Uthando luhlala luyinto ephambili ekugxilwe kuyo kubomi babantu abaninzi. Umzimba uyakuqhela ukungatshati, kodwa Intloko yakho iyazi ukuba ifuna olo thando, inkampani yomnye umntu. Kodwa kukho amathuba amaninzi anikezelwayo ukufumana iqabane, kwaye nangakumbi ngetekhnoloji entsha, enceda kakhulu.
Ukukhangela iqabane lakho sisihloko esithuthuzelayo kwaye sikwenze ucinge kwakhona malunga nokukhohlisa, kodwa kwelinye icala kuyatyhafisa kwaye kuyatyhafisa. Kungenxa yoko le nto kungcono ukujongana nalo mnqweno ungathathi cala, ngaphandle kokuphazanyiswa, ukungxama, okanye ukubuyela umva. Okubaluleke ngakumbi ngumzuzu wokukhangela iqabane, kokukhona kunokuba nzima ngakumbi kuthi.
Ngaba ukufumana iqabane kunzima okanye akunjalo?
Masingayinyamezeli kuthando. Akunakuba nzima ukufumana uluhlu olubanzi lwamathuba abasetyhini abanodelo olufanayo, kwaye ngenene senza njalo. Kodwa ngokwenza oko kunokuthetha ukuba, phakathi kwako konke oku kuqeshwa, angafiki ngokukhuselekileyo kwaye angasebenzi njengoko kufanelekile. Le nyani akufuneki ibekwe kumda wamathuba ethu, yinyani eyenzeka rhoqo.
Bathetha lonto into yokuqala yokufumana iqabane liyeke ukumkhangela, kodwa yinto ebonakala ingeyonyani. Kuya kufuneka uhlale ujonge kwaye uvule amathuba okufumana uthando, kodwa ngaphandle kokuyifuna kuqala. Kuya kufuneka ucinge ngemfuno yokuziva ulungile, ukonwabela ukuba nesizungu, kunye nokuzonwabisa kunye nofuna nabani na.
Kutheni le nto singakwazi ukufumana iqabane?
Indawo yethu yokuthuthuzela Yenze uninzi lwethu ukuba nosapho kunye nabahlobo bethu abasenyongweni kwisangqa sethu esikufutshane, uninzi lwabo lunamaqabane abo. Asisadluli kwimida kwaye asinakho ukuphuma siye kujongana nento ebonakalayo kunye nendalo, kuba isenza sibe neentloni kunye nentuthuzelo.
Ukungabikho kwexesha ngomnye umqobo Yintoni enye ekhokelela kule meko. Singayifumana kwezinye iindawo kwaye yindlela yethu engathandekiyo yokukhangela iqabane, nokuba kungoku sigcine imeko yethu kwezentlalo okanye sive ubuhlungu Ukwahlukana kwezothando kutshanje. Ezi zihloko zifumaneka kwi indlela yokufumana ukwahlukana o ungalibali njani nge ex yakho.
Elinye inqaku eliphambili elichasene nesi sigqibo ukungazithembi. Ngaphandle kokufuna ukuphuma okanye ukunxulumana, kunzima ngakumbi kwisindululo sokufumana iqabane ukuba linganyani. Ukuba awubuthandi ubomi beemivalo rhoqo Unokujoyina iindawo zokuzilolonga okanye amaqela abantu apho benza khona iihambo, iihambo okanye utyelelo lwenkcubeko, Ndiqinisekile ukuba kwezi ntlanganiso uza kudibana nabantu abaninzi kakhulu abanomdla ngendlela yobuqu.
Ndingalifumana njani iqabane?
Ukufuna iqabane okanye ukukhangela umntu oza kujongana naye akufani. Inyani yokufuna Ukufumana umntu oza kwabelana naye ngobomi bakho kubaluleke kakhuluKe ngoko, luluvo lokuba kufuneka ulinganise ngokuqinileyo. Kufuneka sazi ukuba sizilungiselele kwaye siyazi ukuba asizukuphakuzela.
Kuya kufuneka sishiye indlu kwaye sibe nenqaku lokujongwa. Kuya kufuneka uphume kunye nabahlobo kunye nosapho, nabantu osebenza nabo kwaye ukhathazeke ngokudibana nabantu abatsha. Zama ukuya rhoqo kwiindawo apho ziphindaphindeka khona ukufumana ubuso obutsha kwaye indawo evulekileyo yentlalo iyenziwa. Iindawo kunye neendlela onazo ezinokukunceda: ubhalisele ezinye iindidi zemidlalo, thatha uhambo lokuhamba kunye nokutyelela iimyuziyam ezibalulekileyo; ukubhalisa kwiiklasi kwikhosi enxulumene nezinto esizithandayo okanye ukufunda imisebenzi emitsha nenomdla ...
Sebenzisa amaqonga okuthandana akwi-intanethi. Yindlela yokudlala ngothando kunye nokudibana nabantu, enoluhlu olubanzi lwamathuba kwaye ikwayimfashini. Kodwa Kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba ulusebenzisa njani olu hlobo lweqonga, kuba kunzima ukuba ibe luncedo. Esi sixhobo sinceda ukuzisa abantu kwabanye abangakwaziyo ukusondela kwabanye, ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo.
Ukusebenzisa le ndlela yokudlala ngothando, Kuya kufuneka sikwazi ukubona iziseko zethu kunye nezo zinikezelwe kuthi, kuba kuninzi ukudideka ngohlobo lwabantu esinokudibana nabo. Singamisela iincoko ezibonakalayo kwaye siyazi ukuba le nyani kufuneka yenziwe, senze idinga nomntu ngomso. Ke jonga injongo elula nefanelekileyoKunzima, kodwa njengomthetho ngokubanzi abo bahlawula umrhumo ngaphakathi kwezi webhusayithi okanye kwiiapps kukuba bafuna into ebaluleke ngokwenene.
Ukuphonononga kwakhona kunye nesichaso sokugqibela, Kufuneka ube nomonde. Kwiminyaka engama-20, iziganeko ziyakhawuleza kwaye zinzima ngalo lonke ixesha, kodwa kule minyaka idlulileyo siye sinyanzele ngakumbi kwaye asiwunaki umonde. Ukuba umhla wokuqala awuhambanga njengoko besilindele, mhlawumbi eziqhubekayo zinokuba zikhethekileyo.