Ukudakumba yimeko abantu abaninzi abadlula kuyo ebomini babo. Yimeko apho uziva ungalunganga malunga nawe kunye nabo bonke abantu abakungqongileyo. Awuboni nantoni na ngendlela elungileyo kwaye yonke into izakuhamba gwenxa. Iingxaki zengqondo ezinje ngoxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo ziyakuthatha kwaye ziba rhoqo kwimini yakho. Ungaphuma njani kuxinzelelo Ngomnye wemibuzo ebuzwa kakhulu ngabantu.
Ke ngoko, kweli nqaku siza kukuxelela iingcebiso zokufunda indlela yokuphuma kuxinzelelo.
Ungaphuma njani kuxinzelelo
Into yokuqala ekucetyiswayo xa uphuma kuxinzelelo kukuzinika ixesha. Kuqhelekile ukuba into eyoyikisayo ayiqhele ukwenzeka njengokuphoxeka kothando, ukungabikho emsebenzini, ukuhambisa umntu osondeleyo kuwe, njl. Kulungile ukuba ungalunganga okwethutyana. Lixesha apho silawula ukukulinganisa okwenzekileyo kuthi kwaye sizama ukuhlala nako. Kukho iingxaki ebomini ezingenasisombululo kwaye kufuneka sifunde ukuhlala nazo.
Utshintsho kubomi bethu aluchazwanga kangangezihlandlo ezininzi. Ukuze usombulule iingxaki eziza nolu tshintsho ebomini kufuneka sibe nexesha elithile apho ulwamkela olu tshintsho kwaye uphinde uhambe kwakhona. Kungcono ukuthatha ixesha ukungangxami kwaye uza kubona ukuba izinto zibuyela njani endaweni yazo okanye kwindawo entsha. Ukushiya indawo yokuthuthuzela kunokuba yinto edala uxinzelelo olukhulu emntwini. Ke ngoko, yeyona ilungileyo zinike ixesha elaneleyo kuwe ukuze ukwazi ukuziqhelanisa neemeko ezintsha.
Enye yeengcebiso zihlala zinikwa abantu abanokudakumba kukwabelana ngeemvakalelo zakho nomnye umntu. Kuya kufuneka ufumane umntu onokumthemba naye ngokwaneleyo ukuba uzive wonwabile ngokuthetha ngeengxaki zabo. Ungacingi ukuba uzele umntu ngeengxaki zakho, kodwa lo mntu uya kuziva enethamsanqa ukuba abe ngumntu omthembileyo. Kunzima ukuthetha nabanye abantu ngendlela oziva ngayo, kuba ukuthetha ngayo kubuhlungu ngakumbi kwaye kukwenza uzive ubuthathaka. Ndinabantu abangafuni kuzisola okanye bakhetha ukuchitha iintlungu bodwa.
Kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba ufumene iimvakalelo ezenza umntu obuthathaka. Ngokulula uzibonakalisa njengoko unjalo. Ukuba uziva ngathi akukho mntu ukujikelezile ofuna ukukumamela, unokwenza inyathelo lokuqala. Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kumangaliswa ngovelwano onokulufumana kwabo basondeleyo kuwe. Asingabo bonke abantu abanobuntununtunu obufanayo xa kufikwa ekuphulaphuleni iingxaki ezithile kunye nokuqonda iimvakalelo ezinzima zabanye. Ke ngoko kuyacetyiswa ukuba wazi indlela yokukhetha kakuhle phambi komntu oza kunxibelelana naye ngezinto zakho.
