Iingcebiso zokwazi iqabane lakho kunye nokuphucula ubudlelwane obusondeleyo

isilondolozo

Namhlanje baninzi abantu abachasene nomba wothando njengothando njengokuba lwalunjalo kumaxesha amandulo. Akukho nto ngaphandle kokubonisa utshintsho lweparadigm eluntwini nakubudlelwane bezesondo. Nangona yonke le paradigm itshintshile kwaye isondo sinokufumaneka kuye wonke umntu, uhlala usenza ngokukhusela. Ke ngoko kubalulekile ukusebenzisa ukubola kwaye ukhethe eyona ilungele wena ukuba ubelane ngesondo.

Kweli nqaku siza kukuxelela ngokubaluleka kweekhondom kunye nemidlalo yesondo namhlanje.

Ukuthandana namhlanje

abathandanayo

Uthando kula maxesha lutshintshile. Sikwixesha apho kukho utshintsho oluninzi kunye neemfuno zombini kwinqanaba lesini kunye nentlalontle. Umzekelo kukuba ngalo lonke ixesha sikhona ukubuza ngakumbi indlela yokuqonda ubudlelwane besibini. Ngoku ayisafani nakuqala, kodwa sine-polyamory apho umntu ngamnye azive ekhululekile ukuba aphile ubudlelwane babo ngaphandle kokuwela kubandlululo lwabanye. Siyiqhelile into yokuba ubudlelwane bungu-monogamous apho kukho abantu ababini kuphela.

Nangona kunjalo, xa kufikwa eluthandweni, ukubaluleka kokuzithanda kubekwa phambili ngaphezulu kombono wokuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo komnye umntu. Ngokufanelekileyo, awunokonwaba ngokuxhomekeka ekubeni uhlala nomnye umntu okanye hayi. Kuya kufuneka wonwabe ngokwakho ngaphandle kokufuna mntu. Uthando kufuneka lube ngamava atyebisayo kwaye asempilweni azisa amanqaku amahle ebomini bakho. Kuya kufuneka ibonise amaxabiso abelwana ngawo njengokuhloniphana nokunxibelelana.

Ukuba sifuna ukuba nosuku oluhle kakhulu nomntu, kufuneka sikhumbule ukuba umntu ngamnye wahlukile. Umntu ngamnye kufuneka akhe ikhowudi yakhe kwaye afumane into esiyithandayo kwaye sonwabe. Zininzi izinto zokudlala ezenzelwe ukukhuthaza isenzo sesondo. Zizixhobo ezigqwesileyo zokuzilawula kunye nokuzazi Basinceda ukuba siphonononge ngaphaya kwento esele siyazi kwaye siphume kwindawo yethu yokuthuthuzela ngokwesondo. Ngokukodwa, obu budlelwane bungathandekiyo busekiwe kobo budlelwane bokuba kunye bodwa obude.

Nokuba loluphi uhlobo lobudlelwane, kubalulekile ukwazi nokusebenzisa iintlobo ezahlukeneyo ze isilondolozo ezikhoyo.

Ukubaluleka kweekhondom

Ikhondomu yeyona ndlela isetyenziswayo neyona inexabiso eliphantsi yokuthintela ukukhulelwa kwihlabathi. Kukho amawaka eemilo kunye neencasa kwaye iyanceda ukukhusela kuzo zombini izifo ezosulela ngokwabelana ngesondo kunye nokukhulelwa okungafunekiyo. Kubalulekile ukuba ubelane ngesondo ngokukhuselekileyo naye nabani na omfunayo. Kukho iikhondom ezithandwayo zokuzisa isondo ebomini. Kukho iintlobo ngeentlobo zeencasa kubandakanya itshokholethi, istrawberry, iminti, kunye nezinye ezininzi.

Gcina ukhumbula ukuba iikhondom azenzelwanga amadoda kuphela, kodwa nezabafazi. Kukho ikhondom ye-vaginas kwaye nangona bengaziwa okwangoku, baninzi abantu abaqala ukuba nephulo. Ikhondom yabasetyhini yityhubhu yeplastiki ethambileyo nesiphelo esivaliweyo. Kwiphepha ngalinye lineringi okanye umda. Iringi ibekwe esiphelweni kwaye ubufazi bufakwe nzulu ngaphezulu komlomo wesibeleko ukugcina ityhubhu ihlala ikwindawo enye. Isangqa esiphelweni esivulekileyo sesona sihlala singaphandle kokuvulwa kwelungu lobufazi.

Nangona kunjalo, baninzi abantu abangadibaniyo ne-latex. Aba bantu banengxaki yeempawu ezithile ukusuka kubomvu kunye namadyungudyungu ukuya empumlweni kunye namehlo anamanzi. Unokuba neempendulo ezichaseneyo kwi-latex kwaye akuthandi. Nangona kunjalo, awunakukhathazeka ngale nto kuba kukho iikhondom ezenziwe ngezinye izinto ngaphandle ayinayo i-latex kodwa i-polyurethane.

 Iithoyi zesondo

iithoyi zesini

Izinto zokudlala zandisa ukuphindaphindeka kweemvakalelo zesini. Ukongeza, ukuzinxibelelanisa nemeko yangoku, iithoyi zezona zinto ziluncedo ekunciphiseni amanqanaba oxinzelelo, zisinceda ukuba silale kwaye siziva sonwabile kwaye sikhululekile. Ngapha koko, ukuphulula amalungu esini (nokuba kuyindlela yethu okanye ngezinto zokudlala) kubangela ukuba ingqondo yethu ikhuphe izinto ezisinika impilo yangokwasemzimbeni, ngokwesondo nangokweemvakalelo: ii-neurotransmitters, Ikhutshwe emva kokonwaba ngokwesondo kunye / okanye i-orgasm, enje nge-serotonin kunye ne-dopamine. Ii-endorphins ezikhutshiweyo zinoxanduva ngokuthe ngqo lokusenza sizive silungile emva kwesondo kwaye sinethemba lokuphinda la mava, nokuba sisodwa okanye njengesibini.

Ukwakhiwa kothando

Isibini esithandanayo

Ukubuyela eluthandweni, enye yeengcebiso ezilungileyo zokuseka ubudlelwane ayikokufuna uthando, kodwa kukwakha. Uthando lufuna umgudu nenkathalo imihla ngemihla. Kananjalo, sihlala sithetha malunga nokuba ungabunyamekela njani ubudlelwane, kodwa silibale ukukhathalela uthando lwethu. Siyazivumela ukuba senze iimpazamo, sizive singalunganga, siqaphele impumelelo yethu kunye nokulunga kunye neqabane lethu.

Ndiyathemba ukuba ngolu lwazi ungafunda ngakumbi malunga nobudlelwane bangoku kunye nokubaluleka kokusebenzisa iikhondom ngesondo elikhuselekileyo.


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