Namuhla kunabantu abaningi abaphikisana nomqondo wothando njengothando njengoba lwalunjalo ezikhathini zasendulo. Akuyona into ngaphandle kokukhombisa ushintsho lweparadigm emphakathini kanye nobudlelwano bezocansi. Yize yonke le mbono ishintshile futhi ezocansi zitholakala kakhulu kuwo wonke umuntu, kufanele njalo ukwenze ngokuvikela. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukusebenzisa ikhondomu bese ukhetha okukufanele kakhulu ukuya ocansini oluhamba phambili.
Kulesi sihloko sizokutshela ngokubaluleka kwamakhondomu nemidlalo yezocansi namuhla.
Ezothando namuhla
Uthando ezikhathini zanamuhla selushintshile. Sisesikhathini lapho kunezinguquko eziningi futhi zifuna zombili ezingeni lezocansi nezenhlalo. Isibonelo ukuthi ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho sikhona ukubuza kabanzi indlela yokuqonda ubudlelwane bezithandani. Manje akusafani nakuqala, kepha futhi sine-polyamory lapho umuntu ngamunye ezizwa ekhululekile ukuhlala ubudlelwano bakhe ngaphandle kokuwela kubandlululo lwabanye. Silijwayele iqiniso lokuthi ubudlelwano bunabesilisa oyedwa lapho kukhona abantu ababili kuphela.
Kodwa-ke, uma kukhulunywa ngothando, ukubaluleka kokuzithanda kuqala kunombono wokuncika ngokomzwelo komunye umuntu. Okungukuthi, awukwazi ukujabula ngokuya ngokuthi uhlala nomunye umuntu noma cha. Kumele uzithokozise ungadingi muntu. Uthando kufanele lube yinto ecebisa ngokuphelele futhi enempilo eletha amaphuzu amahle empilweni yakho. Kumele iveze amanani abiwe njengokuhloniphana nokuxhumana.
Uma sifuna ukuba nosuku oluhle kakhulu nothile, kufanele sikhumbule ukuthi umuntu ngamunye wehlukile. Umuntu ngamunye kufanele akhe ikhodi yakhe futhi athole lokho esikuthandayo futhi asenze sijabule. Kunamathoyizi amaningi avusa inkanuko okukhuthaza ezocansi. Zingamathuluzi amahle kakhulu okuzithiba nokuzazi Basisiza ukuthi sihlole okungaphezu kwalokho esivele sikwazi futhi siphume endaweni yethu yokunethezeka kwezocansi. Ikakhulukazi, lobu budlelwane obuyisidina busungulwa kulobobudlelwano bomfazi oyedwa obude.
Noma ngabe hlobo luni lobudlelwano, kubalulekile ukwazi nokusebenzisa izinhlobo ezahlukahlukene ze amakhondomu ekhona
Ukubaluleka kwamakhondomu
Ikhondomu iyindlela esetshenziswa kakhulu futhi eshibhe kunazo zonke yokuvimbela inzalo emhlabeni. Kunezinkulungwane zezimo nobumnandi futhi kusiza ukuvikela kuzo zombili izifo ezithathelwana ngocansi nokukhulelwa okungafuneki. Kubalulekile ukwenza ucansi oluphephile nanoma ngubani omfunayo. Kunamakhondomu anephunga okuletha ucansi empilweni. Kunezinhlobonhlobo zokunambitheka okubandakanya ushokoledi, isitrobheli, iminti nokunye okuningi.
Hlala wazi ukuthi amakhondomu akuwona awabesilisa kuphela, kepha nawabantu besifazane. Kukhona ikhondomu yezitho zangasese futhi yize zingakaziwa okwamanje, kunabantu abaningi asebeqala ukwenza lo msebenzi. Ikhondomu yabesifazane iyishubhu epulasitiki ethambile evaliwe. Ekugcineni ngakunye kunendandatho noma umphetho. Iringi itholakala ekugcineni okuvaliwe kanti isitho sangasese sowesifazane sifakwa sijule ngaphezu komlomo wesibeletho ukugcina ishubhu lihlala lisendaweni efanayo. Iringi ekugcineni evulekile iyona ehlala ngaphandle kokuvuleka kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane.
Kodwa-ke, kunabantu abaningi abaphikisana ne-latex. Laba bantu baba nezimpawu ezithile ezisukela ekubeni bomvu namabhamuza kuye ekhaleni eligobayo namehlo anamanzi. Ungaba ne-allergen yokusabela ku-latex futhi akukuthandi kwakho. Kodwa-ke, akudingeki ukhathazeke ngalokhu ngoba kukhona amakhondomu enziwe ngezinye izinto ngaphandle ayinayo i-latex kodwa i-polyurethane.
Amathoyizi ocansi
Amathoyizi anweba repertoire yemizwa evusa inkanuko. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuwaxhumanisa nesimo samanje, amathoyizi yiwona ally ephelele wokunciphisa amazinga okuxineka, asisize silale futhi sizizwe sijabule futhi sikhululekile ngokwengeziwe. Eqinisweni, ukushaya indlwabu (kungaba yindlela yethu noma ngamathoyizi) kubangela ukuthi ubuchopho bethu bukhiphe izinto ezisinikeza impilo esheshayo yomzimba, yezocansi neyemizwa: ama-neurotransmitters, ikhishwe ngemuva kokuzijabulisa ngokocansi kanye / noma i-orgasm, njenge-serotonin ne-dopamine. Ama-endorphin akhululwe anesibopho ngqo sokusenza sizizwe sihle ngemuva kocansi futhi sinethemba lokuphinda lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho, kungaba wedwa noma njengesithandani.
Ukwakhiwa kothando
Ukubuyela othandweni, enye yezeluleko ezinhle kakhulu zokusungula ubudlelwano akuyona ukufuna uthando, kepha ukwakha. Uthando ludinga umzamo nokunakekelwa usuku nosuku. Futhi, sihlala sikhuluma ngendlela yokubunakekela kahle ubudlelwano, kepha sikhohlwe ukunakekela uthando lwethu. Siyazivumela ukuthi senze amaphutha, sizizwe kabi, sibone impumelelo yethu kanye nezimfanelo ezinhle nezalowo esithandana naye.
Ngiyethemba ukuthi ngalolu lwazi ungafunda kabanzi ngobudlelwano bamanje nokubaluleka kokusebenzisa amakhondomu ocansini oluphephile.