Kudziwa momwe mungabweretse mutu wa zokambirana zimapanga zathu chiyanjano. Ndi zinthu zochepa zomwe zimawavulaza monga kukhala chete osamasuka komwe palibe amene akudziwa choti anene. Zimenezi zimaonekera kwambiri tikakhala ndi anthu amene tangokumana nawo kumene.
La manyazi kapena mitsempha nthawi ngati zimenezi akhoza kutisokoneza. Zonsezo zimachitika, kumlingo waukulu kapena wocheperapo, pamene tidziŵika kwa munthu wina ndipo tiyenera kudziŵa mmene tingapambanire mkhalidwewo. Pazonsezi, tikufotokozerani momwe tingapezere mutu wokambirana, koma tisanakupatsani malangizo omwe angakuthandizeni kuti mupambane muzochitika zotere.
Zotsatira
- 1 Dziwonetseni nokha ndikukhalabe otsimikiza
- 2 Yambani ndi nkhani yachiphamaso musanayambe kukambirana
- 3 Onerani zilankhulo za thupi lanu ndikuwonetsa chidwi
- 4 Pewani zomwe zimatchedwa "macheza opha anthu"
- 5 Sangalalani ndi nkhaniyo ndipo yesani kuphunzira
- 6 Malangizo posankha mutu wa zokambirana
- 7 Momwe mungasankhire mutu wokambirana: nthabwala
Dziwonetseni nokha ndikukhalabe otsimikiza
Kupereka moni musanayambe kukambirana
Njira yabwino yothetsera vutoli ndi munthu wina amene mwangokumana naye ndi kukudziwitsani. Zikuwoneka ngati zopanda nzeru, koma ndi njira yabwino. Komanso, tsatirani ndi zina mawu omwe akuwonetsa chidwi ndi olankhula nawo. Mwachitsanzo, funso lokhudza zomwe mumakonda.
Kumbali ina, mukulankhulana kwanu koyamba sungani a maganizo abwino. Zindikirani kuti munthu winayo ndi wamantha ngati inu, ndipo ganizirani pa ulusi wa zokambiranazo. Khalani pansi womasuka kuyankhula ndipo, ngati mwalakwitsa, pemphani chikhululukiro ndipo musachipatse kufunikira. Yesetsani kuchokamo mwachisomo chifukwa izi ngakhale zitha kukhala zoseketsa.
Ngati ndinu mmodzi wa anthu amene amakhumudwa kwambiri mukakumana ndi munthu, lembani njira zopuma zithunzi. Mwachitsanzo, yesani kupuma mozama ndikutulutsa pang'onopang'ono. Chinyengo chophwekachi chidzakuthandizani kumasuka maganizo ndi thupi.
Yambani ndi nkhani yachiphamaso musanayambe kukambirana
anthu awiri akuyankhula
Akatswiri amomwe mungabweretsere mutu wa zokambirana amalangiza kuti muyambe nawo mitu yachiphamaso. Ngakhale mutakonda kukambirana mozama, simukumudziwabe munthuyo ndipo simungagwirizane naye. Zasonyezedwa kuti kuyamba kukambirana ndi nkhani monga nyengo kapena masewera thandizani kuthyola ayezi Pakati pa onse.
Mukadutsa gawo loyamba la zokambiranazo, mudzakhala ndi nthawi pitirirani ku zinthu zofunika kwambiri. Komanso, ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti musaweruze mwankhanza. Monga tangokuuzani kumene, simudziwabe momwe enawo amaganizira ndi malingaliro ena angakhazikitse khoma pakati pa ziwirizi. M’lingaliro limeneli, n’kothandiza kuti mudziwane ndi munthuyo pang’ono musanakambirane nkhani zimene simungagwirizane nazo, monga zandale.
Onerani zilankhulo za thupi lanu ndikuwonetsa chidwi
Kuyankhulana kwa ntchito, kukambirana kwamtundu wina
Pachifukwa chomwechi, muyenera kuyang'ana momwe thupi lanu limayankhulira. Nthawi zina, ndi iye timalankhula zambiri kuposa mawu. Kugwiritsa ntchito bwino chinenerocho kumakulolani kutero sonyezani chidwi ndi amene mumalankhula naye komanso positivity kwa iye. Kumbali ina, ngati muigwiritsa ntchito molakwika, zingawoneke kuti mwatopa ndi kukambirana kwawo. Onetsani kaimidwe kowongoka, kumwetulirani pamene chochitikacho chikuloleza ndi kuyang'anana maso ndi winayo. Mwanjira imeneyi adzaona kuti mukukondweretsedwa ndi zimene akunena.
