Sonke siye saba neqabane ulwalamano lwalo luphelile ekwahlukaneni kwaye khange lusebenze. Kule meko, buya ne ex yakho Inokuba ngumbono olungileyo ngokuxhomekeke kwimeko yokwahlukana kunye nobuntu bakho. Olunye ulwalamano lothando lusebenza ngokumangalisayo kumjikelo wesibini, kodwa abanye bathambekele kwimeko enzima kunasekuqaleni.
Ke ngoko, siza kukuxelela ukuba isayensi ithini, izibonelelo kunye nezinto ezingalunganga ngokubuyela kwi-ex yakho.
Izibonelelo zokubuyela kwi-ex yakho
Ezinye iingcali ziphonononge izibonelelo zokuphinda ubuyele kwiqabane lakho langaphambili kwimeko yangoku. Ukuba ngomnye wabo bazama ukuzama kwakhona, kungenxa yokuba babonwabile. Ngaphandle kokuba ubudlelwane obungenakuthanani, obungenampilo apho uhlala ulwa kwaye ubuya, Kungenxa yokuba kukho ubudlelwane obunetyhefu. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ubudlelwane buye baba buhle kakhulu kwaye kukho uthando kunye nokuqonda, kusenokubakho ixesha lesibini. Nangona kunjalo, akunakubakho thuba lesithathu.
Ukuba bathatha isigqibo sokuphinda babuyise ubudlelwane, ngekhe bagqibe kwinkqubo yesiqhelo yokufumanisa ukuthanda omnye komnye, nokuba sele ebhedini okanye kubomi babo bemihla ngemihla ngaphandle kwesini. Hayi, akusafuneki ukuba uqashele ukuba yeyiphi irestyu yakhe ayithandayo okanye into ayithiyileyo oyenzayo. Awuyi kuphoswa sisikhumbuzo sokuqala komjikelo wesibini. Ngoku, le mibuzo iphambili kufanelekile ukuba uyibuze ngaphambi kokuba ubuyele umva. Ukubuyela emva kwakho kunokuba nzima ngakumbi ngokwesayensi. Kwabo bafumene le meko bathi Inothando ngakumbi kwaye inokwabelana ngesondo. Oku kuhlala kusenzeka kuba iihormoni ezithile zenziwa zisebenze kanye njengoko isenzeka xa usabelana ngesondo, nto leyo edla ngokuba bubundlobongela emva komlo.
Konke oku kunento yokwenza nenkqubo yemichiza ebuchotsheni eyenza ukuba abathandi bazive bevuseleleke ngakumbi ngokufumana kwakhona into ekubonakala ngathi ilahlekile. Enye yeenzuzo zokubuyela kwi-ex yakho kukuba awuyi kwenza iimpazamo ezifanayo.
Ukubuyela kwiqabane langaphambili yindlela yokuziphatha evuthiweyo, ebonisa ukuba ukulungele ukuthatha amanyathelo okuzinza. Ukuba isizathu sekhefu lokugqibela sicacile, Ngokuqinisekileyo abayi kuphinda benze impazamo efanayo kwaye ubudlelwane buya kubonakala ngokucacileyo kwaye buvisisane. "Abo bangayiqondiyo imbali bazimisele ukuphinda iimpazamo ezifanayo" eli binzana linentsingiselo entsha kwicandelo lothando. Ewe kunjalo, ngeli xesha ibali lakho linokonwaba, lizele luthando kunye nokwabelana ngesondo, ngaphandle kwengxabano, ezibangela ukuba ziphele kwakhona kwaye ziqhubeke zikhumbula kwakhona.
Ukuba uziva ungonwabanga ngabahlobo bakho abahlala kunye emva kokwahlukana, imeko iya kuphucula kwaye iqela elifanayo labahlobo elidlulileyo liya kuphinda limanyane. Ewe awuzukuphinda uvelise abazali bakho kunye nabahlobo kumaqabane amatsha.
