Ngokuqinisekileyo wakhe weva ukuba "amehlo sisipili somphefumlo" kwaye kungenxa yokuba kukho izizathu ezininzi kuwo. Ngokuqhelekileyo Amehlo ziindlela zonxibelelwano phakathi kwazo zonke izinto eziphilayo kwaye mhlawumbi kungenxa yokuba kukho into enomlingo ngazo. Xa umntu ejonga komnye kungenxa yokuba ufuna ukukhangela umphefumlo womnye umntu kwaye emfazini kungathetha okungakumbi, ngakumbi xa ujonge emehlweni akho.
Ukuba ufumene laa mfazi uyamthanda kwaye mhlawumbi Ndihlala ndikukhangela ngamehlo, Kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba iinjongo ezikuwe zilungile. Eyona nto intle kakhulu kukuhambelana nembonakalo kunye noncumo, ubuncinci buhambelana nomzimba omnandi. Kodwa ukuba ufuna ukwazi ukuba ingcaciso nganye inokuthetha ntoni, naka ingqalelo.
Kuthetha ukuthini xa umntu obhinqileyo ejonge emehlweni akho?
Xa umntu obhinqileyo ejonge emehlweni akho, kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba ayisiyonto elula. Njengamadoda le yokuziphatha yenza imvakalelo ethembekileyo kunye nokusondela, Luphi uphawu olucacileyo lokuba kukho umtsalane.
Abantu banokutsala, kodwa hayi ngothando, kwaye inokuba ngumqondiso wokuba banikela ingqalelo ethembekileyo kuloo mntu ukuze angalahleki zinkcukacha. Xa umfazi ebambe amehlo akhe ixesha elide, ngokuqinisekileyo ubonakalisa into engaphezulu kwenjongo yakhe, kwaye ngumtsalane wabo.
Nabani na ojonga umntu utyhila ukuba bangabo uqiniseke kakhulu ngaye kwaye kwiimeko ezininzi ihlala inyanisekile kakhulu. Kwenzeka ntoni xa naye ekuncumela? Yeyiphi ngokungathandabuzekiyo kuba uyakuthanda kwaye ifuna ukuseka uxhulumaniso nawe.
Ukuba ngencoko yakho kukho okungaphezulu kokumanyana, kuninzi ukuthembana, ukunyaniseka kwaye ngaphezulu koku uyachukumelana, ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo umtsalane phakathi kwezi zimbini ngaphezulu kokunikwa. Inkangeleko inento yokwenza nodidi lobuntu, kodwa ukuba ufumana umfazi oneentloni ojonge kakhulu kwaye ngaphezulu kunesiqhelo, kuyacaca ukuba inokulungiswa okuninzi kuwe.
Ujonge kuwe, akubukele kwaye achukumise iinwele zakhe
Uphakathi kwencoko kwaye ujonge kakhulu. Ukuba loo ntombazana ujonge kuwe, ancume kwaye adlale ngeenwele zakhe zizimpawu ezicacileyo zokuba uyakuthanda. Uyakuthanda ukuchukumisa iinwele zakhe kwaye uyenza icace gca, kwakhona esinye isibonakaliso kukuba uzitsalela ecaleni iinwele zakhe ukuvumela intamo yakho ibonise.
Umfazi onomdla uhlala encumile, edlala ngothando, ejonge kuwe, unomdla wokuhlala kufutshane kwaye hlasela indawo yakho. Jonga ukuba ngeli xesha libonisa onke amakhubalo alo kunye wenze amalungiselelo okuqeshwa, ngokungathandabuzekiyo iya kuhlala izele lulonwabo.
Jonga ukuba isimo sakhe sengqondo siyatshintsha na xa ukunye nabantu
Kukho abafazi ababonisa umdla emadodeni ukufuna amandla akho. Ukuba umceli mngeni ngamehlo akhe, kungenxa yokuba ujonge ukuba womelele kangakanani kwaye fumana ukuba unayo isimilo. Uya kukucela umngeni ngamehlo akhe ukuba azi ukuba uyafuna ukuthetha naye.
Abasetyhini bangabaxhasi abathembekileyoBenza ngokwahlukileyo xa bekunye nomntu abamthandayo. Kukho abantu ababhinqileyo abanokuthintelwa okanye baphume ngakumbi ekufumaneni ingqalelo. Jonga kakuhle ulwimi lomzimba kuba ungafumana umntu obhinqileyo onengqondo kwaye angafuni ukwenza ukuba iinjongo zakhe zicace.
Kuthetha ukuthini xa uphepha ukujonga kwakhe?
Kule meko sithetha ngamantombazana aphepha ukujonga, kanye ngokuchasene noko kulindelweyo. Ukuba akafuni kujonga kuwe, oko kuthetha ukungonwabi, iintloni, uloyiko okanye uloyiko. Kwezinye iimeko bade babe ngabantu abangathembekanga kakhulu okanye abangathembekanga kukho into abayifihlayo.
Uziphatha njani xa umntu obhinqileyo ekujongile
Ukuba awuchazwanga kuba ubanjwe ungakhange uqaphele kufuneka uphendule olunye ukujonga noncumo. Amehlo akho kufuneka athengise uvuyo kwaye yenye indlela yokugcina impendulo leyo Ngaba uyafuna ukwazi ukuba kukho umdla wokwenene? Ukwenza oku, unokuzama ukubamba amehlo akho okwesibini okanye ezimbini ukuze ubone ukuba unomdla kangakanani.
Ukuba uphendula ngenkangeleko efanayo, lumka ukuba ungayigcini ixesha elide, kuba indlela oyenzayo inokubangela ukungonwabi komnye umntu. Kuya kufuneka ugcine ulungiso olukhuselekileyo, ngaphandle kokuba usisidenge okanye umntwana ongekakhulelwa.
Ukuqukumbela kufuneka sitsho ukuba ukuba loo ntombazana tunomdla uya kukujonga, nangendlela eyoyikisayo. Xa ekujonga amaxesha ngamaxesha kuya kufuneka ulinde inzala esezantsi kakhulu kwaye uya kufuna nje ubuhlobo obulula. Kodwa ukuba ujonga kuwe, kufuneka ubeke uluvo lwakho lwesithandathu kwaye ufumanise ukuba luye lwenzeka kakhulu ukungena ngaphakathi kwaye kuyimfihlakalo, Ngokuqinisekileyo uyawisa ukuba kukho umtsalane omkhulu.