Ubudlelwane obuninzi hamba kwiimeko zokungazithembi, Kwaye nangona abantu ababini sele bemiselwe ngokusemthethweni njengezibini, kusekho ukuthandabuza malunga nokuba iqabane lakho liyakuthanda na. Ukungaqiniseki kunokuza xa uncamathiselo lusekiwe phakathi kwabantu ababini. Ixesha linokudlula kwaye enye yazo Nika ngaphezulu kakhulu kunoko wamkelayo.
Sisoloko sifuna imbeko nothando olungenamiqathango, ukuba ayiboniswanga kwaye ubudlelwane abuhambelani phambili, mhlawumbi kungcono ukunika inqaku lokugqibela. Kodwa ngaba sinokuba siphosakele? Ngaba unokwazi ukuxelela ukuba iqabane lakho liyasithanda ngokwenene? Ewe impendulo nguewe, kukho iinkcukacha ezininzi ezinokusicacisa onke loo manqaku okungaqiniseki, kwaye sikubonisa wona ngokulandelayo.
Iindlela zokwazi ukuba iqabane lakho liyakuthanda na
Ukwazi ukuba umntu uyakuthanda nyhani yinto yokuyihlalutya kunye nezinye ze imiqondiso ayibonisa kuwe yonke imihla. Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo "isenzo sinexabiso lamagama aliwaka" kwaye iqabane lakho kufuneka ligubungele uninzi lwezi ngongoma sizibonisa apha ngezantsi:
Ubonisa uthando lwakhe yonke imihla kwaye akazimisele kukutshintsha
Umntu okuthandayo, uya kufuna ukuba secaleni kwakho yonke imihla. Ukongeza, akakuxeleli nje ukuba uyakuthanda, kodwa ukubonisa yonke imihla ngokufuna ukuba secaleni kwakho kwaye akukhathalele. Uthando lubonakaliswa ngezenzo hayi ngamazwi, Uyakwamkela njengokuba unjalo kwaye akazukunyanzela nantoni na kubudlelwane ukuba itshintshe into kwindlela yakho.
Kukwenza uzive ukhethekile kwaye ukumamele
Loo mntu uyakuthanda kwaye uziva enomtsalane okhethekileyo bonakalisa imbeko enkulu nembeko. Uya kuqonda ukuba uyakwazi ukukwenza uzive ukhethekile, kwaye uneenkcukacha kunye nawe njengokukubamba ngesandla, ukuvulela ucango lwemoto kwaye ujonge ukumamela. Ukuba uhlawula umdla omkhulu, uya kubandakanyeka kwiincoko zakho, Uya kukubuza kwaye akunike elona cebiso lililo. Ezinye iinkcukacha kukuba uya kujonga ngokuthembeka emehlweni kwaye anqwale xa uthetha, kuba usenomdla kwaye akafuni kuphulukana nomsonto weencoko zakho.
Iyakuhlonipha, iyakukhusela kwaye ayonakalisi isidima sakho
Kukho iikhonsepthi ezintathu ezihamba kunye, umntu okukhuselayo uya kuba ngumntu Akafuni ukuba usindwe ziingxaki okanye ungasokoli. Intlonipho yenye yexabiso ekufanele ukuba umntu alondoloze, kwaye kubudlelwane yinto ebalulekileyo.
Ukuba iqabane lakho liyakuthanda ngokwenene kufuneka ikuhloniphe ngandlela zonke: kwisimo sakho sengqondo, izimvo kunye nomntu. Eli nqaku liyimfuneko ukunxibelelana ungonakalisi isidima sakho. Ukuba kukho ukungangqinelani kwezimvo, kufuneka zihlonishwe kwaye akufuneki akuthobele kwizigqibo zakho phambi kwakhe nabani na, ukuba uyakwenza oko, kungenxa yokuba akakuthandi ngokwenene.
Cinga ngeeprojekthi ezininzi kunye nawe nakwixesha elizayo
Ukuba ukuthanda kakhulu, iyakubandakanya kuzo zonke izicwangciso zakhe nakwiiprojekthi zekamva. Kufuneka iqatshelwe into yokuba nasiphi na isigqibo kufuneka senziwe ngokuzimela geqe, kodwa ukuba ufuna ukubandakanya iqabane lakho kwizicwangciso zakho, kuyakuba kukuba ukubonwa okucingelweyo kunye nawe kunye nesibini. Phakathi kweeprojekthi zakho, unokufuna ukuhlala phantsi kophahla olunye, wenze isicwangciso esidibeneyo okanye ube nabantwana.
Uyakuxhasa, akuncede kwaye azithembe
Inkxaso yeyona nto intle kubudlelwaneBasenokuhlala besithi bayasithanda, kodwa ukuba ababonisi inkxaso kunye noncedo abasithandi ngothando olukhulu. Isibini esihlala phantsi kophahla olunye, okanye sinabantwana, sinokufumana ezi nkcukacha xa sixhomekeke kwimisebenzi yasekhaya kunye neengxaki.
Okanye nangona besebancinci kwaye besenza izigqibo ezibalulekileyo nezibalulekileyo, omnye umntu iboniswa ngokuzithemba okukhulu kunye nomdla. Ukuthembana yenye yezinto ezixhonyiweyo, ukuba lo mgangatho awukho silahlekile kubudlelwane kuba awuzange ube nesiqhamo kwaye iba yityhefu. Ukungazithembi nokuphathwa gwenxa kuhamba kunye kwaye ungamthembi umntu onaye okanye ubone ukuba abaluthandi uhlobo lobudlelwane onalo lobuhlobo, kukhokelela ukungabinaso isiseko esihle kubudlelwane bakho.
Uyakufaka kuzo zonke izicwangciso zakhe
Indlela esele sihlolisise ngayo umntu okuthanda ngokwenene ufuna ukuba secaleni kwakho rhoqoNangona ungayivumeli ukuba ibe yinto yokuncamathisela rhoqo. Kodwa ukuba sisekuqaleni kobudlelwane sinokubona ukuba uhlengahlengisa indlela yakhe yesiqhelo kwaye uyazivumela angene yenza izicwangciso ezininzi kuquka nawe kwimisebenzi yabo.
Inkululeko yenye yeendlela zokuqina, kuba yenye yeentsika ekufuneka zakhiwe kubudlelwane kwaye ukuba igcinwe kwasekuqaleni kude kube namhlanje, inexabiso elihle kubo bobabini abantu. Umntu kufuneka akhule ngokukhululekileyo kwaye iqabane lakho akufuneki libeke imiqobo. Yiyo kuphela indlela ekungekho ncoko imbi ngayo kwaye umntu abe nenkululeko epheleleyo yokuba yiyo nantoni na afuna ukuba yiyo.