Ukuxelela umntu ukuba 'uyamthanda' inokuba yindlela okanye intetho ethethwa ngolo hlobo. Kodwa kwabanye inokuba yinto entsonkothileyo kuba abayazi indlela yokuvakalisa iimvakalelo zabo ngokuchanekileyo. Kunokuba nzima kuba kukho abantu abangakwaziyo ukunyaniseka yaye oko kunokungakhululeki.
Kwaye ayisiyiyo indlela yokuxelela umntu ukuba uyakuthanda, kodwa ixesha lokubaxelela. Inokuba nzima kubudlelwane bobuhlobo, xa iifom ezazigcinwa zingasekho umdla kwaye ufuna ukuya phambili. Leliphi elona xesha lilungileyo lokuvuma uthando lwakho?
Indlela yokuxelela umntu ukuba uyakuthanda?
Eyona ndlela yokuxelela umntu omthandayo kukuba usebenzisa ukunyaniseka nokwenza oko, ubuso ngobuso. Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo yeyona ndlela iyinyani kwaye yothando ukuyithetha kwaye engayenzi ngokubhala. Sisebenzisa iinethiwekhi zentlalo kakhulu kwaye oko kunokuba yifashoni kunye nesixhobo sokukwazi ukuthetha yonke into. Nokuxelela umntu ukuba uyakuthanda isenokungabi yinyani.
Nangona kusenokungabonakali ngathi, into ebhaliweyo kukuthetha into ngemvakalelo okanye ngaphandle kwemvakalelo, ekubeni amazwi ephethwa ngumoya. Eyona ndlela ingcono njengoko siyibonisile ngokwasemzimbeni nangokunyaniseka lo mzuzu. Ukuba yinto engaqhelekanga, ngokuqinisekileyo xa usenza ngokusesikweni into enjalo, uthetha ngokusuka entliziyweni.
Ngokunyanisekileyo into entle kakhulu ulwaneliseko olukhulu luyadalwa Komnye umntu, kunokuba kungabikho mpendulo ngenxa yokuba bekhubazekile ngumyalezo, kodwa ndiyakuqinisekisa ukuba akuyi kuba yinto ephawulekayo.
Amanyathelo alula ukukuxelela
Kufuneke u yenza into entle engqondweni yakho kwaye uyinkqaye. Umyalezo awuyi kuba ngamazwi alula kuphela, kodwa uya kuhonjiswa ngento entle ngakumbi emele ivisisane.
Ukwenza kubonakale ngathi ngumzuzu ongalibalekiyo kwaye onengqiqo, kufuneka mjonge emehlweni loo mntu kwaye ugcine ukuma okukhululekile, kuba apha sele siqala ukusebenzisa umyalezo ongekho ngomlomo. Akukho xesha ujika ubuso bakho okanye uwele iingalo zakho, kunokubonakala kuyinyaniso. Ukuba unokuzithemba okwaneleyo kunye naloo mntu, unokubaxelela ngokusondeleyo kakhulu, kunye nentshukumo encinci ye bamba naliphi na ilungu lomzimba wakho.
Kuphephe ukusebenzisa ezinye iindidi zamabinzana okanye amagama buyisela umxholo, umyalezo unokubonakala uhlekisa komnye umntu. Ngalo lonke ixesha kufuneka ujule kwimvakalelo namandla zisasazwe ngendlela eyodwa.
Ungasebenzisi idabi elikhulu lamagama kananjalo okanye incoko yababini enkulu ukuya kwikiti yemibuzo. Kungcono ukusebenzisa amagama achanekileyo, ngendlela eshwankathelweyo kwaye rhoqo yiya ngqo kwindawo. Ukuba uhombisa yonke into ofuna ukuyithetha, unokuphulukana nokuthembeka kwento ofuna ukuyidlulisela endleleni.
Indlela yokuxelela umntu omthandayo ngomyalezo
Unokuhlala ubuza ngendlela yakho kunye nendlela oziphatha ngayo xa udibene nomntu okanye ngomyalezo. Ilula kwaye yonke imihla Ihlala iyeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokungalayishi kakhulu imeko, abantu abakhethi mingeni okanye iingxaki.
Akuyomfuneko ukuba uqale ukuxelela umntu omthandayo kunye "I love you" okanye "I love you" kuba unokwenza imeko yokukhubazeka kunye nempendulo engalunganga. Kufuneka ngenisa ngamagama amnandi, emojis kunye nayo yonke into ocinga ukuba angayithanda, kwaye ekugqibeleni, yazisa igama elithi "Ndiyakuthanda kakhulu", xa kufuneka uvale ingxoxo.
Usabela njani emva kokuvuma umntu omthandayo
Olu lulwazi olubalulekileyo, kuba lusenokubonakala ngathi ngomnye umntu ongazi ukuba enze njani. Kodwa kule meko indlela umntu afanele asabele ngayo ekhupha umyalezo, kuba usenokuba awuyifumani impendulo efanelekileyo.
Musa ukudana Ukuba omnye umntu ukuphendule nge-negative okanye akanamvakalelo efanayo nawe. Kubalulekile ukugxila kwinto yokuba le nto uyithethileyo ibingeyonkohlakalo, kodwa ibiyinto emangalisayo. Kwakhona, omnye umntu kufuneka uzive unombulelo ukuba umntu ufuna ukwabelana ngeemvakalelo zakhe.
Iimpendulo zakho ezilungileyo Basenokuba "enkosi ngokundiphulaphula", "akukho ngxaki" kwaye ungaze usebenzise ezo zikwenza uzive ungalunganga ngathi "akukho mntu wakha wandithanda" okanye "Bendisazi ukuba le nto inokwenzeka". Musa ukuziva unetyala ngokuvakalisa iimvakalelo zakho, obu buchule buya kukunceda womeleze ubudlelwane bexesha elizayo ngcono kakhulu kwaye ube nentembelo ngakumbi.
Ukuba umntu omthandayo wabelana ngeemvakalelo ezifanayo, kufuneka ube nombulelo kakhulu kwaye bhiyozela loo mzuzu ngokwesitayile yolonwabo kunye nokwaneliseka. Ngoku lixesha lokwabelana ngayo yonke into oyivayo ukuqala kobudlelwane kwaye wonwabe. Ukwenza yonke into ikhule kwaye yomelele kufuneka uyeke yonke into ihambe ngendlela yayo ngaphandle kokunyanzela nantoni na kwaye kancinci.