Singathetha ngeli gama njengeleyibhile enye ikhathalogu yokuziphatha ngokwesondo kobomi bomntu. Ubundlobongela ligama elincinci elaziwayo iqala ukusetyenziswa kubantu abaninzi xa benoluhlobo olwahlukileyo lokuziqhelanisa nokwabelana ngesondo ngokwemigaqo esele ifakiwe.
Siyabazi ubungqingili, ubungqingili, ubufanasini kunye nokuziphatha njengamagama ahambelana nomtsalane wesini, kubantu besini esifanayo okanye esahlukileyo okanye ngaphandle komtsalane. Kungenxa yoko le nto kukho abantu esele bekhathalogwe ngegama elithi demisexuality, Bavuma ukuba banomdla kodwa ngokurhoxa okuthile.
Inkcazo yokuchasana ngokwesini
I-Demisexuality ligama esele liqulunqwe ukusukela ngo-2006, ngokweNethiwekhi yezeMfundo ngezeSondo kunye nokuBonakala (AVEN), apho imele umntu onemvakalelo kunye nomtsalane wesini komnye umntu, kodwa kuphela kwaye Kuphela ngaphandle kokuqala kokwenza ubudlelwane obomeleleyo bemvakalelo ngakulo mntu.
Olu hlobo lwabantu basendleleni eya kwi-asexual, Ukuba akunjalo, kungenxa yokuba banokugqibezela isini sabo, kodwa bahlala besakha olo manyano lubuthathaka kunye noluchaphazelekayo.
Iyaqondakala into yokuba le nto ihlala iqinisekisa ukuba baninzi abantu abanolu hlobo lweemvakalelo, Oko kukuthi, baziva benomtsalane, kodwa Kuya kufuneka ibotshelelwe kulwalamano lwakho lweemvakalelo. Inyani yile yokuba yinyani, kodwa abantu abathandanayo abathandanayo kufuneka babe nefom kakhulu kwaye neemvakalelo ukugcina ubudlelwane.
Ubuntu bakhe ngokunzulu:
Ngokwesiqhelo abaziva naluphi na uhlobo lomtsalane kuso nasiphi na isini, nangona kubonakala ngathi angathanda nabani na. Kodwa kwisifundo senyama sisifundo kuboMhlawumbi yinto ehamba nabo kubo bonke ubomi babo, okanye mhlawumbi ubomi babo bubenze ukuba baqwalasele kwakhona isenzo esibahoxise ngale ndlela.
Kuzo zonke ezi ziphumo, akukho namnye unokuthethelela okwangoku ungaziva njani olu hlobo lomntu. Ngokwesiqhelo lo mntu akaziva enomtsalane ngaphandle kothando. Ekuboneni kokuqala abanakho ukuziva benesifiso sesondo, nokuba lo mntu ubetha kakhulu okanye mhle. Iimvakalelo zakho ziya kwenziwa ekuhambeni kwexesha, ngaphakathi kuloo mntu, kunye nokudibana ngokweemvakalelo phakathi kwezi zinto zimbini naxa yonke imicimbi inyangwa ilunge, kwinqanaba lokomoya.
Ngale nto ndiyathetha ukuba xa umntu emka ngenxa yesizathu esithile, umntu olala nomntu ongekhe amkhumbule, Mhlawumbi ibhondi encinci awayeyibambile iyakuphola kwakhona.
Oku akuthethi ukuba lo mntu ukhutshiwe ngumxholo wesondo, ungonwabela ukuba wedwa xa usabelana ngesondo njengokuphulula amalungu esini okanye ukubukela iphonografi. Mhlawumbi apha uthelekelela iimeko ongathanda ukwabelana ngazo nalo mntu ucinga ngaye.
Isini esingwevu okanye isini
Zimbini ezi meko, ineziphumo ezilinganayo neziphindayo. Yindlela efanayo yokubiza olu hlobo lomntu.
Bangabantu abangabo Isiqingatha phakathi kwesini kunye nokuziphatha ngokwesini, kuba isini asingowona mthombo uphambili wokugcina ubudlelwane kwindawo yokuqala. Abaphikisi kakhulu kwiminqweno yenyama, kuba banako kwixesha elizayo ukugcina inqanaba lesini kunye nomntu omfunayo, kodwa uhlala ekwinqanaba eliphantsi, kuba ayingowona mnqweno wakhe mkhulu.
Ukuyicacisa ngcono ngokwe-AVEN, isiqingatha sabaphenduli babedla ngokwabelana ukuziva ungakhathali ngokunxulumene nesini, ngelixa elinye icala lagcina isimo sengqondo esithandekayo, Kuphela yi-16% eyathi yanyanzeliswa sisenzo sesondo.
Bunjani ubudlelwane bakho?
Uninzi lwabantu luziva luhlobo lomtsalane ukusuka kumzuzu wokuqala, kukhokelela ekubeni nobudlelwane bezesondo ngenxa yoko. I-Demisexuals ayenzi ngoluhlobo Kunzima kubo ukuba bajongane nale meko ukuba abanokwazi omnye umntu.
Xa impendulo elungileyo komnye umntu ivela, kungathabatha ixesha elide kunye neminyaka ukuziva utsalelekile ngokwesondo okokuqala. Baza kujonga indlela ovakalelo lwabo oluvuka ngayo ngokuhamba kwexesha okanye ubomi babo.
Isiphelo asinakho ngokusengqiqweni ukuquka zonke izimbo kunye neemilo malunga nokuziphatha ngokwesondo. Kuphela yimigaqo esele isaziwa nesele ikho yile yokuba abantu abaninzi banokugubungela, ngenxa yokubonakala kwabo bezobekekileyo kunye nesini esichanekileyo.
Malunga nokubonakaliswa kokugqibela, kugqityiwe ukuba kukho abantu abaziva benomtsalane kunye nomnqweno kwinto yokuqala, ezinye endizaziyo thandana ngokulula, ezinye ziya kukhetha ngokukodwa, kwaye abanye abangayi kuziva betsala ebomini babo. Umntu ngamnye ukhululekile ukuba azive kwaye abone ukwahluka ngokwesondo. Umntu ngamnye wahlukile, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba mabachazwe njengabangcono okanye abambi kunalo lonke uluntu. Oku kukwenza ube ngumntu owahlukileyo kwaye yiyo loo nto Kufuneka uzive ukhululekile malunga nokuziphatha kwakho ngokwesini.