Imibhangqwana eminingi icabanga kabusha iqiniso lokwazi ukuthi iyondla ubudlelwano obunempilo. Ngaphakathi kwesibopho sothando, singase singaqondi ukuthi yonke into iqala ngonyawo lwangakwesokudla. Bonke ubudlelwano buba nezimpawu zabo zokuqala. ungayibona pink Futhi lokho kungakwenza ungabaze ukuthi lowo muntu othintana naye kuqala waziswa kanjani.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uhlobo lobudlelwano besikhathi eside luyabonwa, ngeminyaka eminingi yobudlelwano. Isixhumanisi phakathi kwakho kokubili nokunamathiselwe akukuvumeli ukuthi ubone ukuthi ugcina ubudlelwano obunempilo ngempela yini. Ungabona ukuthi kukhona okungalungile futhi ungabaze uma lokho onakho kungahamba ngendlela enhle. Okokuqala kufanele uhlaziye imininingwane ukuze ukwazi ukuyenza ukuhlolwa kobudlelwano bakho.
Bunjani ubudlelwano obunempilo?
Ebudlelwaneni obuhle obungenazo izingxabano kufanele kuvuze uchungechunge lwezimfanelo esivame ukungakubongi noma singakunaki. Kubalulekile landela le nombolo yemininingwane ukuze ubudlelwano nesikhathi bungaphazamiseki.
- Inhlonipho iyikhwalithi yokuqala. Umuntu kumele ahloniphe indlela oyiyo nobuntu bakho ngaphezu kwakho konke, kufanele akuthande ngempela ukuthi unjani futhi ungubani.
- Ukukhulumisana okuhle kubuvuza ubuhlobo. Ningayifihli imizwa, imizwa nokukhathazeka okungase kuphakame njengombhangqwana. Kufanele wazi ukuthi ukhuluma kanjani futhi uvumele ukulalela.
- Ngokuthembakala kuyimfanelo ehambisana nokuzethemba. Uma imfihlakalo iqala ukuba khona, uma idatha ifihliwe noma amanga abanjwe, mhlawumbe lokhu ungaqali ukunikeza ukwethembeka lobudlelwano obuhle. Iqiniso lalolu hlobo lwamanga lingabangela umona ongalindelekile noma lokho akukho ukwethembana.
- Nikeza futhi uthathe Kuyindlela yokubonisa lonke uthando lwakho. Lapho oyedwa kulaba bantu ababili kungenzeka ukuthi ubhekene nesikhathi esibi, oyedwa kulaba ababili Ngenza lowo mzamo omkhulu ukugcina ukudlidliza okuphezulu. Ukusekela kubalulekile, kuhlale kukhona futhi kukhulise intshisekelo yokulalela nokunikeza ihlombe lakho.
Izici zokugcina ubudlelwano obunempilo
Ukuxhumana kuhlale kuyisiqubulo esikhulu kunoma ibuphi ubuhlobo, kokubili umndeni nothando. I inhlonipho nokwethembeka. Lolu lwazi lubalulekile, njengoba ukuxhumana kungaphenduka ingxoxo futhi akukuhle ukuza kuleli gama izikhathi eziningi. Izingxoxo kumele zibe zokuxoxisana, ngenhloso yokwakha futhi zingashiyi izinto njengoba bezinjalo. Umbono wakho konke lokhu sinikele ngezinhlamvu zethu zesihlabathi ukuze ubudlelwano bakhe, ngaphandle kwesidingo sokungena endimeni ebhubhisayo futhi enobuthi.
Ukuze kube nokuxhumana okuhle kufanele njalo phawula nganoma yiliphi iqiniso, ngenhlonipho futhi ngaphandle kokuzama ukucasula noma ubani. Ikhono lokusho izinto kufanele lihambe ngenhloso yokuxhumana futhi hhayi ukuklabalasa noma ukukhuluma kabi.
Abantu ababili kungaba tholani ukuthandana futhi nokho abanakho okuningi abafana ngakho. Kodwa-ke, bakhule bethola futhi babonise lokho okubalulekile futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ukuqopha ulimi lwakho ukuze ukwazi ukukhuluma ulimi olufanayo, kufanele ubheke ukuthintana ngokomzimba futhi nikela isikhathi sekhwalithi.
Kufanele uhloniphe indawo yomuntu siqu. Kubonakala sengathi ibinzana eliphikisanayo lisho ukuthi kufanele nichithe isikhathi ndawonye, kodwa izinga lesikhathi phakathi kombhangqwana linempilo kakhulu. Abantu ababili abathandanayo bafuna ukuba ndawonye futhi gcinani isikhathi eside ndawonye. Eqinisweni, umzamo wokuba ndawonye uyothela ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Ngaphandle kwalokho singakhuluma ngakho ukuncika, kodwa ngaphandle kokweqisa, njengoba umuntu ngamunye kufanele abe nendawo yakhe siqu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kunempilo ukuthi wonke umuntu abe neyakhe isikhathi samahhala nokusesha komuntu siqu nokuthi umlingani wakho kufanele akuhloniphe.
Ukuze unakekele ubudlelwano kufanele funda ukuphila ngokungafani. Uma uthando lukhona ngempela, kufanele uphile nalo, ngaphandle kokwenza into embi. Kufanele nazi imibono yomunye nomunye futhi lalela. Uma kufanele nixoxe ungakwazi inkhulumomphendvulwano, kodwa ngaphandle kokuya ngokwedlulele ukuzonda noma ukungahloniphi.
Ukuba umbhangqwana ojabulayo nokuba nobudlelwano obunempilo kuwumsebenzi wokufanelekela amaphuzu amaningi. Kafushane le mibuzo ingacaciswa. Ungahlala wenza yonke leyo migomo namaphupho ukuze ukuze ukwazi ukuqinisa ubudlelwano obubufuna. Kufanele njalo ibe semthethweni ukuxhumana okuhle y Funda kwi ngazo zonke izikhathi. Noma iyiphi yazo kufanele ibe nesikhala sayo, izinhloso zayo namaphupho, futhi lokho kufanele kube njalo ehlonishwa ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Ubuhlobo obuhle benza abantu ababili bazane futhi bafune ukwazana kakhudlwana. Kufanele njalo uklomelise ukuncoma omunye komunye futhi izinkinga kumele zixazulule ngokuhlanganyela futhi bheka izixazululo ezisebenzayo zazo zombili. Ukusekela nokuqonda kuzovuza isisekelo esihle.