Bekulokhu kukhona ubuciko bokuyenga futhi indoda ibilokhu ithande noma yiliphi iqhinga nendlela yokwazi ukunqoba umuntu wesifazane. Kodwa-ke, alukho uhlobo lwenkambiso noma enye ifomula yomlingo esiseduze ukuze ukwazi ukukwenza, kepha kulula kakhulu ukuthi ungazama kanjani ukuthola amakhemikhali kanye vumela ubuntu bakho bugeleze.
Kunezici eziningi ezingahlanganisa indlela yokuthola ukunqoba. Ngokuvamile singakhombisa ukuthi ukuzama ukwenza umuntu athandane akusebenzi kahle, kungcono ukubhenela kukho isikhashana, ukudlidlizela okuphezulu. Kepha singasebenzisa uchungechunge lwemininingwane nokhiye abangasebenza futhi benze ukunqoba kwenzeke. ufike esiphethweni esihle.
Yini okhiye bokunqoba umuntu wesifazane?
Ngaphakathi kwemizamo yokukwazi ukunqoba umuntu wesifazane kuyinto nikeza lokho kubukeka kwendoda ethokozisayo, futhi ngaphandle kokungabaza akubuzwa ukuthi uzenza lokhu ongeyona, kodwa ukuthi uyikho ngempela.
Ukhiye wokuqala ohamba phambili ukuzithanda
Yize kubonakala kuwubuwula, kuyinto abesifazane abayithandayo nabayazisa kakhulu. Indoda awukwazi ukuzenza onentshisekelo kodwa ube ungenayo impilo yakho. Akudingeki ukuthi ubukise ngomzimba omuhle, uhlakaniphe kakhulu, noma ube nomsebenzi omuhle. Siyazi ukuthi lezi yizici eziheha okuningi, ngoba iningi lethu libheka leyo mininingwane.
Kodwa owesifazane ekugcineni izokwazisa ingxenye enganakile kakhulu nabantu abanezinhloso ezinkulu empilweni. Uma ungazi ukuthi uzoqala kuphi, ungaqala ngokuhlakulela eminye imininingwane efana nale: uzibekele imigomo emikhulu (izifundo, imincintiswano noma imisebenzi), zijwayeze ezemidlalo, funda, ufunde amakhono amasha noma uphakamise ukwenza izinto ezikuthokozisa kakhulu.
Nakekela ukubukeka kwakho
Ngaphandle kokungabaza lesi sici sibalulekile. Umuntu othanda ukuzinakekela ngaphakathi nangaphandle uyohlale enikeza okuhle kakhulu kwemizwa. Umuntu kufanele yiba ne- ukubukeka okuhlanzekile, kucocekile futhi ugqoke amakha amahle futhi enziwe samuntu. Uma nawe ulinga ukuzivocavoca ezemidlalo, kuzofakwa isici esibaluleke kakhulu ekuhambeni kwesikhathi ukunakekela impilo yakho. Esinye isisusa ongangeza ukuzama ukushintsha ukubukeka kwakho, ungaphuma endaweni yakho yokunethezeka bese uzama izinto ezintsha. Ngeza izingubo ezintsha ku-repertoire yakho yezingubo noma shintsha isitayela sakho sezinwele.
Khombisa ubuntu obungathathi hlangothi
Lokhu ukungena okubalulekile futhi abesifazane abaningi abakunakile. Umuntu kufanele uzethembe, unobuntu obuphumayo, noma kungenjalo ngendlela yehaba. Ungazethembi ngokweqile kowesifazane, ngoba angabonakala ebukhali.
Futhi ungabheki ukuthi uzokwenza kanjani izinto noma ukuthi abanye bazocabangani ngokwenza ngendlela ethile. Uma kuyingxenye yobuntu bakho kufanele ukwenze futhi uzizwe uqinisekile ngawe. Umuntu onalesi simo futhi ngaphandle kokuqhubeka ekhononda ngokwenzekayo, uheha izimo ezinhle kakhulu.
Khombisa intshisekelo nokunakekela konke okuthandayo
Ukuxhumana kuyisihluthulelo futhi owesifazane uthanda ukukuthola yini edala ukwazi komuntu. Indoda eqaphelayo ekhanyiswe ngowesifazane izoba namathuba amaningi okuthola ukunqoba okukhulu.
Uma lowo wesifazane enobuntu bakhe nezinto azithandayo, ungahlala njalo uzibhalele lokho akuthandayo ukuze nikwazi ukuba nesihloko sengxoxo enisithandayo nobabili. Enye imininingwane ebathandayo futhi ukufunda izinto ezintsha ngomuntu nokwazi ukuthi azimoshi isikhathi uma benosuku. Awukwazi ukulahlekelwa imininingwane yokuthi ugqoke kanjani, isitayela sakhe sezinwele noma ukuthi uhlelwe kanjani. Abesifazane bathanda ukuthi amadoda azinake nokutshelwa ukuthi zinhle kakhulu, zinamagama othando.
Awunakuphuthelwa umuzwa wokuhlekisa
Umqondo wokuhlekisa uyingxenye yobuntu futhi lokho kungamandla amakhulu. Lo mqondo uvuna yonke imisinga yokuphila, usiza ukwakha ubungani emphakathini, kunciphisa ukucindezeleka nokudangala.
Owesifazane uzothanda ukujabula futhi abe nosuku oluhle imizwa emihle nokugcwala uhleko. Kuyi-anecdote eyisisekelo yokuthi leyo ntombazane ikhangwe ngokwengqondo. Yebo kunjalo, kufanele kube yinto ezenzekelayo hhayi ephoqelelwe, njengoba ingakhombisa okuthile okungamanga futhi ibukeke "ihlekisa."
Yenza usuku luthakazelise futhi lwehluke
Ungathuthukisa futhi ukwenze lokhu ngalesi sikhathi ube usuku oluhlukile noluthokozisayo. Ungazama izinto ezihlukile, njengokuya ezindaweni ezintsha, ukuzama ukuya epaki yokuzijabulisa, uhambo oluthile, umdlalo othile owedlulele ... noma ukufunda ukupheka isidlo esisha ndawonye.
Into ebalulekile ukwenza okuhlukile kulowo mhlangano futhi noma nini lapho enendlela ethile efana nayo uzokukhumbula. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi into ebalulekile ngalezi zeluleko ngukuthi ube nobuntu bakho futhi lokho kusho ukuthi uyazithanda. Kufanele uvumele ukubekezela kubuse futhi ujabulele zonke izikhathi impilo ekunikeza zona.