Amehlo ayinxalenye yemvakalelo yokubona kwaye awenza abe yindlela yethu yolwimi lomzimba chaza into esiyivayo. Nangona isenokubonakala ingakholeleki, amehlo ethu abonisa iimpawu ezicacileyo xa sisijongile banokuba nomdla Indlela yokuchonga?
Olu hlobo lweenkangeleko siluchaze ngokweenkcukacha zezinye zezimvo eziqokelelweyo ngenzululwazi. Ukuba ngethamsanqa luhlobo lwenkangeleko ofuna ukuyifumana, ukuba uyayithanda le nkwenkwe okanye intombazana, uyazi ukuba nawe banokuzisebenzisa kubo.
Iimbonakalo zothando, ndingazichonga njani?
Umntu unokuthandana nomnye umntu, ukanti oko kuya kubonakala kwabo ukujonga rhoqo, Uya kukujonga ngqo emehlweni xa ethetha nawe. Kuyinyani ukuba inkanuko ngokwayo ihlala idlala iqhinga, kwaye mhlawumbi ngamanye amaxesha iintloni zisenza sijike ubuso bethu. Kodwa ukuba ubeke ingqalelo, loo mbonakalo ibuya, nokuba ihlazo lithathe imeko, okanye nasiphi na isihloko esithakazelisayo sangaphandle, ekugqibeleni akakwazi ukulahlekelwa yiloo liso ngqo.
Ngaba ukhe waqaphela ukuba nini inkangeleko ihambisa ukukhanya? Ewe, oko kujongwa ngokungathandabuzekiyo, lowo udlulisela umdla, unalo ukukhanya, amandla, xa abafundi behla. Ewe, yinkangeleko enjalo ebonakala inikezela xa umntu ethanda ngentliziyo.
Zeziphi ezinye iintlobo zenkangeleko ezikhoyo?
Kukho ezinye iintlobo zenkangeleko ezinokucacisa ezo amaxesha omdla okanye umdla. Sihlalutya ukuba kunjani xa ujonge kwicala, xa linzulu okanye xa ujonge kude.
- Phakathi kolunye uhlobo lwencoko unokubona xa loo mbonakalo ifuna ukubonisa loo mzuzu: Ukuba amehlo akho aya ngasekunene kungenxa yokuba ecinga into ethile okanye exoka.
- Si amehlo abheke phezulu xa ethetha, kungenxa yokuba uzama ukukhumbula into ethile okanye anikele ingqalelo koko bakuthethayo.
- Xa loo mbono ijonge phantsi Kuxa uzama ukusondela ngakumbi kwiimvakalelo zangaphakathi, uphinde wenze ezo mvakalelo kwaye wenze kubonakale ngathi uyavuya okanye uchulumancile ngobukho bakho. Jonga ukuba ibuyela emva beka umfanekiso ngaphambili kwaye ujonge kuwe kuba kulapho akaphoswa nanye inkcukacha ngawe kwaye ufuna ukukuphulaphula.
- Ukuba loo mntu unayo amehlo avaliweyo, kungenxa yokuba kusenokubangela ukuba acatshukiswe yinto okanye umntu, unokucaphuka. Ukuba idanyaza rhoqo kwaye akalijongi kakuhle iliso lakhe, kusenokwenzeka ukuba akaphumli okanye kukho into ayifihlayo, nangona kukho iimeko apho unokuqhwanyaza kakhulu kuba ezama ukuzifihla ukuba usemathandweni.
inkangeleko ephathekayo
Kufuneka uhlalutye ezinye iintlobo zezandla ukuze ukwazi ukutolika loo mbonakalo. Ukuba uyakujonga kwaye uyancumaJonga uhlobo loncumo analo. Ukuba izidlele ziphakama kwaye iikona zamehlo akhe zishwabene, kungenxa yokuba loo mntu uyachulumanca bubukho bakho neemvakalelo zakhe ziyinyaniso.
Kukho iinkcukacha ezingakumbi, umzekelo, xa loo mntu ukujonge phantsi naphezulu kungenxa yokuba ubonisa umdla omkhulu kuwe, uyakuhlalutya kwaye unokuthetha inkangeleko ehlaselayo nengathandekiyo. Nangona kunjalo, xa ngokuqhubekayo ukujonge emehlweni kwaye kubonakala ngathi uyakongamela kuxa loo mntu ezithembile kakhulu, usoloko enesiqu esiphezulu.
Xa ufuna ukuqala uthando
Ewe kunjalo ukujonga kugqobhoza kwaye kuhlawuliswe ngokhuseleko, kuxa sisuka kwelinye icala sinokujonga indlela anomdla ngayo loo mntu. Kuxa siza kubonisa ukuba luhlobo luni lwenkangeleko esiyitolikayo kuba ngenene siyawathanda loo mandla kunye nokomelela.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba umntu akakwazi ukujonga, kodwa uyenza ngokugqabhuka, okwethutyana okanye amaqhezu omzuzwana. Ukuba inkangeleko yakho ayiphumli, kodwa inokuphazamisa ngandlel’ ithile, ujonge ngaphezu komzuzwana emva koko afuduke, kungenxa yokuba kukho uhlobo oluthile lwemvakalelo yothando.
Si ukujonge nje kancinci kunomzuzwana uze ujonge kude, uwedwa kusenokuthetha ukuba unomdla. Nangona kunjalo, jonga kakuhle ukuba olo ncumo luhle luhamba naye, kuba luya kuthetha into enomdla ngakumbi.
Xa ufuna ukuncwasa ngamehlo
Ukuba eyakho iyakuhenda, imbonakalo inako siphucule eso sipho usifihlileyo. Sukuphulukana neenkcukacha ekuhendweni kwakho kwaye soloko uzama ukujonga xa uthetha naloo mntu umthandayo.
Kodwa yenze ukhululekile, akubonakali ngathi uyahlasela indawo yakho okanye ufuna ukukukhathaza. Ungajonga kwakhona ngokulangazelela kwaye emva koko ujonge kude amaqhezu omzuzwana.
ukuba uyindoda zama ukungajongi amabele omfazi, awuyithandi loo nto. Ukuba ufuna ukujonga, yenze ngobulumko kwaye uzame ukuthetha ngakumbi ubuso nobuso kwaye ujonge emehlweni. Nokuba kuzo zombini izini, inkangeleko ecaphukisayo ayimnandanga, oko kunokushiywa xa kukho ukuzithemba ngakumbi.
kunjalo, amandla onxibelelwano phakathi kwabantu kufuneka avele, simele sizame ukwazana ngokobuqu size singavumeli into esimele siyifunde kwabanye ilahleke: ulwimi olungathethwayo.