Uthando alunayo imithetho ebekiwe, futhi ukuheha umuntu kungenzeka kungabi nebhuleki. Ungazizwa unothando noma ukuthatheka Ngomuntu owaziyo ukuthi uyakuthanda, noma kunjalo, angakushaya indiva ngezikhathi ezithile. Impela usuvele unikeze intuthuko yakho yokuqala futhi ubonile ukuxhumana okuthile, kepha awunaso isiqiniseko sokuthi unikela ngokuningi nangalokhu udinga ezinye izimpawu eziningi.
Kulesi sahluko, ukuthi ungabhalelana kanjani ebudlelwaneni obungenzeka kuyinkimbinkimbi ukuxazulula, njengoba kuholela kokungaziwa okungapheli obekuzodingeka ukuthi kuhlaziywe. Eziningi zazo uhlobo lomuntu luhlotshaniswa futhi aliphindiselwa nezinye izinhlobo zezimo zangaphandle. Ukuze uxazulule ukungabaza okuthile, lapha sikunikeza okhiye abathile abahlotshaniswa nalolu hlobo lokungaqiniseki.
Ngiyazi ukuthi uyangithanda kodwa kwesinye isikhathi uyangiziba
Impela uhlangane nomuntu futhi kubonakala sengathi ukuheha okuseduze. Kodwa-ke, yize yonke into iqale ngonyawo lwesokudla, ngokuzumayo qala ukushintsha noma ukungakunaki. Kuyaxaka, kungani ngokungazelele ingaxhumani ngokuqhubekayo futhi ihlala i-Push and pull. Ngaphandle kokungabaza uzizwa ulahlekile futhi awazi ukuthi uzobhekana kanjani nalesi simo ngoba umthanda ngempela lowo muntu.
Kunabantu abadinga isikhathi eside ukuze bakwazi ukwenza ubuhlobo bube semthethweni nalokho kusho isikhathi nendawo. Ungahle wethulwe kakhulu futhi ungakhathali ukwenza ngokusemthethweni ukuzibophezela nobudlelwano. Kodwa-ke, kunabantu abadinga isikhathi esithe xaxa, abafuna ukuba nawe, abakulalelayo futhi bezwe okuthile, kodwa badinga ubakaki ukuze bacabange.
Awuyena umuntu ofanele
Impela ungumuntu ngezimfanelo ezinhle futhi umuntu onentshisekelo akafuni ukulahlekelwa nguwe, yingakho ngokwengxenye unawe. Ngiyalazi leli phuzu futhi lo mbono awulungile, kepha abantu abaningi babheka omunye umuntu "ongcono" owela ezimfanelweni zabo. Kungakho kuzoba nezikhathi zobumnandi futhi ngezinye izikhathi asuke kuwe. Lesi sikhundla singaba nesixazululo esingaba khona futhi sibeke okuningi engxenyeni yakho. Uma uyithanda ngempela, unga ngisaqhubeka nokudlula kuwe njengomuntu, Khuphuka futhi ukhululeke, kepha kuphela uma ucabanga ukuthi kungakufanelekela lokho.
Umuntu unamahloni futhi unokungazethembi okuningi
Kungenzeka uhlangane nomuntu onamahloni kakhulu futhi ungalinge uthathe isinyathelo sokuqala. Ukungavikeleki kungahambisana nalowo muntu onamahloni. Kukhona abantu ababonakala bezethemba kakhulu futhi beqhosha futhi beqhosha. Kepha siyazi ukuthi kungahle kube okuphambene, ungahle ungabi nayo i- amathuluzi namakhono anele ukuya ebudlelwaneni bothando.
Uyasaba ubudlelwano nokwenqatshwa okungenzeka
Uma lowo muntu ekugwema Ngingahle ngingazi ukuthi ngenza kanjani okusemandleni ami. Lokho kukwenza ungazethembi futhi kungenzeka ukuthi ebuhlotsheni obuthize obukhulu uzizwe ulahliwe noma wenqatshwa futhi ube nesikhathi esibi impela. Esimweni esinjalo kungenzeka wesabe ukwaliwa, konke kungasebenza kahle ekuqaleni bese konke kuyaphela lapho kutholakala ukungahambelani.
Ubuhlakani bakho bemizwa abuthuthukisiwe kakhulu
Kunabantu abangavezi imizwa yabo ngendlela efanayo neyabanye. Abakwazi ukuhambisa imizwa ethile okwamanje noma abakwazi ukulawula ukuthi bazilawula kanjani. Kungenzeka kulowo muntu omaziyo, kunezinsuku ezingabonakala njengomuntu ojwayelekile nezinye lapho uphephela ngaphandle kokutshela noma ubani, ngoba ayikwazi ukwenza ubudlelwane bezenhlalo noma bokuxhumana nabantu. Mhlawumbe uhlale usuku futhi ngakushiya umile ngalolo suku ngoba ngangingenawo amathuluzi adingekayo okubhekana nakho.
Yini okufanele uyenze? Ngabe kukhona umuntu okufanele athathe igxathu?
Ngokuvamile le impendulo elula, ngoba izehlakalo zenzeka ngokuzenzekelayo futhi icala ngalinye lixazululwa ngokwamandla nezimo zesimo ngasinye. Uma yonke into inganqunywa futhi ungazi ukuthi wenzeni, kufanele uqaphele imingcele ebekiwe futhi ukuzixazulula kanjani. Okokuqala kukho konke ukubekezela nokuthi ukukhungatheka akukubekeli phansi noma kukucindezele.
Kunzima ukulawula lesi simo, njengoba kunabantu abathatha ubudlelwano noma umuzwa wothando njengento ehlukile futhi ehlukile. Kufanele ube nesibindi futhi thatha isinyathelo kuqala, kufanele uthathe isinyathelo sokuqala. Uqala ukuqondisa ubudlelwano obunokwenzeka ukuze ubone ukuthi kwenzekani futhi uma kufanele ubuze ukuthi ucabangani noma ukuthi uzizwa kanjani, Awulahlekelwa yilutho ngokuzama.
Uma ungazimisele ukuthatha isinyathelo, ungalinda ukubona ukuthi yini engenzeka, Uma kungenzeki lutho futhi isikhathi sihamba, lowo muntu ubengafuni ukuba nawe nganoma yisiphi isikhathi. Ngezinye izikhathi lapho sihamba khona yilapho eqala khona ukukhombisa intshisekelo ngoba uyazi ukuthi kukhona okushodayo. Akungabazeki ukuthi isimo siyinkimbinkimbi, ngoba asazi ukuthi singahlaziya kanjani isimo lapho othile enganikeli amasiginali noma engenisa kakhulu.