How to start a conversation, in any situation

How to start a conversation

When it comes to starting a conversation, not anything goes. Perhaps, if you are a shy person, you have been told the opposite, because it is, above all, about breaking the ice. And sometimes it's better to let yourself go and, when you realize it, you'll be talking, and then flow freely. But with this belief they deceived you. Because depending on how you start your conversation, you will give a certain impression. That later, if you screwed up at the beginning, you can fix it, yes, but it will be difficult to achieve it. Do you want to get it right? So that you can do it, we share with you these guidelines and tricks so that you can learn how to start a conversation, in any situation

Previous guidelines to start a conversation

If before starting to speak you assimilate a series of prior guidelines to start your conversation, you will already have come a long way. It's not everything, of course, but it is a great advance that will help you not screw up when you open your mouth (or when you write your message, if the conversation is written).

First of all, don't be afraid

How to start a conversation

We know, after reading our introduction and seeing so many previous guidelines, it is normal that you are getting a little respect for these guidelines and reflections. And, if you were already afraid, it will have increased. Well, from this very moment, fear away! Talking or conversing is not bad and you are perfectly capable of doing it. Get those negative thoughts out of your head, stop anticipating disasters that will never happen or that, if they do happen, you will surely be perfectly capable of getting out of them successfully. 

Because you were born with the ability to speak, remember? You learned to speak from a very young age and then you didn't censor yourself and everything flowed so naturally. Well now it should be the same, just with a little more caution, but nothing too different. 

Everyone can feel uncomfortable in certain situations. You are no stranger to this and you can overcome it simply with a little training, so that you can normalize any possible situation.

Are you afraid of being judged? Let us tell you a secret: we all judge. Sometimes unconsciously we get that internal judge. But neither will blood reach the river through a trial. You speak with self-confidence and conviction of what you want to express. Whoever judges you, let him or her, because he or she will also be judged.

Context is essential

The context of a conversation is essential. Because talking to a girl or a boy at the club is not the same as talking at a work meeting, in an oral presentation or at a family event. Nor will the teacher speak the same in class to his students as the doctor does to his patients. 

It will even depend on what your interlocutor is like and their own context. Are you an open or introverted person? Do you like people to talk to you about you or are you closer? Also, are you at work? Maybe it is your friend and your boss or a superior and talking on the street or in a bar will not be the same as when you are at work. 

You will have to adapt the tone and conversation topics to the specific context in which you and your interlocutor find yourself. 

Master body language

How to start a conversation

To communicate yourself and to understand what your interlocutors are unconsciously communicating to you, body language helps a lot. We invite you to learn body language which will help you start a conversation in any situation and have that conversation successfully. 

It is good to appear relaxed, maintain an open and welcoming attitude, make eye contact and smile sincerely when you talk or when you are facing the other person. 

Try to put your shoulders back to show confidence in yourself. As the other person talks to you, they nod your head to show them that you are listening carefully. 

Starting a conversation right

You want to put everything you have learned into practice and start a conversation correctly. To connect well with your interlocutor, observe from before and throughout the conversation. 

Observe their clothes, their look and their gestures, because this way you will learn details about the person and you will be able to start that conversation naturally. 

The environment also counts

The environment counts and tells you about the person. Because if you are, let's say for example, in a gym, something related to the sporting activity you are doing can be a good initial topic. From the conversations themselves you will obtain clues to direct the conversation towards other areas where you also find common interest or interests. 

Ask open questions, never closed ones

We often make the mistake of asking closed questions. They are those whose answer is enough with a yes or no and give little cause for an extensive conversation. You will hardly be able to start a conversation if the answers you expect are monosyllables. Instead, bet on Open questions.

For example, instead of asking a person if they would like to go to a restaurant, ask them what their favorite food is. 

Well-made compliments never fail

Compliments never fail but, and we wanted to emphasize this, as long as they are compliments “well done.” Because we must also learn about this. Have to be sincere compliments, because the falsehood in our words is noticeable and our expressions give us away when we lie. 

In addition, it is advisable to praise the person's achievements, character traits, and abilities. It is preferable to leave aside physical appearance, issues of politics, culture, sex and religion since they can make people uncomfortable. 

Give your compliments when in the appropriate context and using positive language.

For example, This dessert turned out delicious. You have a very good hand for baking. How have you prepared it?

At all times, be respectful in your words, with your intentions and with each person in the environment, not just with the interlocutor. And also see how the person reacts to your words. If you notice that you made her feel good, you are on the right track. Otherwise, you can apologize and stay calmer, which may also make the person feel better when they see that you felt bad for not seeing them comfortable. 

Such is the essence of how to start a conversation in any situation and may this conversation be successful. 

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