Uthando alunamigaqo ibekiweyo, kwaye umtsalane emntwini usenokungaphuli. Unokuziva uthando okanye intabatheko Ngomntu owaziyo ukuba bayakuthanda, nangona kunjalo, banokungakuhoyi ngamanye amaxesha. Ngokuqinisekileyo sele unikezele ngenkqubela phambili yakho kwaye uqaphele imbalelwano ethile, kodwa awukaqiniseki ukuba unikezela kakhulu kwaye ngenxa yoko ufuna eminye imiqondiso emininzi.
Kwesi sahluko, ngendlela yokuhambelana kubudlelwane obunokwenzeka Kunzima ukusombulula, njengoko kukhokelela kukungaziwa okungapheliyo okuya kufuneka kuhlalutywe. Uninzi lwabo uhlobo lomntu luyayanyaniswa kwaye ayibuyiswa kunye nezinye iintlobo zeemeko zangaphandle. Ukusombulula ukungathandabuzeki, apha sikunika izitshixo ezinxulumene nolu hlobo lokungaqiniseki.
Ndiyazi uyandithanda kodwa ngamanye amaxesha uyandihoya
Ngokuqinisekileyo udibene nomntu kwaye kubonakala ngathi umtsalane osondeleyo. Nangona kunjalo, nangona yonke into iqale ngonyawo lwasekunene, ngequbuliso qala ukutshintsha okanye ungakuhoyi. Kuyamangalisa, kutheni ngequbuliso inganxibelelanisi ngakumbi kwaye ihlala ityhala kwaye itsala. Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo uziva ulahlekile kwaye awazi ukuba ujongana njani nale meko kuba umthanda kakhulu loo mntu.
Kukho abantu abafuna ixesha elide ukuze bakwazi ukwenza ubudlelwane ngokusemthethweni kwaye lithetha ixesha nendawo. Unokupapashwa ngakumbi kwaye ungakhathali ngokusesikweni ukuzibophelela kunye nobudlelwane. Nangona kunjalo, kukho abantu abafuna ixesha elingakumbi, abafuna ukuba kunye nawe, ukumamela kwaye bazive into, kodwa bafuna indawo yokuhlala ukuze bacinge.
Awunguye umntu ofanelekileyo
Ngokuqinisekileyo ungumntu eneempawu ezintle kwaye umntu onomdla akafuni ukuphulukana nawe, yiyo loo nto ngokuyinxenye unawe. Ndiyayazi le ngongoma kwaye le ndlela yokujonga izinto ayifanelekanga, kodwa abantu abaninzi bajonge omnye umntu "ongcono" owela ngaphakathi kweempawu zabo. Yiyo loo nto kuya kubakho amaxesha okonwaba kwaye ngamanye amaxesha asuke kuwe. Esi sikhundla sinokuba nesisombululo esinokubakho kwaye sibeke uninzi kwicandelo lakho. Ukuba uyayithanda nyhani, unako usaqhubeka nokudlula kuwe njengomntu, Nqanaba kwaye ube nemincili, kodwa kuphela ukuba ucinga ukuba kufanelekile.
Umntu uneentloni kwaye unokhuseleko oluninzi
Usenokuba ubalekele emntwini oneentloni kwaye ungakhe ulinge uthathe inyathelo lokuqala. Ukungakhuseleki kunokuza naloo mntu uneentloni. Kukho abantu ababonakala ngathi bazithembile kwaye banekratshi kwaye banekratshi. Kodwa siyazi ukuba isenokuchasana, ungangabinayo izixhobo ezaneleyo nezakhono ukuya kubudlelwane bezothando.
Uyoyika ubudlelwane kunye nokwaliwa okunokwenzeka
Ukuba loo mntu uyakuphepha Ndingangazi ukuba ndenze njani konke okusemandleni am. Oko kukwenza unganqabiseki kwaye kusenokwenzeka ukuba kubudlelwane obunzulu uzive ukhatyiwe okanye ukwaliwa kwaye unexesha elihle elibi. Kule meko unokoyika ukwaliwa, Yonke into inokusebenza kakuhle ekuqaleni kwaye yonke into iyaphela xa ukungafumaneki kufunyenwe.
Ubukrelekrele bakho bemvakalelo abukhuliswanga kakhulu
Kukho abantu abangazivezi iimvakalelo zabo ngendlela efanayo neyabanye. Abakwazi ukuhambisa iimvakalelo ezithile Okwangoku okanye abanakho ukulawula indlela yokuzilawula. Inokwenzeka kulomntu umaziyo, zikhona iintsuku ezinokubonakala ngathi ziqhelekile kunye nezinye apho usabela ngaphandle kokuthetha nto nakubani na, kuba ayinakho ukwenza ubudlelwane phakathi koluntu. Mhlawumbi uye wahlala kumhla kwaye ndakushiya umile ngaloo mini kuba ndandingenazo izixhobo eziyimfuneko zokujongana nayo.
Yintoni ekufuneka yenziwe? Ngaba ukhona umntu ekufuneka ethathe indawo?
Ngokubanzi impendulo elula, kuba iziganeko zenzeka ngokuzenzekelayo kwaye Ityala ngalinye lisonjululwa ngokomthamo kunye neemeko nganye. Ukuba yonke into ayithathi sigqibo kwaye awazi ukuba wenzeni, kuya kufuneka uyamkele imida ebekiweyo kwaye indlela yokuzisombulula. Okokuqala kukunyamezela kwaye ukukhathazeka akukukhawulezi okanye kukukhathaze.
Kunzima ukulawula le meko, kuba kukho abantu abathatha ubudlelwane okanye iimvakalelo zothando Njengento eyodwa kwaye ezizodwa. Kuya kufuneka ube nesibindi kwaye thabatha inyathelo lokuqala, ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kufuneka uthathe inyathelo lokuqala. Uqala ukwalathisa ubudlelwane obunokwenzeka ukuze ubone ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kwaye ukuba kuya kufuneka ubuze ukuba ucinga ntoni okanye uziva ntoni, Awulahlekelwa yiyo nantoni na ngokuzama.
Ukuba awuzimisele ukuthatha inyathelo lokuqala, ungalinda ubone ukuba kwenzeka ntoni, Ukuba akukho nto yenzekayo kwaye ixesha lihamba, loo mntu ebengafuni ukuba nawe nanini na. Ngamanye amaxesha xa sihamba kuxa eqala ukubonisa umdla kuba uyazi ukuba ulahlekelwa yinto. Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo le meko inzima, kuba asazi ukuhlalutya imeko xa umntu enganiki mqondiso okanye engenise kakhulu.