Iingxaki zokubuyela kwi-ex yakho
Kanye njengokuba unokuba neenzuzo ezininzi ezinje ngezi sizikhankanyileyo, kusenokubakho nezinye izinto ezingalunganga. Inzululwazi ziye zafunda eli candelo ngenye indlela. Ukuphendula ngokuxhomekeka kubangelwa ngumxube we-dopamine kunye ne-oxytocin. Isizathu se-neural esinento yokwenza nomntu obuyela kubudlelwane obuvela kwixesha elidlulileyo. Ukubuyela kwi-ex yakho kuthetha ukuba unokuxhomekeka kwezi ntlobo zezinto kwaye umjikelo okhohlakeleyo wenziwe.
Kungenzeka kwakhona ukuba amava awafani. Ngamanye amaxesha xa isibini sibuya emva kokwahlukana, isenokuba ngaphandle kwempumlo okanye umbono webali elihlala kunye kodwa elingenjalo. Ke ngoko, zizibini ezininzi ezizama ukuqhubeka kwakhona. Ingxaki kukuba olu tyekelo lokucinga ukuba izinto zazintle kakhulu zinokuvelisa Ukuphazamiseka kulindelo olungasebenziyo. Kwaye bobabini banokuba nezinye izinto abanomdla kuzo, ukuba bayitshintshile ifilosofi yabo yobomi okanye sele beyiqonda njengangaphambili. Oku kubila ekubeni nolwalamano olusemgangathweni kwakhona.
Kuya kufuneka uphawule ithuba lokuhlangana nomnye umntu. Kwaye ukuba ubuyela umva nge-ex yakho ulahlekelwa lithuba lokudibana nomnye umntu. Inyaniso yokuphinda ubudlelwane ibonisa ukuba uvala umnyango wokwazi into entsha kunye nokunciphisa ukhetho lwakho. Ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukuphuma kwindawo yentuthuzelo, kodwa abantu abaninzi babuya benolwalamano olufanayo ukusukela Abaqinisekanga kwaye sele benento ethile e-inshurensi.
Enye yeengxaki ezinkulu ezinokuphela zibi. Ukuba ufuna ukubuyela kwi-ex yakho, kungenxa yokuba abaphelanga babe ziintshaba. Nangona kunjalo, xa usiba sisibini kwakhona, ibali lisenokungabi lihle ekugqibeleni. Banokuzondana. Into yokuba izinto zizophela kakubi yenye yezinto ezibonisa umahluko omkhulu obuya nomdala.
Isiphelo yinzululwazi
Izifundo zesayensi malunga nokuba zilungele ukubuyela kwi-ex yakho zibonisa ukuba kunokwenzeka ngokupheleleyo ukuziva uthando lwangempela kwiqabane langaphambili kwaye uphinde uqalise ukuthandana apho uyeke khona. Gcina ukhumbula ukuba isayensi ithi ixesha elide lelo Isibini esithandanayo kufuneka sohlulwe ixesha leenyanga ezi-6.
Amanani abonisa ukuba ngaphezulu kwesithathu sobudlelwane esiphelayo siya kunikwa ithuba lesibini ngaxa lithile. Kuhlala kuchazwa ukuba izinto ziya kwahluka okwesibini kwaye kwenziwa iinzame zokuphucula nokulungisa zonke iimpazamo zexesha elidlulileyo. Ithemba linento yokwenza nexesha elityalwe kubudlelwane kunye nobuvila ekukhangeleni ukuba ufumane elinye iqabane elitsha. Baye bakhuselwe nakwimo yezixhobo zeemvakalelo ezaziwayo.
Njengoko ubona, kuya kufuneka uhlalutye ngononophelo isiphelo kunye nesiqalo sokwahlukana kwezibini ezitshatileyo ukuze wazi ukuba kungacetyiswa na ukuba ubuyele kwi-ex yakho.