Amaqabane ngamanye amaxesha enza uninzi lwezicwangciso kunye. Kwaye kukuba abantu abaninzi bakwazi ukuba namava amatsha ebomini kwaye babelane ngawo nesi sibini kubalulekile. Singazifumana sikwimeko yokuba umntu esithandana naye akazimisele njengoko sizama ukwenza into eyahlukileyo kukuba aphume kubomi bemihla ngemihla. Kuqhelekile ukubona abantu abathi ibango alenzi zicwangciso naye. Ukwenza izicwangciso kunye neqabane lakho kunokuba nzima ngamanye amaxesha.
Ke ngoko, siza kukunika izizathu zokuba kutheni iqabane lakho alizenzi izicwangciso nawe kwaye zeziphi izisombululo ezinokubakho.
Izizathu zokuba kutheni iqabane lakho lingenzi izicwangciso kunye nawe
Into enomdla kukuba ngaphambi kokudibana nomntu, unokuzazi, uqonde izinto ozithandayo, izinto ozithandayo kunye nento ofuna ukuchitha ixesha lakho kuyo. Xa uthandana nomlingane wakho, unokuhamba nayo le nkqubo yokuziqonda. Ukuba udibana naloo mntu kwaye kunzima ukuba uvumelane ngesicwangciso, okanye abanomdla kakhulu ekwenzeni isicwangciso, zibuze ukuba ngaba ziziphumo zobuntu babo nendlela yabo yokuphila, ukuba kungenxa yabanye abantu okanye ngenxa yokuba engaziva ngathi ufuna ukwabelana kakhulu nawe.
Esinye sezizathu eziqhelekileyo kukuba umntu uzimele. Ukuba ungumntu ozimeleyo kakhulu kwaye nisazana, kungcono ukuvavanya ukuba ufuna ukwabelana ngobudlelwane bezothando nomntu ozimeleyo onjalo. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukwazi ukuthetha ngendlela enentlonipho kwaye uzolile, kwaye ukwazi ukufumana indawo ephakathi phakathi kwaba babini. Kubudlelwane neqabane, Ibhalansi kufuneka ifumaneke kwiimeko ezininzi kwaye, kuxhomekeke ekubeni yeyiphi imiba, inzima ngakumbi kunokuba ibonakala.
Kwelinye icala, ukuba iqabane lakho alifuni ukwabelana ngezicwangciso nawe, kuya kufuneka uthethe nzulu malunga nekamva lakho kunye nexesha elizayo njengesibini kunye neemfuno zakho. Akukho xesha liqikelelweyo, akukho nani liphakathi lezicwangciso ezenziwe neqabane lakho, ngamafutshane, imeko nganye iyaziqhelanisa neemfuno zomntu wonke kwaye kuya kufuneka ufumane ukuvumelana kumava aqhelekileyo nawobuqu. Ukuba iqabane lakho alifuni kwenza nantoni na nawe, olo lwalamano alwenzi ngqondo. Ukuba aninakuchitha ixesha elisemgangathweni kunye okanye nabelane ngamava, mhlawumbi kunjalo Ixesha lokujonga nzulu ukuba obu budlelwane buzisele ntoni na ukuba uyafuna nyani ukuqhubeka.
Cebisa izicwangciso
Ukuba isithandwa sakho / intombi yakho ayiphakamisi sicwangciso, unokuzicebisa ngokwakho. Ke uyayibona indlela abasabela ngayo kwiingcebiso zakho. Nangona kunjalo, khumbula ukuba kubudlelwane, omabini amaqela kufuneka enze igalelo. Ngokufanelekileyo, enye okanye bobabini banecebo. Ukuba iqabane lakho linoluvo oluncinci ngokulungiselela isicwangciso, ungayithatha le ndima, ukuba iqabane lakho lithatha enye indima, njengokucwangcisa ukuthenga ngelixa ucwangcisa indawo yokonwaba. Okanye nawuphi na omnye umsebenzi, kodwa soloko ulungelelanisa kwaye uhambe kwinqanaba elifanayo ngaphandle kokuba "umrhuqe".
