ukukhahlela Luqheliselo olungaqhelekanga kude kube yiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo. Yinyaniso evunyiweyo apho ukungathembeki kukho, apho yenza ukuba kubonakale njengento engafanele yenziwe phakathi kwezibini. Nayo yonke imiphumo, ngamava amaninzi esayikholojisti acebisayo kunyango lwezibini ezitshatileyo ukuze zivuthe ilangatye.
Xa izibini zinobudlelwane obude kwaye zingakwazi ukuzinika ukuphumla kwinkanuko yazo, zifuna ukwaphula imonotony. Phakathi kokuphuma kwakho okunokwenzeka funa ukudibana namaqela esithathu kwaye ngaloo ndlela uzinike uyolo lokuvuselela olo thando.
Yintoni i-cuckolding?
Ngamagama ambalwa, i-cuckolding sisenzo esivunyelweyo kwisibini ukuba ukukwazi ukugcina ubudlelwane nomntu wesithathu y emva kokukwazi ukubalisa amava okanye sivumele siwuqwalasele loo mzuzu.
Ukuziqhelanisa, imvume yokubambisana kufuneka kuvunyelwane ngayo, kubandakanywa Kuya kubakho isondo kuphela kwaye akukho mvakalelo malunga nomnye umntu. Kananjalo ayizukwenziwa rhoqo, kodwa ngokufika ngexesha okanye ngamaxesha athile.
Xa kusenziwa i-cuckolding, omnye umntu uya kuba ekhona xa iqabane lakhe lilalana ngesondo okanye, kamva, baya kuxela indlela amava enziwe ngayo ngeenwele kunye nemiqondiso. Injongo kukufumana olo hlobo lolonwabo ukugcina ilangatye liphila.
Yintoni ephunyezwayo nge-cuckolding?
Injongo ngamandla phakamisa idangatye kubudlelwane phakathi kwezibini. Bajonge i-stimuli yangaphandle, kodwa kule meko igxininise kwi-eroticism kunye nomnqweno wokuhlangana ngesondo. Isibini ngasinye sizifunela ezaso iimvakalelo kwaye kunokwahluka phakathi kokufuna uyolo kwinto eyalelweyo okanye ukuzama ukujonga ukuba omnye umntu uyayonwabela.
Uninzi lwamagcisa bawubona lo mkhwa njengento yokubamba ixesha kwaye hayi njengenyani ukuba benza rhoqo. Ezinye izazi ngengqondo kunyango lwezibini zibona njengomzekelo wendoda phakathi kwesi sibini kwaye ibe nobuganga bokubona umfazi wayo enobudlelwane obungaphandle komtshato.
Kwelinye icala, bavunyelwene; ngoko uyamkhuthaza ukuba akukhathaliseki ukuba bayaphula imilinganiselo yentlalo, kodwa, kwelinye icala, ibonwa njenge 'cuckold'. Nangona kunjalo, umba wokungathembeki ulawulwa ngokupheleleyo, akakuqapheli oko kwalelwe njengento embi kwaye kwangaxeshanye. uyawonwabela lo msebenzi.
Yiyiphi kwelinye icala: ukujonga okanye ukuba nomfanekiso-ngqondweni webhinqa eliba neentlobano zesini nomnye umntu kunokubonakala kulihlazo; kwelinye icala: abo benza oku kuthotywa ngenxa yayo ayibonwa, kuba iba yinto evuselela inkanuko.
Ufuna ntoni ngokukodwa?
- Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuziqhelanisa ne-cuckolding kuzalwa ngokuyinxenye kwiingcamango zamadoda. Ngeli xesha abalawulwa, kodwa kunoko bafuna ukongamela imeko. Kuxa begqiba ngexesha nangeliphi ixesha abaya kuqhathwa ngalo.
- Isenokuvela kwakhona uqheliselo lwe-masochism. Ayikuko ukuba bayawuthanda ngokwenene uqheliselo lwe-masochism kuzo zonke iintlobo ezahlukeneyo, kodwa endaweni yoko basebenzisa i-cuckolding njengenye yeendlela ezizezinye, kuba baziva bethotyiwe ngokuyinxenye.
- Kukho abo baqwalasela umfazi njengento hypersexualized. Kule meko uqweqwediswa kwaye unqwenelwa yenye indoda, ngelixa kwelinye icala eyazi ukuba unendoda enye kuphela engqondweni, ukuba 'nomnini' omnye kuphela.
- Abanye baye bathabatha olu qheliselo bugqume ubuni babo, kuba iimeko ezininzi ziye zabonwa kumava cucklonding. Ngokwethiyori, abakonwabeli kakhulu ukubukela umfazi esonwabela isondo nenye indoda, kodwa ukubukela indoda isonwabele isenzo sesondo.
Ngaba kukho imida kolu qheliselo?
Ngokubanzi ewe kukho imida. Phambi kokuzama ukwenza i-cucking kubalulekile ukuba isibini sithethe ngento enokuba neziphumo zayo xa sisenziwa. Bobabini kufuneka banyaniseke ukuba oku kuya kuba njalo ukuvuselela umdla kwaye iya kuba yinto nje yokuzonwabisa kunye nokuphepha iingxaki ezinokwenzeka kwixesha elizayo.
Unxibelelwano kufuneka luhlale lusekwe phakathi kwezi zinto zimbini, kubaluleke kakhulu ukwenza yonke into icace. Imigaqo esekelwe ngokubanzi kukuba ukwabelana ngesondo nomntu wesithathu kuya kuba sisondo kuphela. Akukho mzekelo uya kuvelisa ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo lowo abelana naye ngobudlelwane bakhe. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, kukho rhoqo ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba oku kunokwenzeka, ngumngcipheko omele ucingelwe. Okanye ukuba omnye umntu akakwazi ukuthwala olu hlobo lobudlelwane ngaphandle komtshato.
Ngoko ke, kwaye ngaphakathi kwesiqhelo, oko umona akufanele ubonakale, okanye ekuhambeni kwexesha naluphi na ugculelo okanye naluphi na uhlobo lwebango. Kusengqiqweni ukuba, ukuba ekugqibeleni oku kuthetha iingxaki ezininzi kuneenzuzo, kuya kufuneka ukuba kupheliswe la mava.
Nangona kunjalo, yonke into esingqongileyo kulo mbandela inokwahluka kakhulu. Abo baqhelisela ngokukhululekileyo nangendlela abaziyo bayazi into abayenzayo. Bayenza ngenxa yemfuneko kwaye bajonge njengoko besenza oko njengekhubalo.