Momwemonso, zonse zomwe tatchulazi ziyenera kutsagana ndi mafunso okhudza mutu womwe mukukumana nawo kapena zokonda zanu. IYE wosankha ndi mafunso awa chifukwa, motero, mudzapeza a kukambirana momveka bwino komanso kosangalatsa. Ndipo, kuonjezera apo, wokambirana naye adzayamikira kuti mumayamikira zomwe akufotokozerani ndipo mudzatha kutero phunzira china chatsopano.
Izi sizikusemphana ndi inu kutenga nawo mbali muzokambirana. Kuti zokambirana ziyende bwino, Onse awiri ayenera kulowererapo. Ndiko kuti, sikuti kumangomvetsera mwachidwi. Muyeneranso kukhala ndi malingaliro pazomwe akukuuzani. Koma chitani nazo pang'ono, chifukwa simudziwabe momwe wolankhulana naye amaganizira.
M'mawu ena, monga takuuzani, pewani kuweruza mwamwamsanga. Ndipo izi zimagwiranso ntchito popanga lingaliro la munthu amene mukulankhula naye. Nthawi zambiri, manyazi kapena minyewa imapangitsa kuti iziwoneka mosiyana ndi momwe zilili. M'lingaliro limeneli, maonekedwe oyambirira angakhale olakwika. Pa zonsezi, yesetsani kuti musapange lingaliro lokhazikika la munthu ameneyo, mumupatse malire kuti amudziwe bwino.
Pewani zomwe zimatchedwa "macheza opha anthu"
abwenzi angapo akuyankhula
Takhala tikuyembekezera kale zina zomwe tikuuzeni, koma ndizofunikira kwambiri ndipo sizoyipa kuzibwereza. Amene amadziwa kuyambitsa mutu wa zokambirana amalankhula za "opha macheza." Ndi qualifier izi momveka bwino iwo amanena za mavuto omwe angakulepheretseni. Kuwonetsa maganizo a ndale mwamphamvu ndi mmodzi wa akupha awa, komanso kudzudzula anthu ena. Palibe imodzi mwa izi yomwe ili mitu yoyambira kukambirana. Ndipotu, anthu ambiri amawakana m'mawu oyamba awa.
Ngati macheza sakuyenda momwe mungafune, mutha kuchita chinyengo cha funsani wolankhula naye kuti akuthandizeni. Sikuti kuchita izo kwenikweni. Ndikutanthauza, simuyenera kumufunsa zomwe mungakambirane. Ndi wochenjera kwambiri, Umakhala ndi funsani mafunso kuti alankhule. Mwanjira imeneyi, kuwonjezera, munthu amene mumacheza naye adzamva wofunika kwambiri komanso wolumikizidwa ndi inu. Pankhani imeneyi, funso lililonse lingakhale lothandiza. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mumakonda mafilimu kapena magulu oimba omwe amakusangalatsani. Koma inunso mukuganiza bwanji za chochitika china.
Sangalalani ndi nkhaniyo ndipo yesani kuphunzira
Kukambilana pa msonkhano wa abwenzi
Pamodzi ndi zonse zomwe takulangizani, chinsinsi chachikulu cha momwe mungayambitsire zokambirana ndi maganizo abwino. Ndi ichi, tikufuna kukuuzani kuti mumayesetsa kusangalala ndi kukambirana ndi munthu amene akutsagana nanu. Osapanga ziyembekezo zazikulu zomwe zingakukhumudwitseni. Mwachidule, lolani zokambirana ziyende ndikukhala ndi nthawi yabwino.
Ngati mutengera maganizo amenewa, n'zosavuta kuposa kulumikizana ndi interlocutor wanu. Komanso kuti muphunzire kuchokera ku zomwe akukuuzani. Zindikirani kuti aliyense ali ndi kena kake kosangalatsa kunena ndi kuti mukhoza kulemera nazo. Koma, kuti izi zitheke, muyenera kukhala tsegulani ku zomwe akukuuzani. Chifukwa chake, mutha kukhazikitsanso ubale wozama ndi munthuyo.
Malangizo posankha mutu wa zokambirana
macheza wamba
Titakupatsani malangizo amomwe muyenera kukhalira mukamacheza ndi munthu wina, tikufuna kukupatsani malingaliro okhazikika za momwe mungalankhulire ndikukhala wopambana muzochitika zomwe mukukumana nazo.
