika ukubaluleka okukhulu, kodwa urhano lunokubangela xa ekubiza ngegama lakhe. Izichazi onokuzenza kukuba umxelele yonke into eyenzekayo neqhubekayo ebomini bakho phambi kweqabane lakho.
Ukungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo unokwenza umgama wakho kunye neqabane lakho, akukho mfuneko yokuba ulibone kodwa ukuziva lilonke. Kwakhona, awusaziva imvakalelo efanayo, Umdla ekwenzeni izicwangciso uyehla okanye umzabalazo wokuhlala kunye ulahlekile kubonisa ukuba kukho izinto ezingakhathaliyo.
Ukonyusa okanye ukwehla kokwabelana ngesondo?
Ngokuqinisekileyo lo ngumba ophikisanayo. Kungenzeka ukuba iqabane lakho liziva Umnqweno omkhulu wesondo kunangaphambili kwaye usebenza ngakumbi. Oku kwenzeka ngenxa yokuba umntu ongathembekanga eveza umnqweno wakhe okanye umtsalane womnye umntu kwaye eyijikisa kwiqabane lakhe. Kwelinye icala, into enokwenzeka inokwenzeka, ukuba omnye umntu ukude kakhulu kwaye ukuba umnqweno wakho wesini uyancipha ngokuthe ngcembe ide ibe yinto engekhoyo kwaphela.
Ukoyisa njani ukungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo
Njengoko siqwalasele ekuqaleni, ukungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo kunokuwela kwimeko embi. Kukho ukungathembeki ngokwesondo apho isibini sinokulala nomnye ngendlela efike ngexesha kwaye ngamaxesha athile. Kodwa kukho ukungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo xa sele kunjalo Unxibelelwano olukhethekileyo luyenziwa nomnye umntu ayiloqabane ngokwalo, nokuba akukho sini.
Ukuba awufuni kulahlekelwa liqabane lakho lolona khetho lulungileyo Thetha naye ubuso ngobuso ngalo mbandela. Kuya kufuneka uchaze indlela oziva ngayo kwaye wazi njani izinto ngaphambi kwento enjalo. Kuya kufuneka ungeze zonke iinkcukacha ezenzekayo, ukusuka kwindlela otshintshe ngayo isimilo sabo, yonke imiqondiso abayifumanayo kunye nendlela abenza ngayo.
Kuya kufuneka uqonde imeko kwaye ngaphandle kokufikelela kwelona zinga liphezulu lentiyo kunye nobundlobongela obuncinci Kuyimfuneko ukuqukumbela ngokuya kunika inkcazo yenyani kwaye kugqitywe esona sisombululo sisiso.
Ukuba kuthathwe isigqibo sokuqhubeka nobudlelwane, kufuneka kwenziwe iinzame ezinkulu ngawo omabini la maqela. Ngokuqinisekileyo kwisigqibo sokugqibela ngu uxolelo kwaye woyise ukungathembeki okunje. Kuya kufuneka ubuyise ubudlelwane kwaye uzihlaziye kwelo thuba lesibini.
Unyango ngengqondo ukoyisa ukungathembeki
Akukho lula ukoyisa ukungathembeki kwaye kusekwe kolu hlobo lokungcatsha ukuchacha kunokuba nzima. Kule nto, kukho abantu abakhethekileyo nabahleliweyo ukuba babenako ukuya kwiingxaki phakathi kwezibini, kubandakanya nokungathembeki.
Unyango lweengqondo luza kuzama ukwenza ukuba esi sibini sihlengahlengise ngendlela esempilweni ngokunikezela Zonke izixhobo ozifunayo ukubuyisela ubudlelwane bakho. Kwimeko apho kwenzeke ikhefu, kuya kwenziwa ilinge uxinzelelo lomsebenzi olubangelwa sesi sizathu. Ingcali kufuneka iphakamise ukuzithemba nokuzithemba komntu ochaphazelekayo, kwaye yenze ukwahlukana kumvumele ukuba aqhubele phambili. Ukufumana iingcebiso ezingaphezulu ungafunda amanqaku ethu ku "indlela yokufumana ukwahlukana"Okanye"iingcebiso zokulibala i-ex yakho".