Isibini asixhomekekanga kuphela ekuthandaneni nasekuchitheni ixesha kunye. Inkxaso phakathi kwabantu bobabini ibalulekile. Nangona kunjalo, baninzi abantu abangayaziyo indlela yokuvuselela amaqabane abo xa bebi. Le nkxaso iyimfuneko ukuze uzive ulungile kwaye ufumane amandla okujongana neengxaki ezivelayo. Ke ngoko, kweli nqaku siza kukuxelela indlela yokuvuselela iqabane lakho.
Ukuba awuyazi indlela yokuvuya liqabane lakho, le yiposti yakho.
Iingxaki zobomi eziqhelekileyo
Gcina ukhumbula ukuba, nangona ubomi njengesibini bunzima, nobethu ubomi bunokuba njalo. Kukho iingxaki zomsebenzi, iingxaki zoqoqosho okanye ezezimali, iindaba ezimbi, ukungqubana kosapho okanye kwabahlobo, ukugcwala kwabantu, ukonakala kweefowuni eziphathwayo, izixhobo zeteknoloji ezinexabiso eliphezulu, njl. Yonke into ayinakwenzeka ingenza iqabane lethu libe nosuku olubi. Kwezi meko isimo esibi, isithukuthezi kunye nohlobo lokudinwa okugqithisileyo okunengqondo ngakumbi kunokwasemzimbeni kuthanda ukuvela.
Kulapho kufuneka sinyamezele kwaye sifunde indlela yokulihlaziya iqabane lakho. Akukho mntu ukhuselekileyo kwiingxaki zobomi ezisichaphazela ngendlela engeyiyo. Eyona nto ifanelekileyo kukujongana nabo ngendlela eyakhayo, nangona kukho amaxesha apho ingxaki isoyisayo. Ukuba iqabane lakho likwicala lakho ngolunye lwezo ntsuku olunzima, lunokonwabisa ngakumbi xa ufunda indlela yokuvuya. Siza kunika ezinye zeengcebiso eziphambili zokufunda ukonwaba neqabane lakho.
Iingcebiso zokufunda ukonwaba kwiqabane lakho
Mhlawumbi elona cebiso lixhaphakileyo neliluncedo kukuphulaphula iqabane lakho. Ungayimamela uthe cwaka okanye ukhuthaze ngamabinzana amafutshane. Into ebalulekileyo ayikokunyanzela umntu ukuba axelele iingxaki zakhe, kuba bakhona abangasabeli kakuhle. Ukuthetha ngezinto ezisenza sizive kakubi kunokuba yenye yezona ndlela zonyango zilungileyo zokujongana neengxaki kwaye sizikhulule kwityala elibi. Into elungileyo kukuba uhlale ecaleni kweqabane lakho kwaye ulibuze ukuba lizichaze kwasekuqaleni libonisa umdla.
Kule meko, isini sinokuba sisiyobisi esihle. Ukuba uyazi ngeminye yeminqweno yakhe, ungamothusa ngokuthatha inyathelo lokuqala. Emva kokunceda kakuhle ngesondo, Ukutya kunokuba yindlela esebenzayo yokujongana nexesha elibi. Kungenzeka ukuba ukutya kungaphandle okanye ekhaya. Ungonwabisa iqabane lakho ngokutya okuthandayo. Ukuba isisu sigcwele, intliziyo iyavuya. Ukuba ukutya kulungiselelwe ngezandla zakho, kungcono kakhulu.
Ungalivuyisa njani iqabane lakho xa yoyisiwe
Mxelele ngokuphandle ngalo lonke ixesha ukuba ngumntu okhetheke kakhulu kuwe kwaye umthanda kangakanani. Nokuba ayizisombululi iingxaki zakho, ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo uya kuziva ungcono xa usazi ukuba unenkxaso ecaleni kwakho. Ngamanye amaxesha, xa umntu edinwe yingxaki ekhethekileyo okanye imeko, awunamfanekiso upheleleyo wale meko. Unokuwuhlalutya umxholo wayo yonke into eyenzekayo kwaye uchaze kakuhle ukuba zeziphi izibonelelo kunye nezinto ezingalunganga. Umzekelo, baninzi abantu abathi amabinzana athi "yonke into ihamba kakubi", "Andinamsebenzi" okanye "Andinandlela yakuphuma". Ngeli xesha unokwenza ukuba abone ukuba yonke into ilungile kwaye uzakuphila. Inyani yokuba ndinawe apha ecaleni kwam ithetha ukuba phakathi kwabo bobabini, banokufumana isisombululo ngalo mzuzu.
