Jonga luhlobo lonxibelelwano apho abantu abaninzi babonisa umdla ngokujonga emehlweni omnye umntu. Ukuba kukho umtsalane ngokwenene, kuboniswa yile ndlela yokuziphatha, nokuba nomntu wesini esifanayo okanye esahlukileyo. Umbuzo kukuba xa ujonga umntu onomdla kuwe, bajonge kuwe kwaye ngokumangalisayo ujonga kude ngokukhawuleza.
Olu hlobo lweemfihlakalo luyaziveza xa ubukhe wakubona oko umntu akawasusi amehlo akhe kuwe. Ke xa uza kubuya ujonge kuxa evakalelwa kukuba umzingele kwaye kulapho ajonga kude ngokukhawuleza. Ngaba ngokwenene ithetha into entle?
Ithetha ukuthini xa ujonga kum kwaye ujonge kude ngokukhawuleza?
Ngokuqinisekileyo yinto ebaluleke kakhulu kwaye inomdla omkhulu. Obu bubungqina bokuba a loo mntu unomdla kuwe, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha inokubonisa enye into echaseneyo. Ekuqaleni kukho into malunga nawe ebonisa umdla komnye umntu.
Eyona nto inomdla ngala mava ayikuko ukuba ajike entloko xa usazi ngobukho bakhe, kodwa ajonge kude kwaye emva kwemizuzwana eli-15 okanye engama-20 ukujonga kwakhona. Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo luhlobo lonxibelelwano olungasebenzisi magama kwaye ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo loo mntu uyenza ngokuzazi okanye ngokungazi. Nangona kunjalo, landela loo mdla mkhulu kwaye kuya kufuneka ufumanise ukuba yintoni engaphaya.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba lo mfazi uzama ukufumana ingqalelo yakho ngezi ntlobo zemiqondiso, Ngokuqinisekileyo sele isenjenjalo. Uya kuyenza ngokujonga 'kancinci' kwaye ngalo mzuzu unokuva into kuwe. Ukuba ujonga kude kwaye kwangoko qhubeka kwakhona nesimo esifanayo, ngokungathandabuzekiyo ikucaphukisa.
Xa umfazi eneentloni uyokujonga kwaye xa uqaphela amehlo akhe uya kuyiphambukisa, kodwa ujika kwangoko ajongise intloko yakhe kwicala lakho. Kuphela ukuba uya kuba nesibindi ngakumbi anokuthi akwazi ukwenza isenzo esincinci ukubonisa umdla wakho.
Kukho iimeko apho intombazana inokujonga kude ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo. Mhlawumbi ibingeyiyo le nto ubuyilindele, kodwa unokuba novalo okanye ungonwabi. Xa kukho ingxoxo esondeleyo kwaye ujongene naloo mntu kwaye uhlala ukunqanda ukujonga kwakho, ezi zizathu zinokuba sisiphelo. Kodwa kwiimeko ezininzi abo bantu banika ukuba bafihle into okanye abathembekanga kakhulu kwiimvakalelo zabo.
Zeziphi ezinye iimpawu ezikhoyo xa ekujonga?
Kuyinto entle xa loo ntombazana inomdla kuwe kwaye ngenxa yesizathu esithile, naye ukukhathalele. Ngandlel 'ithile okanye indlela ibonisa utyekelo lwakhe xa ejonge kuwe. Ukuba ukongeza kwezo nkangeleko uyancuma nawe, ke musa ukulinda ukubuyisela ngolunye uncumo. Ukuthi ujonge kude kumaxesha ngamaxesha kwaye uyakukuncumela kuyafana nokufuna ukuba ngumhlobo kwaye bonisa umdla wokudibana nawe.
Ukuba ukongeza kukujonga kuwe, uyahleka aze achukumise iinwele zakhe kuyacaca ukuba uyakuthanda kakhulu. Kuthetha ukuba uyakuthanda, unomdla, kwaye unokuba neemvakalelo ngawe. Zama ukufumanisa ukuba zeziphi ezinye izinto ezinokulindela into ebonakalayo, kuba ukuba ujonga kude banokuba zizimpawu zentloni.
Kukho abantu abanobuganga bokuthatha inyathelo lokuqala okanye abo boyika ukungamkelwa, kwaye yiyo loo nto isimo sabo sengqondo, beziphepha ukubonakala. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba wabelana nawe ngoncumo, uya kuhlala ezinikezela. Lindela ukubona ukuba ungalithatha na elo nyathelo lincinci kwaye unxibelelane naye, kuya kufuneka uthethe kwaye yabelana ngaloo chemistry yonxibelelwano.
Iimpawu ezicacileyo zokuba uyakuthanda kuxa ezama ukukucaphukisa ngamehlo akhe, ikujonge kwaye ijonge kude kude kaninzi, Kungenxa yokuba ufuna ukuthetha nawe. Kananjalo ukuba uyayenza iintshukumo ezijijekileyo nezibaxekileyo Kungenxa yokufumana ingqalelo yakho, nokuba uyonwaba kwaye ubethe iingalo zakhe ukubonisa ukuba uyonwaba. Jonga ukuba Uhleka kakhulu kwaye ukhwaza kakhulu Kuba ziimpawu zokufuna ukutsala umdla wakho, mhlawumbi uyakumema ukuba uthathe inxaxheba kwincoko yakhe kwaye ufuna ukuba kufutshane nenkampani yakho.
Ukubukeka kulolo hlazo luphazamisayo, yindlela esinokusebenzisana ngayo ekuhlaleni. Sisenzo sonxibelelwano kunye nobutshaba ngokubhekisele kwabanye abantu kwaye sinokunxibelelana ngamehlo ngenxalenye yomzuzu kunye nemizuzu. Kwiimeko ezininzi, ukujonga kukuqala kweendlela ezisebenzisela ukunxibelelana.
Ukuqukumbela, ukuba le ntombazana ijonge kuwe kwaye ijonge kude, kungenxa yokuba ikunika iimpawu zomdla. Kodwa ukuba ukudibana kuqhelekile kwaye kwezi ntsuku zilandelayo akasakuboni, mhlawumbi ngempazamo udidekile imiqondiso. Kumaxesha amaninzi le ntombazana ikulungele ukukuvumela ukuba uyenze into eyenzayo kwaye ukuba uyakhukhumala okanye umnene unokuza kwaye uzazise ngokufudumeleyo.