"Imvakalelo" lelinye igama elitshintshiweyo ukusuka kulwimi lwesiNgesi, oluthi lithetha "ukuziva". Ngaba imvakalelo Yimvakalelo eyaziwa ngumntu wonke. Lelinye laloo magama adluliselayo kude ngaphaya kwemvakalelo okanye inkanuko. Ukuba siqala ukuhlalutya, lelinye lala magama akhoyo kwaye sinokubulela inani lamagama kunye neentsingiselo ezibandakanya.
Yintoni ukuba nemvakalelo?
Yimvakalelo leyo idlulela ngaphaya kovelwano, kukuba noqhagamshelwano olukhethekileyo, ukuba nekhemistri, kukho ukungcangcazela okuhle kakhulu. Abantu bayahlalisana ngendalo kwaye kuye kwafuneka baphile amakhonkco sidale nabahlobo bethu.
Uninzi lwezi ntsebenziswano nabanye Zinokuba ngayo yonke imibala. Kubo bonke ubomi bethu siya kudibana nabantu abanazo zonke iintlobo zobuntu, ngokuqhelekileyo siya kuziva sikhululekile kunye nabo. abo bazifanisa nathi okanye ezihambelana nendlela esiyiyo.
Kodwa kukho abanye oko banokuba ngabakhethekileyo ngakumbi. Sinokuziva unxibelelwano olukhulu kakhulu, kude ngaphaya kolonwabo abasenzayo ndiziva kakuhle kakhulu, sishukunyiswa yiyo yonke intshukumo yabo kwaye Siyavuya kakhulu ngobukho bakho. Ngaba loo chemistry ekhethekileyo? kukuba nayo imvakalelo? Kukholelwa ukuba ukuba sinokusondela kwinto abayiyo abantu abakhethekileyo kakhulu.
Nangona uziva imvakalelo inokusondela kakhulu ekubeni nesondo okanye umtsalane onomdla, abantu abaninzi abanxulumani umva imvakalelo ngothando. Uyakwazi ukuza uzive njengomhlobo okhethekileyo kwaye nokuba ungowesini esifanayo kunye ungathandi lamntu. Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba kukho ubudlelwane obukhulu kunye nokuhambelana okukhulu.
Ukuziva kubamanyanisa abantu
Ukuziva ukuba chemistry phakathi kwabantu ababini a ekhethekileyo kakhulu kunye nemeko yobuqu. Ngaphandle kokubambisana, kukuba kwiwaka lemimangaliso kunye nomntu okwenza uzive ukhululekile, kuba kukho olunye uhlobo loqhagamshelwano njengoko sesichazile.
Ukubonakaliswa kolu hlobo lokuziphatha yimvakalelo ebonakala ibonakala kuyo indlela abantu ababini abadibana ngayo. Ubukho be imvakalelo Kufuneka ibe yi-bidirectional, kufuneka kubekho loo chemistry.
Phakathi kwabantu ababini kufuneka kubekho ubudlelwane obuhle kakhulu. Ukungcamla, indlela yokucinga kunye neengcinga kwabelwana ngazo ngaphandle kwentshayelelo. Kwaneemvakalelo zakho, iimvakalelo okanye ukuqiqa Bahlonitshwa ngokupheleleyo omnye komnye.. Kungoko kukho ukuhambelana phakathi kwezimvo kunye neengcinga.
Ukusuka apha akukho lula ukuthetha into emayive imvakalelo yinto elula kakhulu. nyani ukuya kwesi simo inokuba nzima ngoko xa sifumana umntu onjalo asimvumeli ukuba abaleke kwaye kukho into esibophelela kuyo.
Udityaniswe ngokupheleleyo, ukuhambelana ukuthetha nokuphulaphula akunasiphelo, uzive njengawe, cinga njengawe. Ngaba wakha wathandana nomntu waza wabuzwa ukuba ibi imvakalelo? Ewe, ezi ziimpawu ezibonisa ukuba uye waziva. Ukuba emva kwalo mhla incinci yale nto ivakala iqhelekile kuwe, yiloo nto kwakungekho chemistry.
Ngaba ukuba nemvakalelo kuthetha uthando?
Ngokubanzi sisiseko kunye nesiqalo yobuhlobo obuhle yonke, zombini zesini efanayo okanye eyahlukileyo. Kwakhona inokuba isiseko sobudlelwane, kodwa kusenokubakho eminye imiba emininzi engaqukiyo ubudlelwane obunothando.
Abantu ababini banokuvalelwa kakuhle kakhulu, kodwa ukungabi mtsalane ngokwasemzimbeni. Unokuba nolo msa apho ukuthembela nokuvalelwa kudlulela ngaphaya koko kunqwenelwa ngokwasemzimbeni.
Omnye umba esinokuwuchaza kukuba naloo khemistri akuthethi ukuba kukho uthando olushushu Njengoko siye sachaza ngokweenkcukacha, unokumthanda umntu, kodwa olo thando alubi yintabatheko. Abantu abaninzi banokuziva benomtsalane kwaye akufuneki nangaliphi na ixesha babhidanise le mvakalelo kunye nokuba sethandweni. Akufunekanga ucinge ngemitshato nje into onokuthi ubhideke ngayo ubomi bakho bonke.
Ngaba imvakalelo isoloko ibuyiselwa?
Ngokubanzi, ewe, ngokunikwa inyani yokuziva oku kuvalelwa, kungenxa yokuba siyayiva ngokwenene loo nto omnye umntu uyasipha. Ukuba siyayinikezela, ngokuqinisekileyo omnye umntu uyayichola kwaye anikezele ngayo, kufana nohambo lokuya nokubuya. Kukho into eboniswayo enzulu, enokuhlala ixesha elide kwaye inokuvelisa ukuzithemba ngakumbi.
yenza umntu azive imvakalelo nomntu omnye okanye abaninzi kudala ulonwabo entlokweni yakho. Oko kuzinza ngokweemvakalelo kukhululwa kwaye ukuzithemba kuyakhula. Kufuneka ube nalo luvo lwesithandathu ukuze ufumanise ukuba yintoni na kukho amandla okanye ukungcangcazela oko kuqukuqela uvelwano olupheleleyo, apho kukho ukunyaniseka kwaye akukho nto inetyhefu, kodwa yonke into iselubala.
Ubuhlobo bokwenene kufuneka bubulelwe, Siba nethamsanqa kakhulu xa sidibana nabantu abanokusenza bukhanye ubomi bethu kwaye oko kusenza sizive sithandwa kwaye sihlonelwa. Kukho abantu abathi banayo loo nto imvakalelo rhoqo nabantu abaninzi. Mhlawumbi kungenxa yokuba bafuna olu hlobo lweemvakalelo ngenxa yokuba bengenalo kwaye ngenxa yoko Basoloko beyibanga.