'Yiba ngenzi nto' inenkcazelo yayo yokoqobo. Ingaba lonto yi umntu ohlala engasebenzi, evumela yonke into emngqongileyo ukuba isebenze kwaye yenzeke ngaphandle kokungenelela kwakhe. Ngamanye amazwi, inkcazo yayo idluliselwe kwizimo zengqondo ezinxulumene nobudlelwane njengesibini. Kule meko, uxanduva lubalelwa emntwini kunye nesenzo sokwabelana ngesondo, apho athatha inxaxheba ngokungakhathali ebhedini.
Ngoko ke, ukusebenza kunye nokwenziwa kunezinto zako eziziintlobo ngeentlobo. Umntu uhlala ekhuthele ebhedini ngulo udlala umdlalo wonke kwaye umntu ongenzi nto ngulowo uvumela ukuba kungene. Kukho iimbono zokuba abantu ababini abathatha inxaxheba ebhedini sele 'bekhuthele' kungakhathaliseki ukuba ngubani owenza ukungena okanye kufuneka kungene.
yiba ngenzi nto
yiba ngenzi nto kusisithetha-ntonye nokuthobela, kwijargon yesini ngumntu ohlala engenzi nto ngelixa omnye umntu ethatha inxaxheba ekungeneni, nokuba lilungu lobufazi, ngomlomo okanye ngomlomo, okubizwa ngokuba asebenzayo. Ayinamsebenzi nokuba ngubani osebenzisa eli gama, kuba inokuba ngumntu waso nasiphi na isini, isini okanye Ukwaziswa ngezesondo
Umntu ohlala engenzi nto uthatha indima yokungenzi nto, ngubani ukhetha indawo yesondo engasebenziyo kwaye ivumela omnye umntu ukuba athathe indawo yezesondo ebizwa ngokuba 'yeendlela ezininzi'.
izibini zikholelwa ukuba kubudlelwane bobufanasini bagcina olu hlobo lwesenzo. Apho omnye wabo uhlala egcina isimo sengqondo sokwenza kwaye enye indima esebenzayo. Kodwa amadoda amaninzi akholelwa ukuba le nkolelo iphosakele ngokupheleleyo, ekubeni anikwe umlinganiselo ofanayo nendoda nomfazi, ngoko ke ayayichitha le ngcamango.
Xa omnye elele ebhedini aze omnye asebenze ibhalwe njenge 'passive'. Akuthethi ukuba ukususela ekuqaleni ukuya ekupheleni ngulowo ukwisimo sengqondo sokuzithoba, kodwa oko unokuthatha inyathelo kamva. Nangona kunjalo, akukho mfuneko yokoyika ukungenzi nto ebhedini, ungonwabela isondo ngokuthula ngelixa ukulesi sikhundla kwaye wazi indlela yokuthatha inxaxheba kumdlalo.
Ukuze usebenze okanye wenze?
Isenzo sesondo luhlobo lokuhlola ngokupheleleyo xa abantu ababini befuna ukuthatha inxaxheba kumdlalo wonxibelelwano nokuthatha inxaxheba ngothando abaluvayo. Nangona akufuneki ukuba ibe luthando, kodwa kuluyolo nolonwabo, apho ungqamaniso phakathi kwabantu ababini lungenako ukungaqatshelwa.
Indima 'yokuba phezulu okanye ngaphantsi' sisiphumo apho umntu ngamnye kwisenzo sesondo kufuneka athathe nayiphi na indima kwezi zimbini. Ngumsebenzi omele wahlulwe ube ngamacandelo amabini, ubuncinane oko kujoliswe kuko.
umdlalo wesondo iqala ngokuhlola imizimba yabo, apho umdlalo wokuqala uyonwatyelwa khona kwaye kucacisiwe oko kufunwayo ngelo xesha kwaye yintoni engayithandiyo. Iyakhulula. Xa umthambo uthatha umbala xa izibini ezininzi zikhetha ukufikelela ekungeneni. Ngokuqhelekileyo omnye wabo ngulowo ulala phantsi kwaye eyonwabela enye. Ngalo mzuzu kuxa kufuneka wonwabe kwaye uthathwe ngumzuzu.
Izibini ezininzi zigcina isikhundla esisebenzayo kuba zihlala zifuna ukuba nomsebenzi ocacileyo, kwaye kunjalo nika ulonwabo ngaphandle kokuphumla. Kwangaxeshanye ukuba umntu osebenzayo uzibeke, unika uyolo, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba akaziyolisi. Naye uyonwaba ngee-caresses ethambileyo, ngamanye amaxesha abukhali, ngokuncamisa ... kwaye apho omnye umntu angathatha inxaxheba (nokuba sele engene).
Xa umntu zama ukunika ulonwabo omnye kunokuba nesiphumo kumnandi ngakumbi, ekubeni ukuzama ukuvuselela omnye umntu kunokuba mnandi. Ngaba ungomnye wabo bantu bathanda ukuzonwabisa okanye ukukwamkela?
Xa ungenzi nto kwaye ufuna utshintsho
Ukuze sibe nobomi obusebenzayo kunye nomsebenzi ogcweleyo wesondo, kufuneka sicacise oko ukutya kokutya kwakho Ininzi yokwenza nendlela yakho yokuphila. Naluphi na uhlobo lwesini olwenzayo, kufuneka ulufake ekutyeni kwakho ukutya okuphezulu kwefibre. Eli candelo linceda ikholoni kwaye yiyo kanye into oyifunayo ukuyigcina icocekile.
Kukho oko ukunciphisa amafutha kwaye ngakumbi xa behluthi. Umzimba kunye nentloko ziya kuxabisa ukunciphisa ukuthathwa kwale nto. Oku kuya kubonakala kuba kuya kunceda ukusebenza ngakumbi kwaye umzimba kunye namathumbu aya kucoceka ngakumbi.
zikhathalele Kubaluleke kakhulu, nokuba ungumfazi, indoda okanye naluphi na uhlobo lwezesondo, ukuba sinobomi obusebenzayo ngokwesondo, kufuneka sicace ukuba Ucoceko nalo lubalulekile. Kwaye oku, ukongeza oko sikukhankanyileyo, isimo sengqondo esihle sokukwazi ukusebenza ebhedini. Ukuba uthanda ukwazi ngakumbi ngezi zihloko, unokufunda ngakumbi ngazo "Eyona midlalo ibalaseleyo yangaphambi kwesondo onokuziqhelanisa neqabane lakho".