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Hoovering lelinye nje igama ukuba yongeza kwisigama sethu ukunika igama kwinyani esebenzayo kuyo Abantu abakhohlakeleyo kakhulu. Ukuba usekupheleni kobudlelwane obungaqhelekanga, apho kukho ukuhla nokunyuka okuninzi, ukukhohlisa kunye nobutyhefu, unokuzifumana ukwixesha elibi elichaza eli gama.

I-Hoovering ivela kwigama elithi "Hoover", isicoci se-vacuum saseMelika esenza isenzo sokufunxa okanye sokufunxa. Nabani na osebenzisa le nyaniso udala i vacuum effect, apho awukwazi ukucinga ukuba ubudlelwane buphelile kwaye kufuneka uhlale ugxininisa ekubuyeleni kunye neqabane lakho. Kodwa apha kukho i-nuance encinci, umntu olwela ukuqalisa kwakhona olo lwalamano luba lukhuni kwaye mhlawumbi iinjongo zabo azizona zilindeleke kakhulu.

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Liqhinga elisetyenziswa ngabantu abaninzi xa uqhawule umtshato. Xa kuye kwagqitywa ukuba kuqhawulwe ubudlelwane, umntu osebenzisa eli gama iziphatha njenge vacuum cleaner. Iya kuzama ngazo zonke iindlela ezinokwenzeka ukusebenzisa naliphi na iqhinga ukuze libe nako ukweyisela owayesakuba neqabane lakho ukuba baphinde baqalise ubudlelwane.

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Ngaba sinokuyithatha njengento eyityhefu kunye neyinyani?

Impendulo nguewe, kuba yonke inxalenye yabantu abakhohlisayo kunye narcissistic, ekubeni iinjongo zabo zingasetyenziswa ngothando kwaye ngaphandle kwenzondo. Yonke le nto iqala xa umntu ongafuni ukuqhubeka nobudlelwane egqiba kwelokuba ahlukane nokuthandana emva kokuba ebonile ukuba loo mntu. Unengxaki yesicwangciso esikhohlisayo kunye netyhefu.

Xa loo mntu ezama ukubaleka komnye, ukusabela ngokuqhelekileyo akulunganga. I-narcissist iya kufunyanwa kwaye ngeli xesha uya kuxabisa ukuba ushiywe ngokusisigxina. Umntu ongenalo olu phawu uya kubamba iimvakalelo zokuziva unetyala kwaye uya kwenza nantoni na efunekayo ukutshintsha, cela uxolo kwaye ubuyele kubudlelwane obunempilo kakhulu.

I-narcissist iya kuzama ukubuya, ngaphandle kweenjongo ezintle ezinjalo. Uya kufuna ukuphinda alawule kuzo zonke iindleko kwaye aqhubeke eqhuba ngaphandle kokunika naluphi na uphawu ngaphandle kobutyhefu. Nabani na unokugcina imvakalelo yokuzisola, azikhulule kwaye azame ukungabuyi. phinda iimpazamo ezithile eziye zaphela ziyityhefu. I-narcissist izama ukuphinda ithathe ubudlelwane nolu lawulo lulonke kunye nefuthe le-vacuum.

Ziziphi iimpawu anazo lo mntu?

Zininzi iimpawu ezichaza i-hoovering effect emntwini. Ubuchule bakhe "bokutshayela". Iya kuhlala isenza ukuba yonke into ihambe ngendlela yakho, Mhlawumbi uye waqaphela xa bezama "ukuguqula iitafile" okanye badlale amaxhoba kwiimeko ezininzi.

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amaxhoba enziwa

Olu phawu luphawu kakhulu. Bafuna ukuzenzakalisa ngokuzoyikisa ngokuzenzakalisa xa bengayiphenduli imiyalezo yabo okanye basebenzise i-blackmail ukuze balawule imeko kwaye ngaloo ndlela ingcambu evusa umnxeba. Elona cebiso lilungileyo kukuba unganikezeli xa kwenziwa amaxhoba, kodwa kufuneka kunyanyekelwe kwiimeko ezinzima kwaye ukuba kubizwe iinkonzo zongxamiseko.

Bazama ukunxibelelana ngazo zonke iindlela

Ukuba ubudlelwane buqhawuke ngokupheleleyo, mhlawumbi zama ukuqalisa kwakhona ubudlelwane ngokuthumela imiyalezo emininzi. Ukuba akukho mpendulo iya kusebenzisa nabani na okufutshane ukuze ufike kule nto uyifunayo. Umntu ochaphazelekayo uya kuzama ukwenza ukuba ubuyele kuye ngentlungu yakhe, uya kufuna ukubuyela kuwe kwaye uya kuxelela abanye ukuba ukukhumbula kangakanani. Kufuneka uzame ukukhumbuza abantu abasondeleyo kuwe ukuba bangawa ngamazwi abo kwaye bangazami ukukufaka phakathi kwelitye kunye nendawo enzima.

 Emva kwexesha baye benza ngathi akuzange kubekho ukwahlukana

Eli nqaku likwenza uwe ekubhidekeni ngokupheleleyo. Xa kubonakala ukuba ubudlelwane buphelile, ngokukhawuleza ngenye imini ubonakala enesipho, mhlawumbi ngenxa yomthendeleko othile, okanye ngenxa yoSuku lweValentine. Kunye nesipho kunokubakho inqaku elimnandi elikubuyisela kwiinkumbulo ezintle kwaye ngaphandle kokuqaphela ukuba ubandakanyeka ekwenziweni kwayo.

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ikuthumela imiyalezo engathandekiyo

Ezininzi imiyalezo ingabhalwa ngokungqongqo nangokuchanekileyo ukukhumbula amaxesha amnandi. Iya kusebenzisa iinkumbulo ukondla kubo. Umzekelo, usenokuba ubukele enye yeemuvi zakho ozithandayo kwaye ikukhumbuza ezinye zemiboniso. Okanye yiya kumzuzu wothando ukuze ukhumbule ezo holide zintle, okanye uthumele ifoto evele ngequbuliso kwiselfowuni yakho.

Uyifumana ngebhaqo kuyo yonke indawo

Sesinye sezona zenzo ziqhelekileyo. Ukuba uyazi apho uhamba khona okanye uthanda ukuhamba nabani, izakwenza konke okusemandleni ukuya kwiindawo ezifanayo ukukutshatisa.

Ukuba awuqhelekanga ukuphuma kakhulu, uya kuzama ukwenza umfowunelwa ukufowuna esithi yimpazamo kwaye wayefuna ukubiza omnye umntu. Kwelinye icala, iya kuyenza ngemiyalezo ebhaliweyo. Uya kukuthumelela imiyalezo aze acele uxolo, kuba uya kwenza isingxengxezo sokuba lo myalezo ubuthunyelwe komnye umntu.

Le yeminye yemizekelo yomntu ofuna ngandlela zonke ukuqalisa kwakhona ubudlelwane, ngesiphumo sokundanda kunye nembono ye-narcissistic kunye nembono yokuzingca. Unokwazi ngokweenkcukacha ngakumbi indlela yokugcina ubudlelwane obunempilo okanye Injani indoda xa ingakuthandi ncam?


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