Ulwimi olubonakalayo lolona lubalulekileyo olusetyenzisiweyo njengesixhobo sokuloba. Unxibelelwano oluninzi phakathi kwencoko yokuhlangana phakathi kwabahlobo okanye uninzi lwamehlo, ngaphandle kokuza engqondweni, basishiya singenazigqibo ukuba ufuna ukuya ngaphaya kokujonga okulula.
Kutheni besenza oko? Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukungaqiniseki kubakho kuzo zonke ezi meko. Umfazi ujonge kuwe rhoqo kwaye uyaqonda ukuba ezantsi akathandi wena kangako. Ngaba uqikelelo lwakho luchazwe kakuhle? Okanye ngaba ikhona enye into ngasemva ongathanda ukuba uyiqikelele?
Xa umfazi ejonge kuwe kakhulu
Kukho amatyeli aliqela apho udibana naloo mfazi kwaye uhlala ejonge kuwe. Okuncinci okwazileyo ukuthetha akubonakali ngathi unomdla kuwe, kodwa uyaqhubeka nokujonga.
Ukucacisa uninzi lwezi ngcamango, siza kujonga ngakumbi indlela aziphethe ngayo loo mfazi. Indoda ukuba inomdla emfazini iyathanda ukubamba iinwele zayo, ichukumise imikhono yehempe okanye ihlengahlengise ibhatyi okanye iqhina rhoqo. Umfazi wenza kwaloo nto ulungisa iimpahla zakhe, uyazichukumisa kwaye ubamba iinwele zakhe rhoqo.
Olunye uphawu kuxa sigcina loo nto umzimba wakhe nentloko ijongiswe ngakuthi. Okwangoku ucinga ukuba ujonge kuwe, kodwa yintoni enokwenzeka ukuba intloko nomzimba wakhe awujikelanga kuwe? Ewe, jonga amaxesha ngamaxesha, kuba ngokuqinisekileyo kunjalo ujonge ecaleni Kwaye oko kubonisa kakuhle ukutsala.
Ukuba unencoko, qaphela indlela ajongeka ngayo emehlweni akho, ukuba ujonge kuwe kwaye ayibahluli phantsi kwaso nasiphi na isizathu Ngaba ngokuqinisekileyo uyakuthanda. Ukuba kwelinye icala nijongane, uyamjonga kwaye ujonge kude kuwe: ngeli xesha kungangakho mdla ungako, okanye loo mntu uneentloni kwaye uziva engonwabanga ukujonga umntu emehlweni (ngumntu ongazithembanga).
Kukho abafazi abathi bathetha ngamehlo kuphela, qala ngalento xa benomdla kuwe. Kodwa ngaba inokuba sisenzo somtsalane? Amaxesha amaninzi inokudideka, kuba kunokuthetha ukunconywa okukhulu. Kwakhona jonga ukuba ujonge rhoqo okanye amaxesha ngamaxesha. Ukuba ukujonga nje kube kanye emva koko awuyibambi, xa ndikujonga amaxesha ngamaxesha kungathetha ukwazi.
Ndiyazi ukuba akandithandi kwaye undijonge kakhulu
Uyazi ukuba akakuthandi kwaye kuninzi lokudibana kugqityiwe. Ukrokrela ukuba inokuba yenye into kwaye ugcine imikhondo iphila, jonga ukuba uphendula ngamehlo kwaye uhlale uzinzile. Ukuba ujonga kude kwaye uyancuma, zibonisa ukuba uyakuthanda. Ukuba ugcina ujonge mhlawumbi ngumzuzwana wokuthatha isigqibo, mhlawumbi ucela umngeni kwaye ukuvavanya, ukubona indlela ophendula ngayo.
Okanye ukuba uqhubeka ujonga kwaye ukuncuma emva koko kuthetha uvelwanoUfuna ukudibana nawe kwaye unomdla wokwazi ngawe. Ukuba uziva ujonge, ujonge, kodwa ngequbuliso ujika intloko yakhe encumile, lo ngumqondiso wokuba kukho enye into.
Kwelinye icala, qaphela ukuba loo ntombazana sele iganene nomntu. Nanini na xa udibana, ukujonga kuqala.Ngokuqinisekileyo uziva eyithanda wena kunye nenkwenkwe yakhe ayimncedi kwiinkalo ezininzi.
Yinto yabantu abazalwa benayo ukuba baziphathe ngolu hlobo, xa iqabane lakho lixabene nawe kwaye ubudlelwane bunqabile, uhlala sifuna ukonwaba nomntu wangaphandle. Ke sijonge oko kudibana kwaye kuqala ngokujonga kancinci, kugxile kuye kuba unomdla kuwe, kodwa ekugqibeleni abacingi nto.
Laa mfazi inokusebenzisa amandla ayo okuphela ukukukhohlisa, nangona amaxesha amaninzi inyani ingeyiyo indlela ebonakala ngayo. Jonga kakuhle njengoko besitshilo, kuzo zonke iinkcukacha, ukuba uzimisele kwaye ubonakala ehlukile akukho nto inokubothusa. Ukuba uyancuma, wonwabile kwaye uzama ukuhlala ixesha elide apho ikhoyo, emva koko kukho enye into.
Izigqibo zicacile, intombazana engaziva nantoni na kwaye ijonge kakhulu ayinaso isiseko esicacileyo. Ukuba ukujonga kakhulu kungenxa yokuba kukho uhlobo oluthile lokuncoma kunye nomdla kuwe. Usenokungafuni ukunikezela ngenxa yezinye iimeko, mhlawumbi unesoka, okanye mhlawumbi akazithembanga kakhulu ukuba angaya phambili.
Abantu banayo intuition encinci Ukuba singasibona xa kukho enye into, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha badlala ngathi. Ngaphakathi kolo uvelwano luncumo lwakho kwaye ukuba kukho nantoni na ukubulisa. Ngale ndlela uya kuya uzolile kwaye kufuneka linda ixesha lesibini. Ngemikhondo esiyinike ukuba umntu obhinqileyo uyakuthanda, kufuneka aqhubeke nokubonisa umdla kwaye ngaxa lithile uya kuba nakho ukudibana.