Choyamba, ndikofunikira kuti sankhani mutuwo molingana ndi wofunsira wanu. Ngati muli ndi mwayi wotero, fufuzani za zomwe amakonda komanso malingaliro awo. Izi zidzakupangitsani kukhala kosavuta kuti mukhale ndi macheza omasuka komanso osangalatsa. Mwachitsanzo, ngati munthu amene mukulankhula nayeyo ndi wokonda mpira, kambiranani naye za nkhaniyi. M’malo mwake, ngati amakonda nkhani za pa TV, muuzeni kuti inunso mumasangalala nazo.
Pankhani ya uphunguwu, ndikofunikanso kuti mudzidziwitse nokha za mutu womwe mukambirane. Mwanjira ina, konzekerani pang'ono. Ngati interlocutor wanu ndi wokonda kukwera ndipo mulibe lingaliro, inu mukhoza kuwoneka wopusa ndipo ndi bwino kuti musabweretse nkhaniyo. Chifukwa chake, mwina fufuzani kapena, makamaka, yang'anani nkhani ina yomwe imakusangalatsani nonse.
Kuphatikiza pa kusankha bwino mutuwo, ndikofunikira kuti ena alankhule. Pali zinthu zochepa zomwe zimakwiyitsa pokambirana monga kulamulidwa ndi munthu m'modzi. Limapereka lingaliro lakuti iye akukambitsirana nkhaniyo ndi kuti awo amene amamumvetsera ali omvetsera chabe. Izi ndizosasangalatsa ndipo nthawi zina zimachitika popanda ife kuzindikira.
Ganizirani kuti kuyankhula kumatanthauza lankhulani anthu awiri kapena kuposerapo. Ngati mmodzi yekha achita ndipo ena amvera, ndi a monologue. Chifukwa chake, ndikofunikira kuti mulole wolumikizana naye alowererepo kuti apereke malingaliro awo komanso kuti zokambirana ziziyenda ndipo mutha kuphunzirapo.
Momwe mungasankhire mutu wokambirana: nthabwala
Sizofanana kubweretsa nkhani yokambirana ndi mnzako kuposa ndi bwenzi longoyerekeza lamtsogolo
Pomaliza, kuti titsirize nkhani yathu yamomwe mungapezere mutu wokambirana, tikupangira malingaliro angapo omwe mungathe tulutsani mitu yankhani yanu. Iyi ndi mitu yosavuta yomwe, nthawi zambiri, aliyense ali ndi chidwi ndikupangitsa kukhala kosavuta kuchita nawo zokambirana.
Mukangokumana ndi munthu winayo, njira yabwino yopezera zinthu zoti mukambirane ndiyo funsani mafunso. Mafunso monga zomwe mumakonda mumachita, ngati muli ndi ziweto kapena zomwe mumakonda zophikira zimatha kutsegulirani magawo ambiri okambilana. Komanso, ngakhale zingaoneke ngati zachidule, mukhoza kumufunsa zimene amachita. Komabe, tikukulangizani kuti mutero Osazama kwambiri pankhani zantchito chifukwa, zikatero, zokambiranazo zitha kukhala zaukadaulo wokambirana ndipo sicholinga chanu.
Komanso, pali angapo nkhani zomwe zimasangalatsa aliyense. Mwachitsanzo, mungatchule nkhani ya maulendo kapena nyimbo. Koma mukhoza kulankhula za nkhani mutu wotsatira pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti komanso kukhala oyambilira ndikubweretsa nkhani zokhudzana ndi anthu kapena wotsogolera mafilimu. Mwanjira ina iliyonse, Isakhale mitu yozama kwambiri. Izi ndi zosangalatsa kwambiri, koma ndi bwino kuzisiya kwa nthawi yayitali kudziwa interlocutor wanu zambiri. Apo ayi, mungalankhule za chinthu chimene chimamukhumudwitsa kapena chimene sanakonzekere.
Pomaliza, takuwonetsani momwe mungabweretse mutu wa zokambirana. Koma kulankhula ndi mnzako watsopano sikulinso chimodzimodzi banja longoyerekeza lamtsogolo. Lamulo lalikulu ndi kukuwonetsani momwe muliri ndipo izo zimayamikiridwa chidwi chanu chenicheni ndi munthu amene mukulankhula naye. Ndi ichi, mudzakhala ndi njira yayitali yoti mupite ndipo nkhani za zokambirana zidzabwera mosavuta. Pitirizani kutsatira malangizowa ndipo mutiuze zomwe mwakumana nazo.
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