Uma usesikhathini esiyinhloko sokwenza ngcono, kufanele ubeke isikhathi sakho ekufundeni enye yezincwadi zokuzethemba esizincomayo ukukuthola uqobo. Ziyizincwadi ezibhalwe ngombono wombhali ofuna ukusiza ukuvusa bonke abazidingayo. Ziyakhulisa futhi zikhule ngokomuntu siqu.
Awukwazi miss ukuzifundela komuntu siqu ukwenza ngcono umbono wethu futhi sifinyelele ekuvukeni. Yiziphambano zempilo ezibandakanya umsebenzi, impilo yomphakathi, umndeni nothando, lapho le mibhalo izobhala khona ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nanoma ikuphi ukungaqiniseki esikalini esinikezwa impilo nokuzindla komuntu siqu.
Izincwadi zokuzethemba zokuzithuthukisa
Izipho zokungapheleli
Incwadi egcwele imizwa futhi ngemishwana egcwele iqiniso nesizathu esiningi. Ababaningi abasekela umbono wakhe ngoba awufakazelwa ngokwesayensi, kepha usinikeza lokho ukugqugquzela kwangaphakathi, izindinganiso eziningi okufanele zisetshenziswe futhi ikakhulukazi ukwamukelwa komuntu siqu.
Umgwaqo oya empumelelweni
Kubhalwe nguJohn C. Maxwell osenza sibone kufanele silwazise kanjani uhambo lwempilo yethu selokhu kuncengwe kwaze kwaba sekugcineni. Izosivezela ukuthi ungaphumelela kanjani, kepha hhayi ngengcebo namandla, kepha ngenjabulo yakho futhi ukunikezwa amandla. Uhlobo lwayo nesitayela sokuyidlulisa kuzoba nemininingwane ehlekisayo nokuningi okuhle.
Ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo 2.0
Sonke kufanele ukudala ukuqonda kwethu ngokomzwelo futhi kufanele ifundiswe lapho sikhula kusukela ebuntwaneni. Kuyindlela yokwazi ubuhlakani bethu futhi sikukhulise qhubekela phambili impumelelo yomuntu siqu. Le ncwadi izokusiza ukuthi uthuthukise izinhlobo ezine zamakhono ayisisekelo: ukuphatha ubudlelwano, ukuqwashisa ngomphakathi, ukuzazi nokuzilawula. Ababhali balezi zincwadi bazokunikeza izeluleko ezinhle kakhulu kanjani ukukhulisa Coefficient ngokomzwelo.
Ikhambi
Incwadi ebhalwe ngu U-Oiver Burkeman kuphi ukuhlolisiswa okuncane emcabangweni okuhle okuboniswa emphakathini futhi kweqiswe ngokweqile. Bahlale besinethisa futhi amabinzana 'ashukumisayo' afika ukukhulisa isimo somzwelo, ngaphandle kokubandakanyeka kakhulu kunokusebenzisa imishwana elula. Uqinisekile ukuthi umthetho wokuheha awusebenzi, kepha udala ukungajabuli okukhulu kulabo abafuna ukuzinikela ngendlela ekha phezulu. Ukuzisiza kwakho kuzokwenziwa ngokukholelwa kokuthuthuka komuntu siqu, ngokuqukethwe kwefilosofi kanye namaqiniso avunyelwe futhi afakazelwa yisayensi.
Izindawo zakho ezimbi
Kuyinkomba ye- ukulwa nezimbangela zokungajabuli, kubo bonke labo bantu abanomuzwa wokucindezelwa, ukuthi akusekho okubagculisayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuhloswe ngalabo abazizwa bengavikelekile, begcwele izakhiwo futhi yingakho zivinjelwe futhi zingafezeki. Kepha ukufunda le ncwadi kufanele uzibophezele ekubhekaneni nokuziphendukela kwemvelo futhi uthole phezu kwakho ngempumelelo enkulu, uzoyiqonda ngaphandle kobunzima ngoba ibhalwe ngokufundeka kakhulu.
Zithande njengoba impilo yakho incike kuyo
Umbhali wayo uhumusha encwadini yakhe ukuthi wafunda kanjani ukubona ingaphakathi lakhe futhi wanqoba izinselelo ezinkulu zempilo. Izitatimende zakhe zenzelwe ukuthi ziqondwe ngamasiko nemiphakathi eyahlukahlukene, kufaka phakathi abaphathi abaphezulu kanye nabasebenzi abaphezulu. Uchaza indlela aqoqa ngayo uchungechunge lwemicabango nezimo zengqondo eziholele ekutheni anqobe futhi afinyelele izinhloso zakhe. Kumele uqondise indlela yakho ukuzibophezela ekuzithandeni futhi lokho kuzoguquka ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Manje ithuba lakho lokujabula
Enye incwadi yokuzisiza ebhalwe uCurro Cañete futhi eyaziswa kakhulu ngabafundi bayo. Kwabaningi kubhalwe ngonembeza babo nangaphakathi ukuze bakwazi ukusiza bonke labo bantu ukuthi bajabule. Ngalokhu udwebe imephu ebabazekayo ukuze iphathwe kalula futhi ikubonise ungangena kanjani endleleni yakho ngokugwema izivimbamgwaqo eziningi. Kumbhali wayo, injabulo ayikona ukuphela kuphela, kodwa indlela umuntu okufanele ayilandele ukuzethemba yena.
Ungazinqoba kanjani ngezikhathi zobunzima
Mhlawumbe lena yincwadi abaningi bethu abayidingayo, ngoba noma ngabe inkinga yezomnotho noma engokomzwelo, amakhasi ayo bangakusiza uthole lawo mandla lokho kuhlala kuningi lethu. USaulo Hidalgo uthole into ebaluleke kakhulu empilweni, futhi akukhona ukuthola amandla okunqoba izikhathi ezimbi, kodwa ukuthola owakho uthando futhi uziphakamise ngokuqina okukhulu.
Lezi ngezinye zezincwadi ukuthi bangakusiza uqinise umphefumulo wakho nokuqonda okuningi kakhulu izithiyo eziza ngaphambi kokuphila. Ngaphandle kokungabaza asikwazi ukuziqoqa zonke, noma ngabe ubheka noma yiziphi zazo, njalo bazokudlulisela kwabanye. Uma ungazi ukuthi uzokhethani, ungakhohlwa ukuthi izincwadi zikhetha abantu, kufanele ukhethe eyodwa ekudlidlizelisa kangcono kakhulu.