Ukwahlukana neqabane lakho yenye yezona zinto zinzima sonke ekufuneka sidlule kuzo nangaliphi na ixesha ebomini. Ngokukodwa ukuba indawo yokuqhekeka ayisosiphelo sothando. Nokuba ubudlelwane buphelile, akufuneki bube sisiphelo. Kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokufunda ubuyisa njani iqabane lakho. Kuya kufuneka uqonde ukuba kukho ubudlelwane okungcono ukuba buphele nokuba kungenxa yokuba uthando luphelile okanye ngenxa yokuba inetyhefu eninzi kakhulu.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba esi ayisosizathu, hlala kuba siza kukufundisa indlela yokubuyisa iqabane lakho.
Iimvakalelo
Emva kokwahlukana, umntu anganqwenela ukudibana neqabane lakhe. Kule meko, kucetyiswa ukuba ngamnye athathe ixesha lokucingisisa ngeemvakalelo zakhe. Ukuba kule meko, ngokubonakalisa nokuzazi ngokwakho, ufika kwisigqibo sokuba usathandana, Umbuzo wendlela yokufumana iqabane lakho emva liqala ukuthatha inqanaba eliphambili ebomini bakho.
Njengoko ubona kumava akho kweli bali lothando, ukungaqiniseki yinxalenye yobomi. Awunakuqiniseka ukuba kuya kwenzeka ntoni kwixesha elizayo phakathi kwenu, kodwa ungazama ukwenza lo mnqweno woxolelwaniso ngendlela ehambelanayo.
Iingcebiso malunga nokubuyisa iqabane lakho
Ukuba le miqathango ikhankanywe apha ngasentla ifezekisiwe kwaye ufuna ukufunda indlela yokubuyisa iqabane lakho, nantsi ke siza kukunika iingcebiso.
Yenza iinkumbulo ezintsha. Kule meko, impazamo enokwenzeka kukusebenzisa ixesha ngaphambi kokwahlukana njengesikhumbuzo. Buyisa intombi yakho yangaphambili okanye isoka langaphambili Ayibuyeli kwindawo oshiye kuyo, kodwa uzama ukwenza indlela entsha ukusukela ngoku. Iinkumbulo ezintsha ezinokudityaniswa neenkcukacha kunye neencoko.
Linda. Elinye iqela linokufuna ngokucacileyo ukuxolelana nawe, kodwa elinye icala linokuba namathandabuzo ngalo. Uyigcina njani intombi yakho yangaphambili okanye umfana othandana naye kwezi meko? Kuphephe ukuphelelwa ngumonde. Umzekelo, ukuba uqaphele ukuba iimpazamo zakho zibangele umgama phakathi kwakho ngexesha lokuqhekeka, ngoku ungaguqula ezi mpazamo ekufundeni ukubathintela ukuba zingenzeki kwakhona.
Zama ukugcina unxibelelwano rhoqo ngokuhamba kwexesha, kodwa bShaya ibhalansi ukuze umenzele indawo yokuba naye akhumbule kwaye uqaphele ukungabikho kwakho. Ukugcina ubudlelwane obunengxaki, jonga inyathelo lakho, kodwa jonga impendulo yelinye iqela. Ewe, ngaphandle komnqweno wakho wokuba secaleni kwakhe kwakhona, ukuba uziva ngokwahlukileyo, kufuneka uyamkele le nyani.
Kukho incoko elindileyo. Xa ufuna ukudibana ne ex yakho, uya kuziva ukuba kusekho izinto ezininzi onokuziveza emva kokwahlukana. Ukuba ufuna ukubandakanya umntu oza kunxibelelana naye nakweyiphi na kwezi ndawo, zama ukungayihlehli incoko kuba usoyika ukuba impendulo yakhe ayizukuba yile ubuyilindele. Le ncoko iya kukunceda uzicacise ngokwandisa izimvo zakho. Nokuba uthatha isigqibo sokubuyela emva okanye iziphumo zakho zahlukile, olu hlobo lwencoko lubalulekile.
