Yimeko entsonkothileyo leyo, kwaye kungamaxesha amaninzi esizifumana sikunye nawo umntu osonwabisayo kwaye unentombi. Asazi ukuba singayibonisa njani imeko enje kwaye kuninzi lweemiboniso zethu siboniswa sithandabuza ukuba umfana onentombi uyakuthanda.
Ngaba unayo intombi kwaye uyakuthanda? Awuqinisekanga ncam, kodwa uyazi loo mfana uyakuthanda ngokwenene. Ukwazi indlela yokuphatha ngokwakho kwaye ufumane zonke ezo mpawu zinokukhupha ngaphandle kokungaqiniseki, apha siza kukushiya ezona zitshixo zibalulekileyo ukuze ukwazi ukuphuma kumathandabuzo.
Iimpawu ezinokubonisa ukuba umntu onentombi uyakuthanda
Indoda inokuba neenkxalabo, ikwazi ukuthatha umtsi kancinci kwaye ayenzi ngenxa yokoyika. Ngaphakathi kuye uneemvakalelo ezifanayo kwaye akabi nabuganga bokuxelela umntu ukuba uyathanda kwaye zama ukuyifihla. Ukucacisa zonke ezi ngxaki, siya kuzikhawulela ekuqwalaseleni ulwimi lomzimba wabo:
Uhleli nentombi yakhe kwaye akayeki ukuzibeka ecaleni kwam
Uyaphuma neqela labahlobo kwaye uhamba nentombi yakhe, nangona kunjalo konke akwenzayo kukujonga nje kwaye izimbo zakhe zomzimba ziyamnika. Umzimba wakhe ujolise kuwe kwaye ungawubona ezandleni nasemilenzeni, kulungile bahlala bekujongile.
Zama ukuhlala usecaleni kwakho
Ukuba loo mntu utsala umdla kuwe, baya kujonga iwaka leendlela kukusondela kuwe okanye ukukubona. Ngaba uziva ukuba kuzo zonke iintlanganiso zobuhlobo uhlala ukhona? Ngaba udibana nobuninzi beendawo ezahlukeneyo? Mhlawumbi ayenzeki ngamabona-ndenzile, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo Ndikhangela indlela yokukufumana kwaye uyavuma.
Xa uthetha, uthetha nawe kwaye ujongeka ngokwahlukileyo
Ngokuqinisekileyo ufuna ukuba nexesha elingakumbi lokuba kunye nawe. Iya kujonga nasiphi na isingxengxezo ukuze sikwazi ukuhambelana kwaye xa uncokola ubonakalisa ukuthambekela komzimba wakhe kwelakho, umile okanye uhleli. Ukhe waqaphela uba naye uyablus xa uthetha? Okanye yintoni ujonga imilebe namehlo akho, Okanye ngaba uyayazi yonke into oyenzayo? Ke yile nto yokuba eziva enomdla kakhulu.
Ikuxelela ngezinto ezisenyongweni kwaye ikuthelekise nentombi yayo
Kuzo zonke iintlanganiso zakho kuya kuhlala kukho amaxesha okuhleka kwaye akubalisele amabali amnandi, kodwa mhlawumbi uya kuhamba phambili kwaye uyakuxelela izinto ezisenyongweni. Mhlawumbi unomdla omkhulu kwindlela onokuyamkela ngayo, okanye anokuba nokusilela kwiqabane lakhe kwaye angalimameli, yiyo loo nto Uqinisekile ukuba uza kwenjenjalo.
Uya kuqaphela ukuba kwintlanganiso nganye Ndifuna ukukuxelela into ayenzileyo emini okanye unjani kwiintsuku ezidlulileyo. Nokuba uninzi lweencoko ziya kuba nethemba kangangokuba uya kukuxelela ukusondela angakuthandiyo nentombi yakhe kwaye uya kuba nobuganga bokukuthelekisa naye.
Xa esentlungwini uyakubiza
Kuqhelekile ukuba umntu lowo eze kuwe xa uhamba ngomzuzu wokubandezeleka, kodwa kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba uyenze neqabane lakho. Ngendlela efanayo inokwenzeka xa uxabana neqabane lakho, uya kufuna ukuza ezingalweni zakho xa ekuloo meko.
Ngaba uziva ngathi uyikhosi yesibini? Okanye ngaba uyathandwa kuba bekuthemba? Mhlawumbi utsaleleke kakhulu kulowo mntu ukuba ungaboni iinjongo ezimbi okanye ezo Ndiyabona ithuba kunye nawe. Ukuba uza kuwe xa eneengxaki neqabane lakhe kungenxa yokuba utsalelekile kuwe kwaye ufuna ukuba nenkampani yakho, jonga ukuba uyagqitha na kwaye uyathanda ukubona ukuba ingaphakathi lakho linjani. Kukho amadoda afuna ukuvavanya amanzi ukuze abone ukuba banethuba elahlukileyo lokuphelisa ubudlelwane babo bangoku.
Lumka ukuba uyabakhohlisa bonke abantu basetyhini
Ukuba ucacile malunga nendlela avakalelwa ngayo ngawe kwaye uyakwazi ukuyibuyisela, mhlawumbi kuya kuba ngcono ukuzibuza uthotho lwamathandabuzo. Kuyimfuneko ukuhlalutya nzulu ukuba le ndoda Andenzi ngokufanayo nabanye abafazi kwaye into ayithandayo kukudlala ngothando nomntu wonke. Kule meko kufuneka ube nomonde kwaye jonga kuzo zonke iinkcukacha, Zininzi izinto ozithandayo kwaye ungakhukuliseki.
Ukuba ucacile malunga neenjongo zakho kuba unamathandabuzo, khumbula ukuba kunjalo Ngena phakathi kuthethathethwano, mhlawumbi kuya kufuneka wazi ngokunzulu ukuba zithini iinjongo zakhe. Kuya kufuneka uvavanye ngokunzulu ukuba zithini iinjongo zakho kwaye ukuba ungathandabuzeki, eyona ilungileyo ulibale ngokugcina ubudlelwane obunobunzima.
Ukuziva into yomntu kuyinto eqhelekileyo, kodwa azikho ezinye iimpawu kwaye ngumtsalane wesini kuphela, ke ayikho enye into onokuyizama. Khawufane ucinge ukuba lo mntu wayekunye nawe Uya kuqaphela abanye abantu basetyhini. Ukuba bubuntu bakhe ngenene, ngekhe abe yindoda yakho efanelekileyo.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba kukho into otyumkileyo kuyo kwaye awungekhe uyeke ukucinga omnye komnye, kuya kufuneka zama ukonwaba kwaye uvavanye ukuba ubudlelwane bokwenene bunganjani. Eyona nto intle kunayo yonke kwaye ujongene nobungqina obuninzi, ngu buza uthethe ngeemvakalelo nganye. Ukuba uye wakuphawula nyani, kungenxa yokuba uye waqonda ukuba ubudlelwane bakhe bangoku eli ayiloxesha lakhe elifanelekileyo.