Surely sometime in your life you have wanted to be with someone and have sex with him or her and the feeling has been reciprocal. However, either due to external circumstances or having a partner or friends with other intentions, you have not been able to fulfill your wish nor the other person. This is what is called unresolved sexual tension. It is about the desire of both people for the other and that it never happens.
In this article we will explain well what this unresolved sexual tension is and whether it is advisable to resolve it or not. Do you want to know more about it? Keep reading.
What is unresolved sexual tension
The fact of feeling sexual desire for another person does not make you have sexual tension. Anyone may wish to find themselves in bed with another person they find attractive or are attracted to. However, sexual tension occurs when the feeling occurs in both people. In this case, we are talking about the existence of a sexual desire for the other person and that, due to circumstances that are not in everyone's control, cannot be resolved.
When we find ourselves in these situations, it is normal that a thousand and one doubts arise about what we should do. Having another person wanting to have sex with you and you with them but you don't is unsettling and, sometimes, exasperating. How long will you want to have sex with me? It is one of the questions we ask ourselves when we are afraid of losing that attraction for the other person.
Another question that arises and that, probably, more than one has thrown back when making the decision is, what if I break the magic of this attraction by resolving sexual tension? And it is that perhaps the person we are attracted to may not be what we were expecting. On many occasions, the imagination can play tricks. That's when we start to think about all the positions we could do with the other person in bed and how good sex would do with you. However, you may be disappointed when push comes to shove.
How to identify an unresolved sexual tension
Before knowing if we really have an unresolved sexual tension (TSNR), we must know well how to capture the signals that the other person gives us. We remember that this tension can't be solved for whatever reason. That is, this type of tension usually occurs in people with a partner or friends and even co-workers. Even if you have a partner, it is inevitable to look at other people to imagine what it would be like to have sex with them. This does not make you have sexual tension with everyone, but must be something reciprocal.
To be able to identify this fact, you have to know how to capture the signals. The first thing is that, when we see the other person, we feel a tingling in the stomach. It is a feeling similar to the one you have when you are in love. This is the reason why many people confuse feelings and end up fucking it up and ending up with their partner. Once she has consummated that sexual desire, she ends up regretting it because she was not in love, but had a TSNR.
It is normal for our breathing to accelerate when we have that other person around and we even turn red when talking to them. It's normal, in your mind all kinds of obscene imaginations are going on about what you could do to him in bed. But it is possible that what you imagine will never come to pass.
To find out if the other person has the same feeling as you, the signals must be analyzed at the behavioral level. For example, it is possible that you get nervous when being together or do involuntary behaviors such as looking away from each other, touching your hair when you are close or making phrases with double intentions.
What makes a TSNR exist?
Not only are we going to see what makes this sexual tension arise, but we are also going to see what it is that keeps it going. First of all is desire. When we have a desire for someone, it is normal to want to have sex with her. However, we once again emphasize that there are many people who have ended badly with their partners thinking that what they felt for that other person was love and not desire. Things have to be very expensive.
Breaking the "rule." Being the bad guys is sometimes very appetizing. It is wrong to betray a partner's trust and hurt them, but that act of "rebellion" of wanting to know what that person is like in bed leads us to try it and make mistakes.
By having feedback from the other person we want to continue growing that ego of knowing that someone is looking for us. After the stimuli, the "fooling around," the double-intentioned phrases, and that continual mental stimulus, the unresolved sexual tension continues to feed for a long time.
As a curious fact, we can say that the place where there is the most TSNR is at work. This is because people have to show a more serious and responsible face in their job and on many occasions with a uniform and everything. This fact makes them want to transgress the norm and jump all barriers to "prove" what that person would be like outside of their job. That is, the true condition.
Should an unresolved sexual tension be resolved?
You may ask yourself this question over and over again. However, if this TSRN occurs it is because there is some reason why it cannot be resolved. If this reason is because you have a partner, think twice before and put yourself in your partner's place. Think that she is the one doing it to you. Would you like it? Would you tolerate it? It is important to clear your mind and, for this, it is best to masturbate thinking about that person who attracts you so much. Let your imagination fly and finish that TSNR in your mind. This way you won't hurt anyone.
By doing this, you will not break the expectations you have of that person. As we have mentioned before, it is possible that, when push comes to shove, that person will disappoint you in bed and the magic will break. Surely in your imagination you will get more out of the situation.
If on the other hand you want to take the risk of solving it You have to think about whether it affects work, your relationship or your relationship itself.
I hope that with these tips you can recognize your TSNR and choose well what you are going to do.