Uke waba noma ujola nendoda eshadile? Impela ukubekezela kuyabusa empilweni yakho noma mhlawumbe ucwile olwandle lokungabaza. Esinye sezizathu ezidala ukuba nendoda ukuthi vele silugxilile lolo thando ukuthi kamuva asifuni ukuthi libhujiswe. Sithanda ngempela futhi sisothandweni, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi nathi sikholelwa ekuzethembeni kwethu. Zombili lezi zindaba zidinga ukukalwa, futhi lapha sikhuluma eziningi zazo amanga endoda eshadile nesithandwa sayo.
Lapho uqala ubuhlobo nendoda eshadile, kungenzeka ukuthi uke wezwa umusho ovamile "Ngehlukanisile", “sidlule endaweni embi” o "sizoyishiya". Bayazi ukuthi ngale ndlela bayambamba lowo wesifazane futhi badale ukuzethemba okuncane kuye. Owesifazane uyathopha futhi ucabanga ukuthi kungase kube khona ithemba elincane lokuthi esikhathini esithile ekuphileni kwakhe angakwazi ukufaneleka inhliziyo yakhe.
Amanga endoda eshadile nesithandwa sayo
Konke okwenzeka ebudlelwaneni kulesi simo zingaguqulwa zibe izithembiso. Impela usemgqeni wokuthi akukho okushiwoyo noma obeka ithemba akuthuthuki. Iqiniso lingaphakathi ukuthi awusoze wazikholelwa lezo zithembiso, noma yebo…kodwa okusobala ukuthi amadoda asebenzisa amanga amaningi esiwachaza ngezansi.
ngokuqinisekile kukwenza ukukholwe lokho ubudlelwano bakho buyabhidlika Noma ukuthi isivele iphukile ngaphambi kokuba ngihlangane nawe. Ingxabano evamile, nakuba iyiqiniso, kodwa iqiniso ukuthi ayixazululeki ngoba kufanele kube ukwehla okuncane ebudlelwaneni babo obungabalulekile.
Imishwana evamile abavame ukuyisho ukuthi bangakuvumeli uhambe: "Ngizodivosa", "Ngithatha isikhathi sokwehlukana", "ngiyahlukanisa", "silala emibhedeni eyehlukene".
Indoda eshadile ikhuluma ngobuhlobo bayo bomuntu siqu, kodwa kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi izohlaziya imizwa yayo futhi ihlaziye kabi. Nomkakhe uzobe esefinyelele lapho kuphela Kusele ukuqeda ngokuhlukanaNoma okungenani yilokho elifuna ukuvela.
Ngeke akhulume kabi ngomkakhe uma benezingane ndawonye. Ungasho ukuthi okwamanje anikahlukani ngoba usamthanda kodwa ukuthi ayisekho inkanuko. Noma beka ubudlelwano bakho enkingeni egcwele yomshado lapho abasahlangene khona kubantwana babo. Kuleli qophelo uveza okuthile okuhluke kakhulu ukuze uzilinganise ngokomzwelo.
Bafuna ukuba nomuntu othile zinikeze injabulo yemizwa, Ngaphezu kwakho konke, ukuphumula nokuthula Imisho noma amagama anjengokuthi "Ngiyakudinga". "Uma ngisekhaya kuba nezinxushunxushu kuxoxwa kakhulu, uma nginawe ngidinga uxhaso lwakho."
Uma ubuhlobo phakathi kwalaba ababili buqala ukukhula, uzozizwa evaleleke kakade. Nakuba kuphakama inkinga, uzokutshela ukuthi ungumfazi wempilo yakhe, kodwa lokho ungunina wabantwana bakhe nokuthi awukwazi ukuwuqeda kalula umshado.
"Ngizwa into ebaluleke kakhulu kuwena engihlanyisa, futhi angikaze ngithembeke kumkami". Kungase kube ibinzana elivamile okuthiwa linqoba lowo wesifazane owenqatshelwe. Kuyindlela yokubamba owesifazane abafuna ukumnqoba futhi abenze babone ukuthi ungumuntu okhethekile kakhulu.
“Umshado wami wabhidlika ngingakahlangani nawe” Lesi sisho sivame ukwethulwa lapho kuqashelwa ibanga ukusuka kumthandi. Ukuze angalahlekelwa nguye, lezi zitatimende zivame ukusetshenziswa futhi ujwayele ukuthopha ngemishwana yokunika amandla kubantu besifazane njengokuthi “Uhlukile, nguwe engihlale ngikulindile”.
Anjani amadoda angathembekile?
Ngokuvamile lolu hlobo lokuziphatha lubonakala emadodeni Bangamaqola ayimpoqo. Mhlawumbe akukhona okokuqala belungisa indawo yabo, isikhathi ngasinye beqhubekela phambili kakhulu Ungamvumeli lowo wesifazane abaleke.
Impela bajabulile ngalowo muntu, babuka yonke inhlangano futhi baphenye izinkundla zokuxhumana ukuze bathole ukuthi bangaxhumana kanjani nabahlosile. Lolu hlobo lwe-adventure lungaba nesiqalo futhi lungalokothi lube nesiphetho. Amadoda amaningi bazama ukwenza ubufebe futhi abaqedi ukwehlukana nomkaboYebo, bafuna konke. Kumele ucabange ngalolu hlobo lobuntu, ngoba uma ekwazi ukudelela umuntu amthandayo, athi ngeke akwenze nomunye wesifazane esikhathini esizayo...
Yiba noma kunjalo, uma indoda inesithakazelo ngempela kothile Uzokwenza noma yini ukuze abe naye eduze kwakhe. Lokho kuzobonakala emininingwaneni futhi bonke kufanele bavumelane, akufanelekile ukungeza enye ye-lime nenye yesihlabathi. Phakathi kwabo sizobona ukuthi akayeki ukucabanga ngalowo wesifazane, ukhumbula yonke into ebalulekile uma kubalulekile. Nikeza ngemininingwane yomuntu siqu nezipho, uphuthelwe ukuzibophezela okubalulekile ukuze ube nalowo wesifazane futhi uze ukwethule nomndeni othile nabangane.