Umntu ngamnye uneempawu zangaphakathi ezimiselwe yimfuza nganye nganye. Gcina ukhumbula ukuba kuya kubakho abantu abasithanda ngakumbi kwaye abanye abasithanda kancinci. Nangona kunjalo, nokuba kungayintoni na yemfuza, sinokuyisebenzisa ukuba siyayazi indlela yokusebenzisa izixhobo zethu kakuhle. Amadoda amaninzi awazi kakuhle njani ukuba nomtsalane kwaye baphela bemosha ubuso obuhle okanye umzimba olungileyo.
Ke ngoko, siza kunikezela eli nqaku ukukuxelela ukuba zeziphi iingcebiso kunye namacebo okufunda ukuba unganomtsalane njani.
Unomtsalane njani
Kukho ingcebiso ethi inikwe ngokwembono yesayensi, kuba ingqinekile. Umzekelo, kungcono ngakumbi ukukhula ngakumbi kuba uninzi lwabasetyhini lubathanda njengabantu abadala. Abasetyhini bayatsaleleka kubantu abadala xa befikelela kwinkululeko yezoqoqosho. Ezinye izifundo zinxibelelanisa namandla. Oku kubonwa kwakhona ngabo bantu banemigangatho ephezulu yokuphila, ngenxa yoko iya kuba kwinqanaba eliphezulu lokutsala. Kungenzeka ukuba imoto yexabiso eliphezulu okanye indlu etofotofo inokutsala umntu wasetyhini ngakumbi.
Ukuba mhle kunokuba luncedo kakhulu ekufundeni ukuba ube nomtsalane njani. Inxulumene nomzimba wakho kunye nobuntu onabo. Uninzi lwabantu luyavuma ukuba bafumana amadoda aneempawu zobubele ezinomtsalane ngakumbi. Kwaye babizwa ngokuba sisiphumo se halo. Oku kuthetha ukuba uphawu olunye luyasebenza ukuze umntu enze umfanekiso opheleleyo. Kucacile ukuba ungajonga ngakumbi kwabasetyhini ukuba ungumfana olungileyo.
Iindevu sisixhobo esiphambili ekufundeni ukuba nomtsalane. Sisigqibo esingasothusiyo. Ukuba owasetyhini unikwa ukhetho phakathi kwamadoda aliqela ngokujonga nje imizimba yabo, kusenokwenzeka ukuba kusekwe ekukhetheni abo baneentshebe zemihla ngemihla. Bajwayele ukugxila kukucheba kunye neenwele zobuso. Kuya kufuneka ndigcine engqondweni ukuba zininzi iindlela zokukhulisa iindevu kwaye kukho ezinye ezinomtsalane kunezinye.
Unomzimba olungileyo kwaye uburharha
Ungatsho ukuba kuya kufuneka usebenze emzimbeni kodwa hayi kakhulu. Abasetyhini bathanda amadoda anezihlunu kubudlelwane obufutshane kunye namadoda angqingiliyo kubudlelwane bexesha elide. Ayaziwa ukuba yintsalela ye-anthropological yeentsuku zethu zokuzingela okanye inento yokwenza nokuzala kunye nokuziphendukela kwemvelo.
Uburharha abuyonto nje. Ukuba wenza umntu omthandayo uhleke, kulula ukuba unxibelelwano phakathi kwaba bantu babini luphumelele. Ihlala iyinto enomdla kwaye ingabalulekanga ngakumbi kubafazi kunamadoda. Ngokwesiqhelo amadoda agxila ngakumbi ekubalulekeni kokukwazi kwawo ukuba nengqondo yokuhlekisa ngokusilela kwawo. Abafazi bakhetha indoda ebenza bahleke.
