Imibhangqwana eminingi ihlukana ngaphandle kokulindela ukubuyisana okungenzeka. Ingabe kunzima ukuqeda ukuhlukana futhi kuhlale kukhona lokho kucasuka kokucasuka noma engazi ukuthi ngelinye ilanga angakwazi yini ukubuyisela ukuphila. Abantu abazazi ngokwabo lapho kufanele badlule isikhashana sokuqhekeka futhi ukuthi kufanele basabele kanjani.
Ukuze kubekezeleleke kufanele bheka izikhathi ezisiphazamisayo kuze kube kamuva sithola lelo phuzu elenza siqhubekele phambili. Kodwa lokhu kunquma kubiza futhi kusho ukuthi abantu abaningi abakhohlwa 'umlingani wabo wangaphambili'.
Uma ungumuntu osemusha, kufanele siphinde leyo ntsha nge indaba yabashadile isishintshe kakhulu. Ngokombono wobudlelwane obuningi obubonakalayo, kokubili kwabesilisa nakwabesifazane, indaba yobudlelwane ayisathathwa njengento enhle, yomuntu siqu nokuthi uyakwamukela njengengcebo enkulu. Ngezinye izikhathi kuthathwa njengokulahla, ngaphandle kwalokho empeleni alukho uhlobo lokuzibophezela. Bese kuthi lapho ukuhlukana kwenzeka futhi kudlule izinyanga ezimbalwa, yilapho bebona khona ukuthi kukhona okushodayo ngempela.
Izimpawu zokuthi i-ex yakho ayikukhohlwanga
Ziningi izimpawu ezingakhombisa ukuthi owakwakho usalandela okulindile uma unaka. Kusazoba khona noma ngabe akusabonakali kanjalo ngoba ngeke usaba nalo ithuba lokuba ndawonye. Kungenxa yalokhu nalokhuya sibonga amanethiwekhi omphakathi, usengakwazi okuthile ngomuntu omshiye ngemuva.
Impela vakashela izindawo enajwayele ukuya kuzo ndawonye. Kuyindlela yokukhumbula noma ukubona ngendlela yansuku zonke into osayilangazelela. Uma nawe usendaweni efanayo, mhlawumbe ungabona ukuthi ngezikhathi ezithile uyakubuka, ngoba ngokuqinisekile fisa ukwazi.
Mhlawumbe uyakushiya lokho umnyango ovulekile walokho kuhlangana okusha futhi ungabona lokho uma ungaphuli izinkundla zokuxhumana. Yena noma yena akafuni ukuyeka ukukubhalela, akubuze ukuthi unjani futhi ungaqhubeka nokwenza ngaphandle kwamahloni. Abaningi bashiya lowo mugqa ovulekile, beshiya uzwela phakathi nosuku ngalunye, futhi uma kwenzeka kuba nethuba elisha loku ukuze sibe nokuhlangana futhi.
Usenayo izinkumbulo zomuntu siqu zomunye nomunye, futhi ikakhulukazi yena. Uma ubudlelwano sebubhidlikile, into ephindelela kakhulu wukugcina ulahle konke angeza akukhumbuze ngakho lowo muntu. Kodwa uma lezo zinto zigcinwa kuyobe kungenxa yokuthi akafuni ukuzikhohlwa. Kungenzeka futhi ukuthi ufune into yomuntu siqu futhi kuthatha isikhathi eside ukuyibuyisela, lokho kungolunye uphawu olucacile lokukutshela ukuthi akafuni ukuthi ushiye impilo yakhe okwamanje.
Futhi, izinkundla zokuxhumana kuseyiso leso sikhali, ukuze bangalahlekelwa umkhondo wokuthi abantu abaningi bathanda ukudalula ini ngezimpilo zabo. Kungenzeka ukuthi uthola ukuthi ukuphi, uke waba nobani, udleni ... noma lowo muntu kungenzeka ukuthi uyamdalula. Ngoba i-ex yakho iyakuvakashela futhi ifuna ukukhombisa ukuthi wenzani, ngenhloso yokukukhombisa ukuthi konke kuhamba kahle kakhulu. Eziningi zalezi zigcawu zisabonakala omunye umona.
Izimpawu I-Ex Yakho Iyikhohliwe Ngempela Ngawe
Mhlawumbe nawe uyathanda ukuqhathanisa konke akwenzayo, ngoba mhlawumbe uyazama khohlwa konke obukugcinile ndawonye. Impela ikhefu liqhamuke ngenxa yesinqumo sazo zombili izinhlangothi noma ngenxa yokuthi oyedwa walaba bobabili wayengasanqumi ngenxa yokungahambelani okuthile.
Uma i-ex yakho ithatha amabanga ngendlela efanele futhi ingatholi noma yiluphi uhlobo izaba zokusondela kuwe, cishe ngenza konke okusemandleni ami ngokugwema leso simo. Kwezinye izimo, futhi emadodeni, izikhathi eziningi abavumeli ukusondelana ngoba abazi ngempela ukuthi bangasenza kanjani leso simo sokuhlangana.
Kodwa uma ukuhlangana kuvela sekuyisikhathi sokubheka konke lezo zimpawu ezibalulekile. Ngeke akukhumbule uma ethatha ibanga ekubingeleleni, ilungile futhi ayiphakamisi, ayizwani nokucasuka futhi leyo chemistry ayibonakali. Impela uphambi komuntu ukwazile ukukukhohlwa. Kungaba khona lokho kubukeka okuncane okwenziwe ngokucasuka, ngiyaxolisa kanye nokulangazelela lapho bengingakutshela khona namanje uphuthelwa okuthile kwakho.
Ungakwazi futhi ukuqaphela ukuthi ukuphila kwakhe ugcwala abantu ajabule ngabo. Imvamisa singena emhumeni ngaphambi kokuhlukana, kodwa kunabantu abadinga ukuba nabanye abangani ngendlela ezwelayo noma bajabulele ukuhleka phakathi kozakwethu. Lapho ukhombisa ukuthi ujabulile nokuthi uyakhohlwa okwedlule.
Futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke engasakufuniAkanandaba noma ushiye isikhafu emotweni yakhe noma ishaja ekhaya. Uyohlale ebheka indlela yokuthola leso sizaba futhi axhumane nawe, kodwa uma kungenjalo, cabanga kanjalo konke kuyadlula.