Kukho abo bangacingi ukuba ubuhlobo bunokuba yinto engeyiyo. Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo abo bantu khange bachonge Abahlobo abanetyhefu. Kuya kufuneka uqale ngokwazi umthwalo onokuba nawo koluhlobo lwabahlobo ukuze uphucule kuwo. Ngokuqinisekileyo wakhe waba nomhlobo osoloko esikhathaza. Kwaye kukuba ezi ntlobo zabantu zinophawu kubuntu babo olwenza ukuba babe nezimo zengqondo kunye nokuziphatha okungalunganga kubuhlobo obunempilo kwaye kusenza sizive sibi.
Kule nqaku siza kukuxelela yonke into ofuna ukuyifumana malunga nabahlobo abanetyhefu, indlela yokuchonga kunye nendlela yokusombulula ingxaki.
Iimpawu zabahlobo abanetyhefu
Okokuqala, funda ukuqonda ukuba zeziphi izihlobo ezinetyhefu onazo kubahlobo bakho. Ngokwesiqhelo ngabantu abasonwabisa xa kukho into elungileyo eyenzekayo kuwe, ayikho xa uyifuna okanye isetyenziselwa kuphela impilo-ntle yakho. Masibone ukuba zeziphi iimpawu eziphambili zokuba ubuhlobo buqala ukuba yityhefu okanye abunqweneleki kuwe. Ubuhlobo bungaqala busempilweni, kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha, kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo, bunokujika bube yinto enetyhefu.
Isenokuba kungenxa yokuba nikhule nobabini kunye kunye nokuqhubela phambili ngakumbi kunenye. Lo mntu unokuba nomona ngawe kwaye angonwabi ngokwenene ngempumelelo yabo. Umona udlala indima ephambili kubahlobo abanetyhefu. Ukuba abantu abanomona banabahlobo abadlula yena, ngekhe azive kamnandi ngayo.
Makhe sihlalutye ukuba zeziphi ezona mpawu ziphambili zokuqaphela abahlobo abanetyhefu:
Bayamkela kwaye nawe uyapha
Siyazi ukuba loo mbono usekwe ekunikeni nasekufumaneni. Ukuba nangaliphi na ixesha uqaphela ukuba ibhalansi phakathi kwento oyinikayo kunye nento oyifumanayo ixhomekeke kakhulu, ingoyena mntu unegalelo kakhulu Kuya kufuneka uyicingisise imeko. Ngokuhlalutya le meko ungabeka zonke iimpikiswano etafileni kwaye ukuba ubona ukunqongophala kokulingana kubudlelwane nomhlobo wakho kwaye engakulungelanga ukutshintsha, ungaqala ukucinga ngokutsiba inqanawa.
Kwaye kukuba ekuhambeni kwexesha, ezi ntlobo zabahlobo zifuna ingqalelo yakho kodwa kunqabile ukuba bakunike ukuba uhlawule. Ezi ntlobo zabantu zaziwa njenge-vampires yeemvakalelo. Bangabo bantu bakwimpilo yakho kuphela kuba bafumana into njengembuyekezo. Nangona kunjalo, ngela xesha lenyaniso soze babe nawe oyidingayo.
Abakuxhasi ngenxa yendlela ophila ngayo
Enye yeempawu zokubona abahlobo abanetyhefu kukubona xa umntu ekuxhasa okanye hayi ngenxa yokuba ungubani. Siyazi ukuba zininzi iziqhulo zobuhlobo phakathi koogxa babo kwaye zihlala zihleli. Uninzi lwezi jokes kwaye zihlala zithatha kakuhle nangona ngamanye amaxesha zidlala ngezinto eziethe-ethe. Kulapho ukuhleka kunye nokubona kusekwe khona. Nangona kunjalo, xa kukho ukugxekwa kwaye kukwenza uzive ungalunganga rhoqo, yenaUninzi lwabo luqala ukuyiphinda ngexesha lencoko yemihla ngemihla. Oku kuya kubuyeka ubudlelwane kunye neziqhulo ekubeni zilungele wena.