Sukusebenzisa umona. Ungazami ukwenza i-ex yakho ikhweletele abanye abantu, uzama ukukhulula i-ex yakho ngendlela engeyiyo ngokumenza abe nomona ngomnye umntu. Nikela ixesha lakho ekukhuleni kwangaphakathi kwaye ubonise okona kulungileyo kuwe. Phila okwangoku, ungalulinganiseli ulonwabo lwakho kumzuzu abadibana ngawo kwakhona, kuba oko kunokwenzeka, okanye ngekhe kwenzeke. Ngokwenza ngale ndlela, ekuhambeni kwexesha, uyoneliseka lilinge kweli nqanaba.
Ulufumana njani kwakhona uthando lweqabane lakho
Inye into yokufunda ukuba ungalifumana njani iqabane lakho, yenye into ukubuyisa uthando olufanayo. Njengoko besenditshilo ngaphambili, uthando lunokuba luphelile kwaye kulapho luza kuba nzima ngakumbi. Ukufumana kwakhona uthando lweqabane lakho kunzima ngakumbi. Nangona kunjalo, kukho ezinye iingcebiso malunga noku.
Menze azive ngathi yeyona nto iphambili ebomini bakho. Ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo, umntu unokuziva enendawo encinci kubomi beqabane lakhe. Ukuba ufuna uthando lwakhe lubuye, kubalulekile ukuba unikezele esona sipho sakho siphambili: ixesha lakho. Ixesha elilinganiswe ngumgangatho kunye nobungakanani.
Vakalisa iimvakalelo zakho. Zininzi iindlela zokubonisa uthando. Umzekelo, ngeleta yothando. Kodwa ungabonisa iimvakalelo zakho ngokubonisa esi senzo sothando. Amagama amaninzi kunye nezenzo ezibonisa esi sithembiso sinokukunceda usondele kuso kwakhona. Izigqibo kufuneka zenziwe kwaye, ngenxa yoku, kubalulekile ukuba ujonge ukuba yintoni etshintshileyo phakathi kwenu kwezi nyanga zidlulileyo kunye nento ebangele ukwahlukana.
Ukujongana neendlela ezinokuqikelelwa, Kulungile ukuthatha inyathelo kubudlelwane kwaye wenze izicwangciso zabantu ababini. Le misebenzi inokujikeleza kwizinto ozithandayo, uhambo, ukuhamba, iimuvi, umculo, imidlalo yeqonga, kunye nezinye izimvo ezinokubakho. Isicwangciso sencoko sibaluleke kakhulu ngeli xesha. Veza ukuthanda kwakho umntu omthandayo. Nokuba ukwenzile oku ngaphambili, uthando oluchazwe kwintetho yokuncoma alunakupheliswa yile caress ityebileyo, ikhulisa ukuzithemba komntu omthandayo.
Iingqwalaselo ezithile
Kufuneka siyiqonde into yokuba yonke le nto yinto enzima kwaye kufuneka siqwalasele ukuze sazi into esingafanele kuyenza:
- Okokuqala kufuneka ube nobubele kuwe. Ukuba esona sizathu siphambili salo mnqweno woxolelwaniso kukoyika isithukuthezi, kubalulekile ukuba ungaguquli eli linge lokulinga libe yindlela yokuphelisa olu loyiko.
- Okwenzekileyo akufuneki kungahoywa. Umnqweno wokuba kunye nomnye umntu unokwenza lo mnqweno ufune ukukhawulelana kwakhona. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukomeleza iziseko zeli nqanaba litsha ngengxoxo esombulula imiba esisiseko phakathi kwala maqela mabini.
- LUbudlelwane buphakathi kwenu nobabini. Akucetyiswa ukuba abantu abaninzi bathathe inxaxheba. Xa ukunye neqabane lakho, ngoku nishiyiwe kwaye le meko izakuchaphazela nina nobabini kuphela. Nangona unabahlobo ngokufanayo, ukuba ibhalansi yobudlelwane ukuza kuthi ga ngoku ibe intle, ayingabo abalinganiswa abaphambili beli bali labantu ababini.
Ndiyathemba ukuba ngolu lwazi ungafunda ngakumbi malunga nokubuyisa iqabane lakho.