Ngokwesiqhelo, enye yeempawu eziphambili zesibini kukuqonda ukuthanda kwabo, ukuzonwabisa, njl. Kuxhomekeka kwixesha lakho lasimahla, ukuba unabantwana, kuxhomekeke kwizinto ozithandayo, njl. Ngesi sizathu, kubalulekile ukunika phakathi kwezi zimbini ukufumana ulungelelwano kubudlelwane kwaye wenze omabini amaqela ukuba akhululeke.
Ukuba ukuthanda kwakho kuchasene ngokupheleleyo kwaye kunzima kuwe ukuba uvume kwaye uqale isicwangciso okanye umsebenzi, ungadibanisa wenze isicwangciso esinye okanye ezibini ezithandwa liqabane lakho kunye nezicwangciso ozikhethayo. Ungajonga izicwangciso ozithandayo nobabini kunye / okanye eziphuma kubomi bemihla ngemihla. Imfihlelo yokwenza isicwangciso esitsha kunye neqabane lakho ngokuyintloko kuyilo, ubhetyebhetye, kunye nokuyeka.
Umlingane wam akenzi izicwangciso kunye nam: uyekile ukundithanda?
Nangona ekuqaleni kobudlelwane yonke into intle, ngokuhamba kwexesha umkhwa kunye ne-monotony zithatha ubudlelwane. Ezinye izinto ziqala ukutshintsha. Ngokwesiqhelo izibini ziyabajikeleza, zicwangcise ubomi bazo zihlala zibala komnye umntu. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba kuyenzeka ukuba iqabane lakho lingazenzi izicwangciso kunye nawe, kuya kufuneka uqaphele ukuba isizathu soko kungenxa yokuba eyekile ukukuthanda.
Ayisiyiyo kuphela ukuba ubudlelwane buhlala buhleli, kodwa ixesha elininzi isibini asifumani zimpawu zothando ezizenzekelayo. Imiboniso njengokumanga, ukubamba, ukugona, njl. Ngoku nihlala emakhaya ngokuncamisa kwaye niyamfumana unjani. Ukungabi nalo uthando olufanayo kwiqabane, akafuni ukwenza izicwangciso kunye nawe. Uya kuhlala esithi uxakekile nangona enezinto azenzayo. Unokwenza izizathu zokuba udiniwe, uziva ungaphilanga, nangona iintlungu nokudinwa kuyanyamalala xa izindululo zivela komnye umntu okanye ngaphandle kwenucleus yethu eqhelekileyo.
Ayifakwanga nabantu bakho. Linyathelo lamabini amabini angaphambili. Mhlawumbi ucebisa into yokwenza okwethutyana ibiya kuba sisicwangciso esifanelekileyo kuni nobabini, kodwa ngoku uzama ukukuxelela ukuba uneshedyuli exineneyo kwaye akanakudibana. Ngumqondiso wokuba uzama ukubaleka kubudlelwane. Ukunxibelelana ngokwasemzimbeni kuncitshisiwe kwaye ukudibana okusondeleyo kungaphezulu kokucotha. Kuyinyani ukuba kwizibini zokuqala zigcina isingqisho sesini esingaqhelekanga ngokuqhelekileyo. Kuhlala kusisiphumo siphezulu ekuqaleni. Nangona kunjalo, isuka kwelinye icala liye kwelinye. Ufumanisa ukuba iqabane lakho lijonge kuphela ukuba ulalane kunye nokunye. Uthando, ukuzinikela kunye nobusuku bokuthanda banamalungu eentsuku zabo.
Okokugqibela kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, kuya kufuneka uthathele ingqalelo ukuba ngaba omnye umntu akakhathazwa okanye akazikhathazi ngeengxaki zakho. Enye yeentsika zesi sibini yinkxaso, isondlo kunye nendawo yokuhlala. Ukuba igxalaba lakhe alisafumaneki kuwe kwaye ukhe wazama ukuthoba kancinci oko anako ngenxa yakho, uyekile ukukuthanda.
Ndiyathemba ukuba ngolu lwazi ungafunda ngakumbi malunga nokuba kutheni iqabane lakho lingenzi izicwangciso kunye nawe.