Ewe ubuhlobo obunetyhefu bunokukwenza ukuba ubandezeleke njengoko buqala ukukujongela phantsi. Le yindlela yokusebenzisa abahlobo abanetyhefu ukuphakamisa imeko yabo ngaphezulu kweyakho. Ngokwesiqhelo, olu hlobo lweemeko zihlala zibuhlungu ngakumbi xa zisenzeka esidlangalaleni. Kulapho ke kufuneka sikhumbuze umhlobo wethu ukuba ufuna ukuphathwa ngentlonipho. Ukuba omnye umntu akavumanga, kungcono uhambe kwaye uzinike ixesha lokucingisisa.
Awunakho ukubathemba abahlobo abanetyhefu ngobudlelwane babo
Enye into ebalulekileyo kubahlobo abanetyhefu kukuba awukwazi ukuxelela ezona zinto bazifihlileyo. Siyazi ukuba abahlobo bokwenyani babalwa kwiminwe yesandla esinye. Kwisangqa sabahlobo, eInani labantu abanokukuxelela malunga nokusondela kwabo lincinci kakhulu. Bambalwa kuphela abakhethiweyo abaqinisekisile kule minyaka idlulileyo ukuba banokuthenjwa ngokungaboni. Obunye ubuhlobo bubuninzi bobudlelwane obuphezulu apho sabelana ngeengcinga ezingabalulekanga, amava kunye nezimvo. Nangona kunjalo, ngabantu abambalwa kuphela esibabeka kubo iimfihlelo zethu ezifihlakeleyo kuba siyayazi into abathembekileyo kuyo. Ukongeza, ihlala iphindaphinda. Ndiyathetha, bayazithemba neemfihlo zabo apha.
Simele sikhumbule ukuba abantu abafezekanga. Kungenzeka ukuba ezinye iimpazamo zingenziwa xa uthemba umntu ukuba ugcine imfihlo. Nangona kunjalo, kunomdla ukuqala ukungathembi umhlobo wakho xa engalumkanga kangangezihlandlo ezininzi. Kule meko kungcono ukunyaniseka kuye kwaye ubonise ukudana kwakho ngayo. Ukuba awuvumelani, kungcono ubuphelise ubudlelwane bobuhlobo okanye uyeke kudlule ixesha.
Bayakunceda uvelise olona hlobo lubi kuwe
Ngokuqinisekileyo ukhe waphazamiseka ngokweemvakalelo okanye amaxesha amabi ebomini. Ukuba kwezi meko le khowudi ayinakho ukuba secaleni kwakho njengeqabane, kungcono ukuba uhlukane kancinane naye. Banokukhetha ukuba uqhubeke nokusela utywala okanye ukuhlala nabanye abantu, ukuba baphila baphelise ubudlelwane ngaphandle kokuzama ukuphucula imeko okanye ukuba bacebise ukuba kufuneka wenze utshintsho emzimbeni ukuphucula ukuzithemba kwakho. Ukuba le yimeko yakho, zama ukuya kufuna ubuhlobo obutsha, obunempilo.
Abahlobo abanetyhefu kunye nokudana
Xa umhlobo ephakama rhoqo ukuhlangana nabanye abantu kuyacaphukisa, kodwa uninzi lwethu luyayamkela, bayishiya ingabalulekanga. Ukuba uhlala urhoxisa ukuphuma ukuze uphephe usuku olunokwenzeka, sihlala siqonda. Nangona kunjalo, Ukuba le meko iba rhoqo kungenxa yokuba awuyonto iphambili kuye. Eyona nto iqhelekileyo kukuba apha baphumle kwesi simo sengqondo kuba amava abonisa ukuba olu hlobo lobuhlobo kunzima ukulubuyisela.
Ndiyathemba ukuba ngolu lwazi ungafunda ngakumbi malunga nabahlobo abanetyhefu kwaye ungababona njani.