Ukuba ngumntu kunokuba yingcebiso engaqhelekanga kodwa esebenzayo. Oko kukuthi, indoda ayinakuba ngumatshini ngaphandle kweemvakalelo okanye ukungena kubenzima kakhulu. Ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo kubalulekile ekufundeni ukuba ube nomtsalane njani. Uphando lwase-Australia lukwazile ukubonelela ngolwazi ngala madoda abonisa ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo. Oku kuthetha ukuba loo madoda anexesha elilula lokwamkela iimvakalelo zawo kwaye akwazi ukuthetha ngawo anomtsalane ngakumbi. La madoda ahlala enomtsalane ngakumbi kubafazi.
Ucoceko lomzimba ukuze ufunde ukuba nomtsalane
Ucoceko lomzimba kunye nomfanekiso yinto ebalulekileyo. Ukujoja okuhle kuyacaca, kodwa akwanelanga ukuba awunalo ivumba lomzimba elivusa iimvakalelo ezifihlakeleyo. Ungasebenzisa iziqholo ezinamandla kunye neziyobisi ezenza ukuba ukhangeleke ngakumbi kwaye uzithembile. Ngokwesiqhelo kufuneka uzame ukufumana isiqholo okanye i-cologne ehambelana nobuntu bakho.
Ukuthetha ngomzimba nako kunokuba sisixhobo esihle. Kuya kufuneka ukhathalele ulwimi lomzimba kwaye uthethe ngokucacileyo, ukubonisa ukuba uyazithemba. Ngokubanzi, abantu abazithembileyo abasekela iincoko zabo ulwimi lomzimba lukwafumana inzuzo xa udlala ngothando. Abafazi bakhetha ukuhamba banzi ngokungathi akukho zingalo okanye ukufikelela kwinto ethile. Akufanele uwele iingalo zakho kuba ayisiyonto yokubonisa kwaye yenze kubonakale ngathi awufuni ukuqala incoko.
Ukuba nethemba nokuzithemba yinxalenye yobuntu bakhe bonke. Kukho abantu abangazithembanga kangako kwaye abanye abangazithembi kangako. Nangona kunjalo, abafazi bahlala bekhetha abo bayazithemba ngakumbi kwaye banethemba nakwiimeko ezinzima. Ukuba unecala lakho elihle kwaye uyalixhobisa kwaye uyaziqhenya ngempumelelo yakho, uya kufumana amanqaku amaninzi.
Esinye sezigqibo ezithatyathwe kwizifundo ezininzi sibonisa ukuba ukuxhasa kunokuba sisixhobo esikhulu sokufunda ukuba nomtsalane. Olunye uphawu oluthandwa kakhulu ngamadoda nabafazi kulwalamano oluhlala ixesha elide kukuba ubonakalisa ubumbano nabantu.
Impahla inokuba nemeko. Iimpahla ezibomvu zinokubonakala ngakumbi nangona zingaphumelelanga ngokupheleleyo. Kungenxa yokuba ukuthanda kowasetyhini ngamnye kunokwahluka. Ukuba unesilo-qabane unokuba nento oyenzileyo. Kwaye lolunye lweempawu uninzi lwabantu olubonwa njengolungenangqondo bubukho bezilwanyana zasekhaya ebomini bakho. Banokuvelisa okona kulungileyo kuwe, elona cala lakho lethenda kunye nothando ngokwendalo. Onke la manqaku abonisa abantu basetyhini.
Iingcebiso zokugqibela
Oku akuncedi kangako, kodwa kuxhomekeke kumntu onaye kunokuba yinto ebukhali. Omnye wabo uqhuba imidlalo egqithileyo. Imidlalo yomngcipheko ithambekele ekutsaleni abasetyhini kuba beqonda ukuba unokulawula umngcipheko kakuhle. Yonke into icacisiwe kubomi bobuqu.
Ekugqibeleni, bonisa amanxeba akho. Nokuba unesibetho esilevini sakho ukusukela xa wawa kwibhayisikile yakho, ukubalisa ibali ngayo kunye nokusebenzisa ithoni ehlekisayo kunokuba yindlela ebalaseleyo yokuzihleka. Oku kuhlala kusempilweni kulwalamano oluninzi.
Ndiyathemba ukuba ngolu lwazi ungafunda ngakumbi ngendlela onomtsalane ngayo.