Indlela yokuyeka ukucinga ngomntu? Uthando nomsindo zizinto ezinokudityaniswa njengenxalenye yokuthabatheka komntu. I-obsession ayifanele ithathwe njengentsingiselo engalunganga, kuba inokuthetha ukubeka ingqwalasela eninzi emntwini, ukuziva unexhala okanye ingqalelo enyanzelekileyo.
Xa ungakwazi ukususa umntu entloko yakho, nokuba kungenxa yothando, kuya kuthetha ukuba kukho into eyenziwe yasebenza kuwe eye yadala impembelelo enkulu, ubuhlobo bakho naloo mntu buneemvakalelo kwaye umgqala njengomntu obalulekileyo. Kwezinye iimeko kusenokwenzeka ukuba loo mntu ubangela ukubandezeleka, mhlawumbi ngenxa yengxoxo ethile okanye ngenxa yokuba umkhumbula. Okubalulekileyo kukuba ukukwazi ukulawula indlela yokuyeka ukucinga emntwini.
Kutheni ndingayeki ukucinga ngomntu?
Ukungayeki ukucinga ngomntu kuthetha ukuba ubalulekile, ngokuqhelekileyo loo mvakalelo ibizwa ngokuba kukuthanda. Xa loo mntu engaphumi kwiingcamango zakho, mhlawumbi kungenxa yokuba kukho izinto ezingekalungiswa ngokupheleleyo. Kufuneka uhlalutye imeko kwaye uzame ukukhupha iziphumo zento eyenzekayo kwaye kutheni kukuchaphazela kakhulu.
Iindlela esibonisa ngezantsi Zizenzo okanye iingcinga ekufuneka kusetyenzwe kuzoEmva kwayo yonke loo nto, umbono kukuxuba kwaye uxhele yonke into esinayo ukuze siqinisekise ingqondo yethu.
Kutheni sicinga kangaka ngalo mntu? Iingcinga zethu zinokusithatha ixesha elininzi lokuphinda sihlalutye yonke into esenze sakhumbula amaxesha amnandi. Ungavumeli loo nkumbulo ibambe ixesha lakho elixabisekileyo. Yintoni oyifunayo ukuze ukwazi ukucinga ngezinye izinto?
Singafikelela isono sokunikela okungaphezulu koko sikufumeneyo. Okanye ubuncinci, yile nto sicinga ngayo. Kubuhlungu kakhulu ukuba utyale ixesha elininzi emntwini kwaye ubone ukuba akuphathe ngokungakhathali.
Iingcebiso zokuyeka ukucinga ngomntu
Ngumbandela onzulu, kuba ngokweyethu ingqiqo ngokuqinisekileyo asinakukroba Ubunyani bubekwe njani? Ngaphakathi kwaloo aura yempambano kufuneka uzame ukuphuma kuloo ngcinga kwaye ngenxa yoko kufuneka usebenze kwiingcebiso ezithile:
- Musa ukucinga ukuba utshonile, ekubeni ingqondo yakho enengqondo ikwenza uhambe kwixesha elibi. Xa sikwimo enzulu yeemvakalelo Asicingi ngokusengqiqweni. Sikholelwa ukuba yonke into ayinangqiqo, ayilunganga, kodwa kufuneka sizame ukuyiqwalasela njengesaqhwithi esiya kudlula ngenye imini.
- Kufuneka ulawule ingcinga eyongameleyo. Kweli nqanaba kufuneka sihlalutye ukuba yeyiphi ingcinga esilawulayo. Umsindo, usizi, uloyiko, indelelo, umnqweno wokuba kunye naloo mntu kwakhona, ubulolo? Kufuneka uzibuze ukuba yeyiphi imeko ekhokelela kule ngcamango kwaye uzame ukuyinciphisa. Ukuze wenze oku, qwalasela le ngongoma ilandelayo.
- Zama ukungenzi okanye ucinge izinto ezikukhathazayo. Ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukulibala ngaloo mntu, eyona nto ingcono onokuyenza kukulahla yonke into ekukhumbuza ngayo. Iqala ngokususa iinethiwekhi zentlalo kunye nokunxibelelana kwabo, kunye neefoto okanye nayiphi na into oyisebenzisa yonke imihla.
- Hlala uxakekile. Yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuvumela ixesha lidlule kwaye utshaye yonke into. Simele sinikele ingqalelo kwinto esiyithandayo, esinika uyolo, kodwa ngendlela ephilileyo. Unokwenza kwakhona ukuzonwabisa okuncinci, umdlalo, ubhalisele iiklasi ... into ekuzalisayo kwaye igubungele loo mvakalelo imbi. Kuya kufuneka uvumele ixesha lidlule, kuba ixesha liphilisa yonke into ...
- Zibekele usukelo kunye nosukelo olutsha. Le nyani yinxalenye yokugcina ixesha lakho lixakekile ngento eza kukwenza uvele. Unokuphawula uhlobo oluthile lwesithembiso ofuna ukusizalisekisa ngenzuzo yakho, kodwa ngaphandle kokungxama kakhulu. Kufuneka uthathe ixesha olidingayo.
- Funa inkxaso kwintsapho nakubahlobo. Usapho yeyona nkxaso ibalaseleyo, bahlala bekho kuwo nawaphi na amahla-ndinyuka. Nangona ingenguye wonke umntu onayo loo nkxaso, unokuya kwinkampani elungileyo, abahlobo abaxhasa indlela yokulibala ngendlela enempilo, ungondli inzondo.
- Kufuneka uxolele. Le nyaniso ngumzamo omkhulu, kodwa xa ufika kulo mzuzu, inyaniso yokucinga kakhulu ngaloo mntu iqala ukucima. Kuya kufuneka ucamngce kakhulu ngalo mba, uqonde ukuba omnye umntu uneziphene zakhe, naye ukhe wabandezeleka kwaye bakwazile ukugcina ubudlelwane ngeyona nto banokuyenza. Ukuba ufikelela kweli nqanaba kwaye uyayiqonda, ukuxolelwa kuza.
- Phila ngoku. Akuyomfuneko ukuba uphile kwixesha elidlulileyo okanye ugxininise yonke ingqalelo yakho kwikamva. Ukuphila ngoku yeyona mpendulo ilungileyo, phinda wenze yonke into enokwenzeka kwangolo suku lunye, oko kuya kunceda kwinqanaba elikhulu. Enye ingcebiso zama ukucinga ngomnye umntu, siyaqonda ukuba kunzima, kodwa ukutsaleleka komnye umntu kuya kukukhuthaza ngakumbi ukuba uyeke ukucinga ngomnye umntu.