Uma ungenawo umbono ocacile wokuthi kuyini umbalisi, kusukela lapha sichaza ngokuningiliziwe ukuphazamiseka kobuntu esikuvezayo. Ukuzigqaja kwakhe okuphezulu kokuthanda u-"Mina" wakhe kwenza izinkinga eziningi empilweni yakho ziwumphumela wendlela owenza ngayo yonke into, futhi lokho kuzokuvumela ukukubona emsebenzini, ebudlelwaneni bakho noma ezindabeni zezomnotho. Nakuba kubonakala kungenakwenzeka, ama-narcissists agcina ubudlelwano, kodwa Unjani umlingani ofanelekile we-narcissist?
Izici ezibaluleke kakhulu ze-narcissist yilezo zokufuna ukuheha kakhulu ukutuswa kwabanye, kodwa abanalo nhlobo uzwela ngabanye. Bahlala benobudlelwane obuphikisanayo futhi bahlala bethanda ukugqoka lezo zikhali zokuba nokuphepha okukhulu, nakuba beqaphela kunokuzethemba okuntekenteke ngenxa yokugxekwa okuphezulu okungenzeka kube nakho.
Ungaba kanjani ngempela umlingani ofanelekile we-narcissist?
Sichaze izimfanelo ezibaluleke kakhulu zalobu buntu, lapho sifuna umuntu amandla okuhlala ebheka owesifazane ongcono kakhulu azokhuliswa. Kodwa, uzokwenza kuphela ukuthuthukisa isithunzi sakhe emphakathini. Futhi kufana nokuthi ukunqoba lowo muntu njalo uzofuna indima yokuba yiqhawe, umuntu obaluleke kakhulu owehluleka ukukhombisa noma ofuna indima yokuba isisulu. Ngale ndlela, kuzodingeka uqiniseke ukuthi omunye umuntu kufanele abe lula, abe nozwela kwabanye futhi asetshenziswe ngokomzwelo.
Angamaphuzu angempela futhi nakuba ngaphakathi kwalokho okuchazwayo nokuba umbhangqwana olawulwa imizwelo, empeleni bangabantu abaqinile. Baziveza njengabanzima ukukunqoba nokubusa futhi bayakuthanda lokho ngoba kuyinselelo enkulu.
Ikusasa lomuntu we-narcissist iziveza njengenselele enkulu, futhi anqotshwe noma anqotshwe lapho enikezwa ukulondeka okukhulu. Kodwa-ke, kukhona ama-daffodil aqinile ngandlela-thile, ngakho ayancama futhi lapho engakutholi akufunayo, ahamba ayofuna inyamazane elula kakhulu.
Ubuntu bozakwethu we-narcissist
Umkami wenarcissist unesiphiwo esikhulu. Ukuze uthole lolu hlobo lomuntu kufanele ugqame phakathi kwabo bonke abanye futhi kude. Bangabantu abanamandla, okunzima ukubanqoba futhi bazwela kakhulu kuwo wonke umuntu. Banobuntu obuhle obuthatha ukuthi bayazethemba, banesimilo futhi bayindondo enkulu kunazo zonke laba bantu abangaba nayo. ukuze i-ego yakhe ephakeme isabalale empilweni yakhe.
Kungani lolu hlobo lomuntu? Empeleni, kuyinto abayithandayo, kodwa umuntu ogqama ngalezi zici futhi engumlingani we-narcissist ngeke enze omunye umuntu amthathe, kodwa njengomuntu obalulekile ukuba nomona.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kukhona owesifazane omnandi futhi onakekelayo, ngokungafani neyokuqala, uzwela kakhulu, ngandlela-thile uyazithoba futhi ngenxa yalokho, uzokwenza konke okusemandleni ukuze amjabulise. Eqinisweni, i-prototype yokuqala kunzima ukuyithola, ngakho-ke lesi sibonelo sesibili singaba cishe kukho konke ukunqoba kwakhe.
Lapho ekhetha owesifazane onalezi zici, ngempela Kuwukuthatha indawo yokubukeka kwakhe njengomuntu enomfazi omthandayo futhi ngale ndlela kuba lula kuye ukuba naloluhlobo lobuntu eceleni kwakhe, kunokuba hhayi owesifazane ozifakela imbangi yakhe. Kodwa iqiniso elibuhlungu lakho konke lokhu ukuthi lezi zinhlobo zabantu aziphunyuki noma azigobeki ebuntwini bazo, kodwa kunalokho Bazoqhubeka bephila ukuphila kwabo okumbaxa-mbili.
Ingabe umlingani wenarcissist angaba umkakhe?
Eqinisweni, yebo, noma yini ingenzeka, i-narcissist Uzokwenza konke okusemandleni ukumenza unkosikazi wakhe futhi enze indlela ekahle yokuphila ibe semthethweni. Ugqozi lwakho kuzoba ukuba nokuthula nawo wonke umuntu, ube nendlela yokuphila abaningi abayifisayo futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke ukugcina indlela yokuphila oyifisa kakhulu.
Kwenzakalani lapho kutholakala i-narcissist yangempela? Iqiniso angeke libe elinye, uzozama ukumshiya ngoba impela ukhashelwe ngayo yonke indlela. Yilapho izinkinga ziqala khona kanye nesihloko zama ukuphatha iqiniso ukwenza omunye umuntu azizwe enecala ngakho konke okwenzekayo. Ezimweni eziningi zalezi zimo, owesifazane uzodinga amandla amaningi futhi usizo lukachwepheshe ukuze akwazi ukukushiya.
I-narcissist ayisoze yaba umuntu ofanele
Ngokuvamile, lezi zinhlobo zabantu abazi ukuthi bamthanda kanjani ngempela omunye umuntu. Ama-Narcissists awangeni othandweni, kodwa kunalokho athatheka, ukukhohlisa kwawo kufinyelela ngokweqile, kodwa ngeke kube phakade. Lezi zinhlobo zabantu ziyazi ukuthi lo muntu zizoba ngaphansi kwezinyawo zazo, ziyazi ukuthi ziyahlanya zithandana naye. Kodwa empeleni, nakuba i-whimsy yakhe ingathola uthando oluncane, njalo Bayoba abantu abazi kuphela ukuzithanda.