Nguwuphi umntu ongazange aphuphe ngokubonakala eyindoda egqibeleleyo? Kwaye ke njengabo bonke abafazi? Ewe, ngumgangatho ongena kumampunge, inkohliso kunye nekratshi, kuba ukuthanda sisitshixo sokukwazi ukulawula zonke iindawo ezisingqongileyo, nokuba yintlalontle okanye ngokwasemzimbeni. Kodwa Kude lee kunale nto kukho inyani, kwaye oko kukuthi akukho mntu okanye umntu ogqibeleleyo, kuba iinjongo ezinzima kakhulu ukufezekisa.
Ukuba siqala kwimeko yohlobo lwamadoda afezekileyo, oko kuya kuxhomekeka kukhetho kunye nomdla womntu ngamnye. Uvavanyo oluzimeleyo kufuneka lwenziwe apho kuthotho lweempawu kunye neencasa eziza kudibana eziya kubandakanya amaxabiso afunwa nguloo mntu.
Bacinga ntoni abafazi?
Mhlawumbi kungaphakathi kokulindelekileyo ukuba umfazi acinge ukuba indoda egqibeleleyo igxile kumntu onobubele, onothando, onomsebenzi olungileyo, okrelekrele, onendlu enkulu, imoto elungileyo kwaye kunjalo ... intle kwaye inomdla, intle umthandi ebhedini .... blah blah blah ... Ngaba yindoda egqibeleleyo leyo kubo? Ngaba ngokwenene kufuneka ube ligorha lokubandakanya zonke ezo mpawu?
Siyavuma ukuba zonke ezi mpawu zibalasele kwaye ziyalalanisa, kodwa zinikwe indawo yokujonga, Nazo kufuneka zibandakanye onke loo maxabiso ngokungathandabuzekiyo asiqhubayo. Ngaba kufuneka sinikezele ngazo zonke ezi mpawu ngaphandle kokufumana mbuyekezo?
Unokuba yindoda egqibeleleyo njani?
Kodwa lo ngumxholo onzima ukucacisa, kuba kukho amadoda azama ukoyisa yonke imiqobos ukuze ugqwese kuzo zonke iinkalo, ngokutshintshisa uthando okanye uthando lomnye umntu. Kungenxa yoko le nto sinothotho lwezinto ezinomtsalane ezinokufanisa ubuntu bakho kwaye ke sibhenele kwabasetyhini. Sikunika indibaniselwano yeenkwenkwezi ukuze ube yindoda egqibeleleyo:
- Isitshixo sayo yonke into kukuzibonisa njengoko unjalo kodwa ngaphandle kokulibala ukuba unokongeza uthotho lwezibonelelo: Uvelwano ngovelwano kunye nolonwabo, kuba ezo zezitshixo, zibonise yendalo kunye nengqondi kwaye unike ezinye zincinci zentloni, oko kuya kukwenza ube mnandi.
- Izifundo zibalulekile. Ubuncinci abasetyhini njengamadoda anobukrelekrele nolwazi. Umbono kukwazi indlela yokuthetha ngaso nasiphi na isihloko, uhlalutye yonke into ekungqonge kodwa ngaphandle kokubaxa uhlalutyo lwakho lwezinto (ukuba bukhali kakhulu kwizinto).
- Yenza imidlalo kodwa ngomlinganiso wayo ofanelekileyo. Ukubona indoda ezinyamekelayo iyafana nokuziva uzithemba kwaye kuyonwabisa. Into ongayithandiyo njengomthetho yimizimba yezihlunu kakhulu.
- Ukubonakala komzimba okanye ukubonakala kubalulekile. Ukuba ungomnye wamadoda athanda ukukhulisa iindevu kwaye zikulungele, kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba uninzi lwabasetyhini luthanda kakhulu. Ngokumalunga nendlela yokunxiba, kulungile ukubona indoda engokwemvelo kwaye ingajongi ngasekhohlo.
- Ukuvuya kunye nokuhleka, ngaphandle kokujonga njengehlekisayo, Unobubele kuye wonke umntu, uyayithanda intsapho yakhe kwaye unomdla kakhulu kubathandekayo bakhe. Phakathi kwezi mpawu kubonakala ngathi ngumntu onobubele nothobekileyo, olungileyo ngaphandle kwesidenge nothando ngaphandle kokuthatha amathuba.
- Oko kunemilinganiselo emininzi, umntu ekufuneka elazi ixesha lokuthatha izigqibo ezifunayo nezinoxanduva. Kuya kufuneka ukuba ube nesibindi sokuzonwabisa kwaye wazi ukuba uza kubuza nini kwaye ufune izinto kodwa ngaphakathi komxholo.
- Umthandi wezilwanyana kunye nendalo ngokubanzi. Abasetyhini abafana namadoda abaziyo ukusebenza kokubini elizweni nakwisixeko.
- Njani ubuntu nayo ujonga ngaphakathi umntu kakhulu. Amadoda athi baxhase abasetyhini bafanelwe ngumtsalane wabo wonke. Oko kunika ukuzola okukhulu kunye nozinzo, kuba indoda eyaziyo ukumamela ihlala ihoya ukujonga ngomdla umdla womnye umntu.
- Masingakulibali soloko ungumnumzana. Khathalela zonke iintlobo zeenkcukacha, uncamise isandla, ungoneliseki, wazi indlela yokuxolela nantoni na nokuba ingabalulekanga kangakanani.
- Isisa ngaphezu kwako konke. Ukuba lo mgangatho ubonakalisiwe, ufumana eyona ndebe ibalaseleyo. Abasetyhini bayothuka xa bebona amadoda azimisele ukunikela ngaphezulu kunoko akufumanayo.
- Gwema ukujonga njengeziko lendalo yonke. Nangona inokubonakala ingabalulekanga, kukho amadoda athi, ngenxa yemeko yawo, akholelwe ukuba liziko lehlabathi. Ukuba uhlangabezana nemeko embi kwaye uneengxaki, umfazi akazukufuna indoda esoloko ixinezelekile. Njengomgaqo ngokubanzi, ngabasetyhini abafuna indoda kunye negxalaba lokuncika kuyo yiyo loo nto kufuneka somelele.