Akusilo icala lokuqala noma lokugcina, lapho abantu ababili Bazama ukugcina ubudlelwane buqhelile. Uthando luvele ngokungaguquguquki nangokuthandekayo futhi selwenze abantu ababili ungafuni ukuyeka ukugcina ubuhlobo obuseduze, ngokunamathiselwe okufanayo futhi ngaphandle kokudebesela ukulahlwa. Sekuyisikhathi sokukhipha ibhalansi futhi ubheke ukuthi ngabe ubudlelwano bungaqhutshwa ngale ndlela.
Ayikho imithetho yendawo yonke yokwazi ukusebenzisa uchungechunge lwezinkambiso ezingaba khona nse. Umuntu ngamunye uthola ubuntu obuhlukile, ngale ndlela asikwazi ukuqala ukusho ukuthi izinto ziyasebenza futhi kufanele basebenze kahle ngendlela eyodwa. Kumele hlola indlela yakho yokuphila eceleni kwalowo muntu, uma ufuna ubudlelwano bebanga elide kufanele busebenze.
Ngabe ubudlelwano bebanga elide buyasebenza?
Ngobuqotho bangempela, ubudlelwane obude obude mhlawumbe ngeke kube nesiphetho esihle. Uma ubudlelwano buhlanganisiwe futhi unesibopho esibi kakhulu namathuba okucabanga ukuthi ungumuntu ofanele, Izindlela nezindlela zizohlala zifunwa ukuze lolu thando lugcine luhlangana ngendlela eqinile futhi esondelene kakhulu.
Kunezindlela zokukhulisa lobo budlelwano, njengoba zinjalo ubuchwepheshe obukhulu banamuhla, engasisiza silondoloze ubungane nabalingani abaningi. Bazosivumela ukuthi sixhunywe nganoma yisiphi isikhathi sosuku, ngemilayezo, izingcingo zevidiyo nokuthumela izithombe, into engacabangi iminyaka eminingana.
Ngokuya ngocwaningo olushicilelwe yi-University of Hong Kong (China) kanye neCornell (USA), kuphothulwe ukuthi ukugcina ubudlelwane obude kungathela kakhulu futhi kuphumelele, Njengoba sinjalo ukusiza ukuthuthukisa uthando nesifiso ukuhlakulela "ukucabanga njalo kwalowo muntu."
Le datha ingahlinzeka ngemininingwane yethemba elihle, kepha akubona bonke abantu abangagcina lowo mqondo ungathathi hlangothi, ngoba abakwazi ukukala leso sifiso futhi bangakwazi ukusifeza ngokushesha.
Ungathatheki ngokudabuka
Uthathe isinqumo sokusamukela lesi simo futhi nobudlelwano bakho kumele bube njalo qala ebunganeni ngenhlonipho enkulu. Zama ukususa ukucabanga njalo kwalowo muntu, ngoba manje Sekuyisikhathi sokucabanga ngazo zonke lezo zinto zokuzilibazisa kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho obungakwazanga ukukwenza ngaphambilini ngenxa yesikhathi osichithe nomlingani wakho.
Kungakho gcina ukubekezela njalo ebhekene nesimo esinjalo futhi afune ukwazi ukugcina inqubo Kuyithuluzi elihle lokuzivumelanisa naleli qiniso.
Kufanele ugcine isixhumanisi
Kufanele ubalule leso sibopho esigcina wena, okunamathiselwe, injabulo kanye nendlela eyakhayo eyenza lobo buhlobo buxabiseke. Uma uzizwa ukhululekile ngempela, uhlonishwa futhi waziswa yilowo muntu, lapho-ke Akunasidingo sokuyibuyekeza futhi. Uma ukuhlangana kabusha kulindeleke esikhathini esifushane, esiphakathi noma eside, lapho ningaba ndawonye, lokho kungabaluleka. Into ebalulekile yisikhuthazo esilindelekile mayelana nezinye izithandani, usuku enizobonana ngalo.
Izinkinga ezingenzeka ezingase ziphakame
Imicabango yokungabi nathemba ingavela, ukuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi sicabanga ngobudlelwano obungenakusekelwa ngokuzayo. Le mibono iyavela ngokungabi nentshisekelo ukuthi ngikwazi ukulahla okukodwa kwalokhu okubili, ngokuzibophezela okukhulu, nokuthi kusobala ukuthi omunye wabantu ababili uyakubona.
Ukuntuleka kwezikhathi zokusondelana, kwe-caresses nokusenza sizizwe sihle nomunye umuntu, ngamaqiniso okuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi anesisindo, ukuthi abakwazi ukucebiswa ngalokho esikufunayo. Us ungena esikhundleni sokudumala nokukhungatheka ukuthi okulindelwe kulowo muntu akukwazeki.
Ngaphandle kobuhlungu obuqhubekayo bokungabi nalo muntu eduze, uma uthando luqinile, kunemibhangqwana eyenza umzamo wokuxhumana futhi izwe izikhathi zayo yokusondelana.
Yamukela ubudlelwano futhi ufune iseluleko esihle kakhulu sokubulondoloza
Uma lolu shintsho lubangelwe okuthile okungalindelekile kufanele wamukele ushintsho. Awusakwazi ukwenza izinto ezifanayo njengakuqala, ngakho-ke kufanele funa amamodeli amasha nezinye izindlela zokuwenza usebenze.
Kufanele ukhulume ngokucacile nangokuqondile kuzo zonke izikhathi ongahlangana nazo ngamazwi. Kuhle kakhulu khuluma ngokwethembeka futhi uveze omunye umuntu kulokho abhekene nakho, ukukhathazeka kwakhe, okunamathiselwe kuye, izinhlelo zakhe zesikhathi esizayo, izinsuku zakhe ezidabukisayo ...
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Ungazizwa uthwele kanzima, zilinganise uma uzithola ukulohlobo oluthile lobudlelwano ngaphandle kwamabanga. Izikhathi eziningi ubudlelwano obubekezelelekayo, obudinga ukuthi nibonane nsuku zonke nangokujwayelekile, abusekeli esinye isisekelo ngaphandle kwesithukuthezi. Uma sikhipha uhlangothi oluhle lobudlelwano bebanga elide singaqinisa uthando namandla ezocansi.