Ungaphuma njani kuxinzelelo: thintela ukuzisizela
Enye yezinto ezibalulekileyo xa kufikwa ekufundeni indlela yokuphuma kuxinzelelo kukungabi novelwano. Kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba awuvuyi eludakeni, njengoko kusitsho njalo, kuba yeyona ilula. Kulula ukuzisola ngazo zonke izinto ezenzekileyo kuwe kwaye Ndiziva ndingoyena mntu ulusizi emhlabeni. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umamela amabali abanye abantu, uyakubona ukuba awungowakhe. Wonke umntu ehlabathini uneengxaki mihla le ekufuneka ezisombulule kwaye ajongane nazo. Ihlala ingabantu abakwimeko embi kunawe. Oko akuthethi ukuba kuya kufuneka uxhomekeke kwinto yokuba kukho abantu abanesifo esibi ngakumbi kunawe kwaye iingxaki zakho azithethi nto. Kumaxesha amaninzi, ubunzulu beengxaki bujikeleza ngokubaluleka komntu ngamnye kubo.
Ungafumanisa ukuba uninzi lwabantu sele ludlulile kwiimeko ezibuhlungu kwaye baye bakwazi ukuzoyisa. Kuba bonke abantu kufuneka bayenze le nto, nawe ungaphumelela kuyo.
Ukushiya ikhaya kunokuba lolona khetho lubalulekileyo kuba ukuvalelwa akuncedi nganto. Kuya kufuneka unqumle kunxibelelwano lwasentlalweni, ucime iTV uye ngaphandle. Ukuthatha uhambo olude kunokunceda ukoyisa ixhala okanye wenze imidlalo ethile. Dibana nomntu, qubha echibini okanye elunxwemeni, nokuba kuthetha ntoni na ukuba ungatshixelwa.
Elinye icebo lokufunda indlela yokuphuma kuxinzelelo kukuba uphume nokuba awuziva ngathi. Shiya indlu ivuselela ingqondo yakho kwaye iququzelele ukuveliswa kwe-serotonin. I-Serotonin yi-neurotransmitter esebenza kulawulo lweemoods.
Ulibale ixesha elidlulileyo kwaye udle kakuhle
Kuya kufuneka ucinge ukuba elidlulileyo lidlulileyo kwaye alisayi kubuya. Lawa ngamanye amabinzana ekufuneka uwarekhodishe engqondweni yam ukuba ufuna ukufumanisa indlela yokuphuma kuxinzelelo. Oko kushiyeke ngasemva akusekho. Kuya kufuneka ucinge ukuba umzekelo, xa uhamba ngenqwelomoya kwaye ubona intaba enkulu nekhephu mgama mgama, emva kwemizuzu eli-10 loo ntaba ihambile. Kuthetha ukuba le ntaba sele idlulile kwaye awuyi kuba nakho ukuyibona kwakhona. Nokuba ujonga kangakanani ngefestile kwakhona, ngekhe uyibone loo ntaba. Nangona kunjalo, uya kuba nakho ukubona ezinye iintaba, izixeko, iilwandle kunye nemilambo ilingana okanye nangaphezulu kunentaba yangaphambili.
Yile ndlela ekufuneka ucinge ngayo ukuba izinto azikho ngonaphakade kwaye yonke into inesiphelo. Nangona kunjalo izinto ziphela kube kanye kwaye yonke into eyenzeka ngaphambili ayisiyonto engaphezulu kwenkqubela phambili. Kuya kufuneka ufunde ukonwabela iihambo ezintsha kunye nolonwabo oluncinci olunikwa bubomi.
Elinye icebo elinikwa abo bafuna ukufunda indlela yokuphuma kuxinzelelo kukutya ngokufanelekileyo. Enye yeendlela zokuziphatha zabantu abanexinzelelo kukutya okungalunganga. Batyeshelwe ngokupheleleyo emzimbeni nasengqondweni. Le mpazamo enkulu. Ukutya okutyayo suku ngalunye kuchaphazela ngqo imeko yakho. Kukho iinkqubo zemichiza kwingqondo yakho ezinokukwenza uzive ungcono okanye umbi ngakumbi kuxhomekeke kwinto oyityayo. Kufuneka unonophele kakuhle into oyityayo ukuze uzive ungcono.
Ndiyathemba ukuba ngolu lwazi ungafunda ngakumbi malunga nokuphuma kuxinzelelo.