Ubudlelwano obuningi dlula ezimweni zokunqikaza, Futhi yize abantu ababili sebenziwe ngokusemthethweni njengezithandani, kusekhona ukungabaza ukuthi umlingani wakho uyakuthanda yini. Ukungaqiniseki kungafika lapho okunamathiselwe kusungulwe phakathi kwabantu ababili. Isikhathi singadlula futhi omunye wabo nikela okuningi kakhulu kunokwamukelayo.
Sifuna njalo inhlonipho nothando olungenamibandela, uma kungakhonjiswa futhi ubudlelwane abuqhubeki buya phambili, mhlawumbe kungcono unikeze iphuzu lokugcina. Kodwa ingabe singenza iphutha? Uyabona yini ukuthi umlingani wakho uyasithanda ngempela? Impendulo inguyebo, kukhona uchungechunge lwemininingwane engasicacisa wonke lawo maphuzu okungaqiniseki, nokuthi sikukhombisa wona ngokulandelayo.
Izindlela zokwazi ukuthi umlingani wakho uyakuthanda yini
Ukwazi uma umuntu ekuthanda ngempela kuyindaba yokuyihlaziya nokunye kwe- izimpawu zokuthi ukukhombisa nsuku zonke. Akungabazeki ukuthi "isenzo sinenani lamagama ayinkulungwane" futhi umlingani wakho kufanele ahlanganise amaningi ala maphuzu esiwabonisa ngezansi:
Ukhombisa uthando lwakhe nsuku zonke futhi akahlose ukukushintsha
Umuntu okuthandayo, uzofuna ukuba eceleni kwakho nsuku zonke. Ngaphezu kwalokho, akakutsheli nje kuphela ukuthi uyakuthanda, kepha ukukhombisa nsuku zonke ngokufuna ukuba eceleni kwakho nokunakekela. Uthando lukhonjiswa ngezenzo hhayi ngamazwi, Uyakwamukela njengoba unjalo futhi ngeke aphoqe noma yini ebudlelwaneni ukuthi okuthile kuguquke endleleni yakho yokuba.
Kukwenza uzizwe ukhethekile futhi kukulalela
Lowo muntu okuthandayo futhi ozizwa ekhanga ngokukhethekile khombisa inhlonipho nenhlonipho enkulu. Uzobona ukuthi uyakwazi ukukwenza uzizwe ukhethekile, unemininingwane anayo njengokukubamba ngesandla, ukukuvulela isicabha semoto nokunaka ngokukulalela. Uma ekhokha inzalo enkulu, uzozibandakanya ezingxoxweni zakho, Uzokubuza futhi akunikeze izeluleko ezinhle kakhulu. Eminye imininingwane ngukuthi uzokubheka ngokwethembeka emehlweni futhi avume ngekhanda uma ukhuluma, ngoba usenentshisekelo futhi akafuni ukulahlekelwa yintambo yezingxoxo zakho.
Iyakuhlonipha, iyakuvikela futhi ayilimazi isithunzi sakho
Kunemiqondo emithathu ehambisana, umuntu okuvikelayo uzoba umuntu okwenzayo Akafuni ukuba usindwe yizinkinga noma ungahlupheki. Inhlonipho ingelinye lamagugu okumele wonke umuntu alondoloze, futhi ebudlelwaneni liyingxenye ebalulekile.
Uma umlingani wakho ekuthanda ngempela kufanele ikuhloniphe ngazo zonke izindlela: esimweni sakho sengqondo, imibono nanjengomuntu. Leli phuzu libalulekile ukuxhumana nalo hhayi ukulimaza isithunzi sakho. Uma kunokungafani kwemibono, kumele bahlonishwe futhi akudingeki akululaze ezinqumweni zakho phambi kwanoma ngubani, uma enza kanjalo, yingoba akakuthandi ngempela.
Cabanga ngamaphrojekthi amaningi nawe nangesikhathi esizayo
Uma ekuthanda kakhulu, izokufaka kuzo zonke izinhlelo zakhe namaphrojekthi wekusasa. Kumele kuqashelwe ukuthi noma yisiphi isinqumo kufanele sithathwe ngokuzimela okuphelele, kepha uma futhi ufuna ukufaka umlingani wakho ezinhlelweni zakho, kuzothi ukubonwa okulindelekile nawe nanjengezithandani. Phakathi kwamaphrojekthi akho, ungahle uthande ukuhlala ngaphansi kophahla olufanayo, wenze uhlelo oluhlanganyelwe noma ube nezingane.
Iyakusekela, ikusize futhi iyazethemba
Ukwesekwa kuyinto enhle kakhulu ebudlelwaneniKungenzeka ukuthi basho njalo ukuthi bayasithanda, kepha uma bengakhombisi ukusekelwa nosizo abasithandi ngothando olukhulu. Umbhangqwana ohlala ngaphansi kophahla olufanayo, noma unezingane, ungathola le mininingwane lapho uncika emisebenzini yasekhaya nasezinkinga.
Noma noma besebancane futhi benza izinqumo ezibalulekile nezingathi sína, omunye umuntu ikhonjiswa ngokukhulu ukuzethemba nentshisekelo. Ukuthembana kungenye yezindlela zokubambezela, uma le mfanelo ingekho silahlekile ebudlelwaneni ngoba ayifezi futhi iba yingozi. Ukungavikeleki nokukhohlisa kuyahambisana futhi ungathembi ukuthi unobani noma ubona ukuthi abaluthandi uhlobo lobudlelwano onabo bobungane, kuholela ukungabi nesisekelo esihle ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Uyakufaka kuzo zonke izinhlelo zakhe
Sivele sibuyekeze kanjani umuntu okuthanda ngempela ufuna ukuba eceleni kwakho njaloNoma kungafanele ukuvumele kube okunamathiselwe njalo. Kepha uma sisekuqaleni kobudlelwano siyabona ukuthi ulungisa inqubo yakhe futhi azivumele angene yenza izinhlelo eziningi kufaka phakathi nawe emisebenzini yabo.
Inkululeko ingenye yezinqe, ngoba ingenye yezinsika okumele zakhelwe ebudlelwaneni futhi uma ibigcinwa kusukela ekuqaleni kuze kube namuhla, inezindinganiso ezinhle kakhulu kubo bobabili abantu. Umuntu kufanele akhule ngokukhululeka nokuthi umlingani wakho akudingeki abeke izithiyo. Ukuphela kwendlela okungekho zingxoxo ezilimazayo ngayo nokuthi umuntu unenkululeko ephelele yokuba yinoma ngubani afuna ukuba yikho.