Xa sithetha ngokubeka ingxaki kwimeko, asithethi ngokunciphisa ingxaki okanye ukuyikhupha. Amanye amabinzana asetyenzisiweyo anje ngokuba "uyabaxa" okanye "mayingabi njengokuba usitsho" anokukhokelela kwingxoxo ethile, xa uzama ukulungisa izinto. Ngapha koko, ngamanye amaxesha sinokuba nenxalenye embi yengxaki esingakhange sibandakanyeke kuyo. Masenze umzekelo woku: iqabane lethu libe nosuku olubi emsebenzini kwaye lunoxinzelelo. Mhlawumbi, ukuba awunawo umonde omninzi, masigqibe ukuhlawulela usuku lwakho olubi. Nangona ingalunganga, le meko yenzeka rhoqo.
Kufuneka kuthathelwe ingqalelo ukuba umntu ngamnye uyayiqonda imeko ngendlela eyodwa kwaye ayinike ukubaluleka okuthile esinokuthi singabinako ukuyinika yona. Ungayichazanga yonke lonto, kodwa ujolise kwiimvakalelo zakhe kwaye umxhase ngalo lonke ixesha.
Ukuthandwa njengelona chiza lilungileyo
Xa umntu embi, Uthando lolona nyango luphambili kumaxesha amabi. Ukwanga, ukugonwa, ii-caress, ii-hug, njl. Ziyindlela elungileyo yokunceda umntu ukuba ajongane neemeko ezimbi. Isitshixo soku koku ayikukuxinana. Oko kukuthi, kuya kufuneka uhloniphe amaxesha akhe kunye nesitayile sakhe ukuze anganyanzelwa. Unokunikezela ngokuya kuphunga ikofu okanye uhambe uhambo. Isenokuba yindlela elungileyo yokujongana nexesha elibi. Ukuba nabanye abantu kunye nokuphefumla umoya omtsha kunokukwenza ubone izinto ngakumbi kwaye uphucule imeko yakho. Nabani na uziva ebhetele xa engenamalolo.
Ungamkhuthaza ukuba azilolonge kunye. Ukuzilolonga kuvelisa ukukhutshwa kwee-endorphins eziphucula imeko yakho. Nokuba izakuya umthambo kangangesiqingatha seyure unokuba nefuthe elibonakalayo kwiimvakalelo zakho
Olunye ukhetho kukuphuma kwenye indawo okanye ubukele imovie ehlekisayo. Banokucwangcisa ukuphuma okwahlukileyo ngeempelaveki. Umahluko woku kuphuma kukumothusa ngokuhlwa ubukele imovie ayithandayo yobuntwana okanye yokufikisa. Oku kunokuba yinto enomdla njengoko kunokubangela iimvakalelo ezinomdla ezinceda ukwenza ezangoku ukuba zonwabe.
Kukho abantu abakhetha ukuba bodwa ukuze bajongane nale meko imbi. Nangona kusengqiqweni ukuba ufuna ukwenza konke okusemandleni akho ukukwazi ukukhuthaza iqabane lakho, eyona nto unokuyenza kukuqonda ukuba ufuna ukuba yedwa kwaye umnike ixesha. Ukuba yeyona nto ayifunayo ngokwenene, kungcono umnike yona. Kufuneka ungaze umnyanzele ukuba enze into, kungenjalo unokwenza izinto zibe mbi ngakumbi.
Ndiyathemba ukuba ngolu lwazi unokufunda iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokuvuselela iqabane lakho.