Uloyiko lokuthetha neqabane lakho lusenokubakho. Kuhlala kwenziwa ukuzama ukuguquka kwaye kule meko omnye wabo akavumi ukuba kukho utshintsho oluthile okanye ukholelwa ukuba akukho nto iya kulungiswa. Zama ukwenza ukusabela kwiqabane lakho kuyafana nokuthetha naye ngento ekukhathazayo kwaye ungakhange ube buhlungu.
Ngamanye amaxesha ukucaphuka kwethu kumaqabane ethu kunokusikhathaza, ngakumbi xa bekukho ukugqabhuka ngumsindo, ukukhala, ukulwa ngamazwi angakhange aphumelele. Kufuneka kukhunjulwe ukuba kukho iimeko ezahlukeneyo ezinokungena kuzo Indlela yokuthetha neqabane lakho ngaphandle kokuxabana.
Indlela yokwenza iqabane lakho liphendule?
Xa kukho ukuthembana okukhulu phakathi kwabantu ababini, unxibelelwano ludla ngokuvela kwimeko eqhelekileyo. Ulwimi ludla ngokuba mnandi, lunobubele, lungenamahla-ndinyuka kwaye kusetyenziswe amagama anjengelithi “honey”, “love”, “mhle okanye mhle” njalo njalo. Ingxaki ifumaneka xa olu lwimi alusetyenziswa kwaye sele kurhanelwa ukuba kukho undonakele. Ukungaziva sinxibelelana kwaye siqondwa kunokusenza sizive sibi kakhulu. Kweli nqanaba kufuneka senze sabelane neqabane lethu ukuze i-monotony ingathathi indawo yomkhwa onjalo kwaye ibangele ukuba ubudlelwane bube bubi.
Xa uthumela umyalezo, umntu kufuneka yiba mfutshane kangangoko Qinisekisa ukuba oko ukuthethayo kushwankathelwa kangangoko, kodwa kuyaqondwa. Iincoko ezinde okanye umsindo uqalisa ukudinwa, nabani na ovakalisa iimvakalelo zakhe akanakunikela intetho ende kuba omnye umntu uyakwazi ukuthetha. uzive ulahliwe kwaye uqhawule unxibelelwano. Esona sicombululo kukugcina unxibelelwano oluluqilima, olufutshane ngamazwi obubele.
Iincoko mazibe mihla le ngethoni ethambileyo
Ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukwenza iqabane lakho liphendule kufuneka nikela ingqalelo novelwano. Ukuba isiqhelo kukuvumela nje ukuba iintsuku zidlule, ngoku zinokuba ngamathuba amancinci omdla.
Zama boleka inzala yakho ukubuza belunjani usuku lwakhe, ehleli ecaleni kwakhe engavumeli nto iphazamise incoko. Ukuba kukho impendulo esemthethweni, unokongeza eminye imibuzo ebiza ingqalelo yakho, ehambelana nencoko.
Musa ukuphakamisa ilizwi lakho, kodwa thambile kwaye ucotheisebenza ngcono kakhulu. Ukuphakamisa ithoni yelizwi lakho kusebenza kakubi kakhulu, kuba awunikeli ngqalelo eninzi kwaye kunzima kakhulu ukuba bakuphulaphule. Xa ubani eqalisa ukukhwaza, iingxubusho zisenokuphela ngokukhwazana nengxabano enokuba shushu.
Apha wonke umntu unokuba nezizathu zakhe ngaphandle kokufikelela kwinqanaba eliphakathi. Xa ingxoxo iphela, into eseleyo ngumsindo nembandezelo. Ukuqala ngemigaqo esixoxe ngayo, unokwenza iqabane lakho liphendule.
musa ukusebenzisa amagama "azange", "nakanye" okanye "ngamaxesha onke", kuba amagama amaninzi anokudideka. Siyazi ukuba phantse akunakwenzeka ukutshintsha iinkalo ezithile, ngoko kungcono ukunganyanzeli umntu ukuba atshintshe.
Musa ukuyigxeka indlela ayiyo
Yimpazamo enkulu ukugxeka indlela yakhe, wenze nesicelo sokuba kufuneka utshintshe. Ungaxoxa malunga nokuba banjani kwaye uphumeze imilinganiselo ethile, kodwa awukwazi ukucela umntu ukuba atshintshe, singasathethi ke ngokumtyhola. Njengesiqhelo kwaye oko kusebenza kakuhle kuxa uthetha ngokweemvakalelo zakho
Ngaba iqabane lakho lenza izinto ezikucaphukisayo? Ngokungathandabuzekiyo kukho iindlela ezininzi onokukhetha kuzo, ukuba nomsindo okanye ukuyeke. Alikho icebiso elithembekileyo nelingqalileyo, kuba liya kuxhomekeka kwindlela ezenzeka ngayo nokuba ziyenzeka manqaphanqapha.
Ukuba uyenza ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kulula ukuba woyise umonde wakho kwaye uyibone njengento engamkelekanga. Yinto eqhelekileyo ngokupheleleyo. Njengengcebiso, ukuba ukuhlala nomntu akunakunqotshwa, Kungcono ukulushiya ulwalamano. Ukuze ubani enze isigqibo esinjalo, umele ahlolisise ukuba kukude kangakanani na oko kukunyamezela umsindo, ekubeni kokona kulungileyo ukuzama ukuziva wonwabile.
Buza yonke into eyimfuneko
Ukubuza kuzama ukuya emazantsi, ngoko esi sibini siza kucinga ngokwenene ngaso. Ungayeki ukubuza kwaye nanini na kukho amathandabuzo kungcono ukubonisana nawo nawaphi na amathandabuzo. Ukuba kukukhathaza kakhulu, kufuneka uzame ukuzola imeko kwaye ubonise ukuba umkhathalele.
Soloko ufumana umzuzu wokubuza okanye uthethe ngomzuzu ozolileyo. Nobabini nifanele nizole kwaye nimamkele. Awukwazi ukuthetha emva kwengxabano eshushu, okanye xa isibini singaphumli, xa uqhuba, ngexesha loxinzelelo okanye ukugxila.
Kwenzeka ntoni xa wena iqabane akasabeli? Kunzima ukujamelana nemeko enjalo, kodwa ukuba akukho nto yimbi, eyona ndlela ilungileyo kukwamkela imeko uze uqhubeke. Ukuba ulwalamano aluqhubeki ngenxa yokuba aluzinzile, vuma ukutshintsha ubomi bakho kwaye ufune uncedo lwangaphandle. Kuqala ngokuphila ngendlela efanelekileyo, ukutya okunempilo, ukwenza umthambo kunye nokuphumla ngokwaneleyo. Yimikhwa enceda iimvakalelo zejelo ngcono kakhulu.