Ngubani olunge ngakumbi kunobungcali kunye nomntu obhinqileyo osicebisayo ngendlela esisebenza ngayo nabantu besini esahlukileyo, UPilar Cristobal Kwiphephandaba Imizuzu ye20 unika iintlobo ngeentlobo zeengcebiso kumanqaku ahlukeneyo ukuze amadoda aphumelele, apha ndikuzisela ezinye zazo.
- Kufuneka uhlale uzolile, ukrelekrele kwaye usempilweni.
- Ucebisa amadoda ukuba angagxeki indlela abafazi abenza ngayo.
- Isazi ngesini siqinisekisa ukuba umgangatho wofuzo ubalulekile.
- Qaphela kwaye ulungelelanise. Amadoda acwangcisiweyo nachubekileyo adlulisela umfanekiso wenkanuko yokuzithemba, kuba abonisa ukuba bayayazi indlela yokuzikhathalela kwaye banokubakhathalele nabanye.
- Isempilweni. Musa ukukhalaza malunga nezifo okanye izifo. Ukungazi lutho kuyaqhubeka nokusebenza kwinqanaba elichumileyo. Kwaye impilo yeyona nto iphambili kumgangatho ofanelekileyo wemfuza yakho. Nokuba ujonge nje ukonwabisa okwexeshana, uhlobo lokuzala into encinci esiyithweleyo ngaphakathi luqwalasele kakhulu imeko yezempilo kwaye iyazala ezo ingazithandiyo njengezisempilweni. Kwaye i-crybaby ayisiyiyo.
- Ukuzola. Kuthetha okwahlukileyo kokungazithembi, ukoyika, okanye ukungazinzi ngokweemvakalelo. Ukuba ungomnye wabo ngequbuliso ababi, zama ukungakulungeli okungenani kwiintlanganiso zokuqala. Kangangendlela ayithanda ngayo, ayizukuba yinto elungileyo ukuba unomsindo njengawe, kwaye akukho namnye kuni okwaziyo ukuzilawula.
- Yiba sisilumko kwaye usexesheni. Ukufunda umatshini wokushicilela kunye nokwazi iindaba zentlalo kuya kukunceda ukuba ubonakale ukrelekrele nokuba awunjalo.
- Uyingqondi kwaye uchubekile. Nangona amasiko atshintshe kakhulu, imfundo elungileyo isexabisweni. Ukuba ukubuza into ongafuniyo ukuyiphendula, musa ukuzivalela cwaka unetyala, ukufunda ukudlala itenisi kubandakanya ukubuyisa ibhola ngokuphendula ngombuzo onje kutheni ubuza? okanye kutheni ufuna ukwazi? Musa ukugxeka indlela yabo yokwenza izinto. Eyona nto siyifunayo sonke kukuba amehlo omntu esimthandayo asinike umfanekiso omangalisayo wethu.
- Inkangeleko ayisiyondlela yokunxiba kuphela, xa sithetha ngokutsala umdla, asibhekiseli ekubonweni kuphela, ezinye izinto ezininzi ziyenzeka, kodwa eyomzimba ibaluleke kakhulu, uninzi lwabasetyhini luyayithanda impilo kunye nokhathalelo lomzimba kunye nempahla, kodwa ubukho , Ukuqwalaselwa, kukwahambelana nokuhlekisa, ukhuseleko nokwazi ukuba ubanjani.
- Umntu othetha kakuhle, onomdla kwaye onoburharha unesiqingatha sendlela, ungangxami okanye uhlekise, uninzi lwabasetyhini alukwazi ukuzihleka kwaye abaluxabisi uburharha besiNgesi.
- Kuyatshiwo ukuba abafazi bayaphicotha kwaye kuyinyani, imvakalelo ingena ezindlebeni zabo, ukulukuhla kunye nokulukuhla ngamazwi kubalulekile ukuba ufuna ukudlala ngothando. Menze azive. Ivuselela iimvakalelo zakhe, iimvakalelo sisiyobisi esenziwa yingqondo yethu, ukuba uyakwazi ukumenza ukuba amayeza akhawuleze kunokuba ulindele, ngekhe akwazi ukwenza ngaphandle kwekamela lakhe. Musa ukubawa ngamazwi kodwa ungaxoki, okanye wenze izithembiso ezingezizo ngekamva.
- Menze azive ukuba unyanisile, oku akuyomfuneko ukuba umxelele, ngezimbo zomzimba ezilula uza kukholelwa ukuba uyamqonda kwaye uyavumelana noko akutshoyo; thatha iglasi kwangaxeshanye naye okanye uhambise intloko njengoko ubona ukuba uyayenza, le miqondiso yimiyalezo yokuvunywa kunye nokhuseleko omthumelela yona engekho zingqondweni.
- Hlala kude ngaphandle kokuba isimo sakhe sengqondo sikuvumela: Mphathe ngobunono, ukutyhala inwele ebusweni bakhe okanye ukususa isuntswana kwilokhwe yakhe. Ukuchukumisa okuncinci kwemizuzwana kukwabonisa kakhulu. Sukuhlala unxibelelana ngaphezu kwemizuzwana emithathu, kunokuziva ngathi kuphuphuma kwindawo yabo yokuhlala kwaye kuphakamisa ukuzikhusela kwabo. Hlala kude ngaphandle kokuba isimo sakhe sengqondo sikuvumela.
- Sukusebenzisa iintshukumo zokuvala njengokuwela iingalo okanye imilenze. Yama kancinane kuye ngomzimba wakho uphela.
- Ngaso nasiphi na isizathu, mbonise isinqe sakho, abafazi bayalixabisa kakhulu elo lungu lomzimba wendoda. Ukuba awunayo intle ngakumbi, ungakhathazeki, kukuqina kwinyathelo lakho aya kulixabisa, uhamba iinyawo zakhe ziqinile emhlabeni.
- Khathalela iinkcukacha, mnike isiselo okanye itshefu okanye nantoni na ayifunayo ngaphambi kokuba ayicele, konke ngumba wokumamela kakhulu. Kwaye kuya kufuneka uyimamele incoko yabo ukuba baveza nawuphina umnqweno okanye ukonwaba, uyikhumbule kwaye ubanike okokuqala. Akukho mntu unokumelana nesikhafu semarike ebengafuni ukusithenga kuba sibiza kakhulu okanye loo ntyatyambo inqabileyo bayithandayo.
Ngendlela: Imizuzu eli-20