'Yiba ungenzi lutho' inencazelo yayo engokoqobo. yilokho umuntu ohlala engasebenzi, evumela konke okumzungezile ukuthi kwenzeke futhi kwenzeke ngaphandle kokungenelela kwakhe. Ngamanye amazwi, incazelo yalo idluliselwe ezimweni zengqondo ezihlobene nobuhlobo njengombhangqwana. Kulokhu, icala lifakwa kumuntu ngezenzo zocansi ezingenzi lutho, lapho ehlanganyela ngokunganaki embhedeni.
Ngakho-ke, ukusebenza nokungenzi lutho kunama-nuances ako. Umuntu ohlale ematasa embhedeni nguye odlala umdlalo wonke kanti umuntu ongenzi lutho nguye ovumela ukungena. Kunemibono yokuthi abantu ababili ababamba iqhaza embhedeni sebevele 'bakhuthele' kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubani osebenzisa ukungena noma okumele kungene.
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thula kufana nokuzithoba, ku-jargon yocansi umuntu ohlala engenzi lutho kuyilapho omunye umuntu ebamba iqhaza ekungeneni, kungaba ngesitho sangasese sowesifazane, ngokuphumela obala noma ngomlomo, okubizwa ngokuthi. asebenzayo. Akukhathalekile ukuthi ubani osebenzisa leli gama, ngoba kungaba umuntu wanoma ibuphi ubulili, ubulili noma ubulili
Umuntu ohlala engenzi lutho uthatha indima yokungenzi lutho, ngubani ikhetha indawo yocansi engasebenzi futhi ivumela omunye umuntu ukuthi athathe isimo socansi esibizwa ngokuthi 'esiguquguqukayo'.
abashadile kukholakala ukuthi ebudlelwaneni bobulili obufanayo bagcina lolu hlobo lwesenzo. Lapho omunye wabo ehlala egcina leso simo sengqondo sokungenzi lutho kanye nendima esebenzayo. Kodwa amadoda amaningi akholelwa ukuthi le nkolelo ayilungile neze, njengoba abelwe indlela efanayo nombhangqwana phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane futhi ngenxa yalokho ayawuqeda lo mbono.
Lapho umuntu oyedwa elele embhedeni futhi eyeka omunye enze ilebulwe ngokuthi 'yenza'. Akusho ukuthi kusukela ekuqaleni kuze kube sekupheleni yilowo osesimweni sokuzithoba, kodwa lokho kamuva angathatha isinyathelo. Kodwa-ke, asikho isidingo sokwesaba ukungenzi lutho embhedeni, ungajabulela ucansi ngokuthula ngenkathi ukulesi sikhundla futhi wazi ukuthi ubamba iqhaza kanjani emdlalweni.
Ukuze usebenze noma ungenzi lutho?
Isenzo socansi siwuhlobo lokuhlola okuphelele lapho abantu ababili befuna ukubamba iqhaza emdlalweni wokuxhumana nokubamba iqhaza ngothando abaluzwayo. Nakuba kungadingeki kube uthando, kodwa kuyinjabulo nenjabulo, lapho ukuvumelanisa phakathi kwabantu ababili kungenakunakwa.
Iqhaza elithi 'iba phezulu noma phansi' iwumphumela lapho umuntu ngamunye esenzweni socansi kufanele abambe noma iyiphi yalezi zindima ezimbili. Kuwumsebenzi okufanele uhlukaniswe izingxenye ezimbili, okungenani yilokho okuhlosiwe.
umdlalo wocansi iqala ngokuhlolwa kwemizimba yabo, lapho umdlalo wokuqala ujatshulelwa futhi kucaciswa lokho okufiswayo ngaleso sikhathi futhi yini ongayithandi. Iyadedela. Lapho umsebenzi uthatha umbala yilapho imibhangqwana eminingi ikhetha ukufinyelela ukungena. Ngokuvamile omunye wabo nguye olala phansi futhi ujabulela okunye. Ngalesi sikhathi yilapho kufanele ujabulele futhi uthathwe umzuzwana.
Imibhangqwana eminingi igcina isikhundla esisebenzayo ngoba ngaso sonke isikhathi ifuna ukuba nomsebenzi ocacile, futhi kunjalo nikeza injabulo ngaphandle kwekhefu. Ngesikhathi esifanayo lapho umuntu osebenzayo ezibeka khona, unikeza injabulo, kodwa akusho ukuthi akazijabuleli. Ubuye ajabule nama-caresses okuthambile, kwesinye isikhathi kushubile, ngokuqabula... nalapho omunye umuntu angabamba iqhaza (ngisho nangokungena).
Lapho umuntu zama ukujabulisa omunye kungahle kube nomphumela kumnandi kakhulu, njengoba ukuzama ukuvusa omunye umuntu kungase kujabulise. Ingabe ungomunye walabo bantu abathanda ukujabulisa noma ukukwamukela?
Lapho ungenzi lutho futhi ufuna ushintsho
Ukuze sibe nempilo esebenzayo kanye nomsebenzi ogcwele wocansi, kufanele sikucacise lokho ukudla kokudla kwakho Kuningi okuphathelene nendlela yakho yokuphila. Noma ngabe yiluphi uhlobo locansi olwenzayo, kufanele ulufake ekudleni kwakho ukudla okuphezulu kwefayibha. Le ngxenye izuzisa ikholoni futhi yilokho kanye okudingayo ukuze uhlale uhlanzekile.
Kukhona lokho ukunciphisa amafutha futhi ikakhulukazi lapho egcwele. Umzimba nekhanda kuzothokozela ukunciphisa ukuthathwa kwalesi sakhi. Lokhu kuzobonakala ngoba kuzosiza ukusebenza kakhulu futhi umzimba namathumbu kuzohlanzeka kakhulu.
zinakekele Kubaluleke kakhulu, noma ngabe ungowesifazane, ungowesilisa noma unoma yiluphi uhlobo locansi, uma siphila impilo yocansi, kumele sicace ukuthi inhlanzeko nayo ibalulekile. Futhi kulokhu, sinezela lokho esikushilo, isimo sengqondo esihle sokukwazi ukusebenza embhedeni. Uma uthanda ukwazi okwengeziwe ngalezi zihloko, ungafunda kabanzi ngazo “Imidlalo engcono kakhulu yangaphambi kokuya ocansini ongazijayeza nophathina wakho”.